I don't want to go to my families Christmas get together. Ever since I was young my Dad's side has always gotten together on Christmas Day. After living in California for three Christmas's I realized I enjoy being at home all day and letting the kids enjoy their new things. I moved home July 2013 and for the past two Christmas's we've bounced between our house, SO's parents, and my family and it is just a lot. We told family last year that we intend to do our own thing this year for the holidays (Thanksgiving included especially with my parents not having anything for thanksgiving last year) and now we're getting guilted because we want to be home for Christmas. My Grandma passed away in April and Grandpa decided this is the last year we get together at the place they've been doing it. My mom just asked me yet again if we are coming and I told her yet again that we don't plan on going anywhere. I then proceeded to explain to her that when we were kids they made their traditions with us and now that I have my own family I feel like I'm not allowed to make my own traditions and I have to do what everyone else does. I don't feel it is fair to our children to have to open their presents and then quick whisk away to see everyone else and them not get to enjoy their things and their day. I could hear her disappointment from that but I feel like I have to be the Mom and explain to everyone that we need to be allowed to make our own decisions.
Sorry this sort of came to a vent but it feels good to get it out
@midge519 I am so glad that my family is laid back. I've got a Christmas one too.
As I stated on our WTF thread, I'm having some issues with my sister in law. We are having Christmas with that side next Saturday. Back when my husband and I were dating and first married, we did Christmas as dinner out individually with his parents because not everyone got along. We have over the last 6 or so years done Christmas together at his parents house with the sisters and his brother when he's in town. As his one sister is causing trouble, I'm wishing we still did dinner out separately. I'd never suggest it because it would hurt too many feelings. I confessed to my husband that I want nothing to do with his sister, I was reminded we won't have to see her till his brother comes in town 1st quarter of 2016, and after that it'll be a while. I don't trust my SIL and instead of looking forward to the togetherness and love, I'm arguing with myself about how I need to be nice for my son's sake. For the record I adore his dad and stepmother, whom we just say is his mom, and I will be nice and behave for their sake.
@millereliz13 I don't blame you for feeling that way! I told my mom today that celebrating on Christmas Eve would be so much easier and better for everyone. Maybe next year my fiancé and I will have our families over for a Christmas celebration so we can do Christmas in our own lol
Re: FFFC 12/11
As I stated on our WTF thread, I'm having some issues with my sister in law. We are having Christmas with that side next Saturday. Back when my husband and I were dating and first married, we did Christmas as dinner out individually with his parents because not everyone got along. We have over the last 6 or so years done Christmas together at his parents house with the sisters and his brother when he's in town. As his one sister is causing trouble, I'm wishing we still did dinner out separately. I'd never suggest it because it would hurt too many feelings. I confessed to my husband that I want nothing to do with his sister, I was reminded we won't have to see her till his brother comes in town 1st quarter of 2016, and after that it'll be a while. I don't trust my SIL and instead of looking forward to the togetherness and love, I'm arguing with myself about how I need to be nice for my son's sake. For the record I adore his dad and stepmother, whom we just say is his mom, and I will be nice and behave for their sake.