Just Found Out We're Having Triplets

shanparadise

I could really use some encouraging words right now. I just found out we are having triplets after an IUI. All three have strong heartbeats and I'm so grateful but also so f***ing scared. My doctors are in disbelief that all three follicles released eggs that were fertilized. They're throwing selective reduction around and telling me I'll be lucky to make it to 32 weeks. Any words of wisdom to help me stop bawling my eyes out?

noelietrex

Thoughts and prayers to you! I think June BMB has a mom with triplets if you want to reach out to someone going through the same thing. So much luck to you!

MamaBish

Wow! Sending positive thoughts!

lcking82

Take a few days to process.  This is a huge piece of news to hear.  And definitely reach out to some folks---not just here, but there are "Moms of Multiples" groups that meet in person in many towns/cities.  I have a girlfriend that had surprise triplets, and she found her "MoM" group to be super valuable.

Thinking of you, and sending so many positive thoughts your way.

juliagulia38

Well if three kids were all you wanted, you'll only have to go through one pregnancy haven't gone through this but sending positive vibes your way!

lcking82

Also---a doctor cannot predict how far you would go in your pregnancy; it's always an estimate.  Know that it's always okay to talk to more than one medical provider if you're considering selective reduction or any other high-impact decisions.

  

decbaby14

Someone in my April '15 group had triplets...she got to 38 weeks too!

Jodi1980

Sending positive hugs & vibes! Triple the LOVES!!! xo

MsBeachNJ

How exciting! I'm sure its a shock to you right now but what a wonderful blessing!! Fx to you for a healthy pregnancy & 3 healthy babies!! 

ladythrice

Sending positive thoughts!! Congratulations! I have no real advice having never been in this situation but remember to BREATHE and take it one day at a time momma. You can do it!

DobbysSock

Wow! That's a lot to take in! I agree with PP to check out the multiples board to get some perspective and advice. Congratulations on strong heartbeats!

Just know that there is no wrong answer in terms of whether to get selective reduction or not. Don't let your doctor talk you into something you're not comfortable with, but also know that it's okay if that's the choice you make to make this all more manageable and make you feel safer in your pregnancy. Do some research, get a second (or third) opinion, and take time to think about what you really want.

Good luck!

amandajmonceaux

I would keep them all. I know multiples are hard to handle but there is a reason that you were blessed with that task. I have wanted twins for all of my pregnancies but I always have singles. Good luck ma'am and I know you will do fine with them.

jenkeale

Congratulations! Sending you positive vibes for peace and clarity and I'm sure you'll find the support you need.

MotherOfDucks

I know you're scared, but try to pretend it is good news. It'll start to feel like good news. Right now you have 3 healthy babies. And nobody knows the future. And you can always go see an OB who isn't a jerk about it. Some people specialize in multiple births.

I second the advice to talk to other moms of triplets or higher order multiples. I follow a few on IG and they are lovely.

stephweinstein

Congratulations. What a blessing! I would never tell you what to do with your body but there have been so many successful triplet births that it's not even considered a phenomena anymore.  I would assume you'll have plenty of bed rest and perhaps even some hospital time at the end but I don't see why your doctor would encourage selective reduction right now. Do you love this doctor? Have you considered meeting with another?

megth

Wow! First, congratualtions! Second, take some time to figure out what it is YOU want to do. If you want to keep all three, do so. If you would prefer selective reduction, do that. I know I'd be scared too. Find someone you trust to be a good sounding board and help you work through your feelings. You'll know what choice to make, and no matter what it is, it is going to be okay. 

BostonBaby1

Congratulations! I understand that this is a very scary moment for you. I'm really surprised that your doctors didn't mention selective reduction before going ahead with the IUI. Actually, it's even more surprising to me considering the fact that you obviously had three follicles and clearly there is a chance that all three can release eggs and fertilize/implant. If they had that conversation with you before hand, you wouldn't have to make this decision right now. Did they give you the option of canceling the cycle?

In any case, I'm sure that you will make whatever decision is right for you. Sending you so many prayers and all of the best of luck!

PinkLady2015

I'm sure you're feeling a complete mix of emotions from fear to excitement!! Different ball game, but my cousin carried her twins beautifully and even delivered them sans C-sections. Triplets obviously are a different story entirely, but it's been done before. At this point, I would reach out to friends and family because I'm sure they will give you a lot of reassurance and promises to help out! Also, your doctor is probably going to give you a lot of information, some you may be comfortable with and other you will not. Try your best to understand that they have to keep you informed about your options and will probably lean towards keeping you and the babies safe and healthy. Congrats and of course we are all here for support!

m8881

Ahhhh you got this. Whatever happens you can handle it. Hugs!!

CosmoAnne1

First off congratulations! I know right now you are confused, worried and scared. You have been blessed with 3 little ones that have strong heart beats! Don't let the dr make the decision of how many you keep. Many women have gone close to or full term with triplets. Make the decision for you and your DH no one else. If it was me I know I would be so scared but I would keep them. 1 baby is such a blessing and you have 3x the blessings coming your way. Good luck! And once again congratulations I hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy!

Nerdchild

Wow! You are understandably freaking out (who wouldn't be?), but I think after you have had a few days to process the news you will be able to approach things with much joy and a clearer head. I may be alone in saying this (since I haven't read through previous posts), but I think it's perfectly okay to freak out a bit. Whatever decision you decide to make (selective reduction or continuing the pregnancy with all 3) will end up being the right decision for you. I think it is important to have open communication with your doctor so that if anything comes up in the future healthwise, they can help guide you to a decision that is safe for you and babies. If you can and are willing to carry all 3 to term, perfect! If you are facing a health dilemma that makes selective reduction necessary, no one will begrudge you that either (and if they do, show them the door). Ditto if you decide on selective reduction for your own peace of mind. Congratulations either way, and cheers to a happy and healthy pregnancy!

jlgriff11

Congrats from another multiple mom! Not triplets- but twins- and I tell you I will be wishing you all the health and happiness in the world! It's always a lot to take in! Congrats!

Deepoet

Congratulations!! First take a little while to let it all sink in. Talk it out with your partner!
My cousin has triplet girls that just turned 16. They are happy and healthy and were born at 34 weeks! Speak to someone who has triplets. They will hopefully help you make a choice. I wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy no matter what you choose!

dinodna3

Congratulations! I feel you on being scared and overwhelmed. Three babies are such a blessing. I echo what pp's have said. Take some time, let it sink in, talk to your partner. Only you two can decide how you move forward, but for now enjoy hearing your babies heartbeat. Wishing you a healthy and happy pregnancy.

taboullio84

Congratulations !

stillcozy

Congrats hoping you have some peace of mind and some excitement while it is intimidating I am sure you are more than capable!

shanparadise

Thank you so much ladies for your kind words. They got me into a high risk doctor first thing tomorrow, so I'm hoping he will calm some of my fears. Meanwhile my husband is super excited, so I'm trying to focus on that.

quartz02

If it makes you feel better, I'm a little freaked out even as a STM and I've done this before! Huge congratulations to you. You didn't mention a partner... is there one? If so, I'm sure there will be a lot to discuss as a couple. Best wishes to you! You got this!

DominiqueU

My sister had an IUI and found out she was pregnant with triplets. She did a lot of research and she decided (with her husband) that they'd reduce. It's a horrible choice to have to make, but you have to figure out what's best for you.

At her 10 week ultrasound (when they were going to schedule the procedure to reduce) she found out that the third had stopped developing naturally after the 8 week ultrasound. Even though they were planning to reduce, it was still a difficult thing. But now she's 13 weeks along with twins and they couldn't be happier.

Things will work out. Make decisions that are best for your family and don't let anyone talk you into anything.

You're going to be a mom. And that in itself is amazing.

lillebowski23

Wow! Congratulations I'm sure you'll do great at being mom to your 3 little ones!

carrieandr

Congratulations! I love that your husband is super excited. My sister has twins and was part of a Mothers of Multiples group. It really helped. If you want to join, I recommend getting involved while you're still pregnant so they can help you when the babies come -- bringing food or whatever you need. Plus they can give you lots of advice to prepare you. Good luck!!

silvers626

Congratulations! Can't say anything that hasn't been said by PP and I have no personal experience to offer advice but I would definitely say take your time to make your decision and do whatever you and your DH decide feels right for you. No one else has to live your situation but you so make whatever decision you want to live (love) with!

vtulch

Wow that's crazy congratulations!!!! It's really sweet that your husband is excited and I'm sure he'll help you ease in to the idea of having 3 little ones. You'll be a supper Mom and you'll do great Good luck!

xc1148

Congrats!! All I can say is twins are not going to be a walk in the park health-wise either. Talk to someone! Whenever I was scared about something, I remember all I had to go through to get pregnant. Everything is a blessing to me, and that gets me through a lot. You're lucky to have such good news and lucky to have a supportive husband!

adkcat0105

Congrats! I feel you on the shock - we were surprised with twins this pregnancy. My SIL's SIL, who I consider a good friend has triplets from IUI. I believe she made it to the 34 weeks and they only needed a short NICU stay. Good luck and I look forward to following your pregnancy!

BostonBaby1

I'm coming back to recomment on this thread. I really feel like you have some serious questions that you need to ask your reproductive endocrinologist. Why is it that they didn't anticipate that you would release three eggs? They should have an indication as to how many mature eggs are in there by your peak E2 levels. For them to push that number aside seems ridiculous. Also, during your monitoring ultrasounds, they would've had an indication as to how many lead follicles were there. Do you know what that number was? Also, knowing that you had three follicles they should've discussed either canceling the cycle with you or the possibility of selective reduction.

No matter what the outcome, I'm very happy that you have three heartbeats and your IUI was successful. But these procedures don't come free and I would be wanting answers to those questions. Good luck!