Please don't feel bad on my account! Like I said, I appreciate the reminder. It was insensitive of me to blather on about frivolous spending when many people aren't so fortunate. Especially this time of year, finances can be tight and there's so much social pressure about gift-giving, it was kind of thoughtless for me to chatter on like that.
I just saw a thread about "bling" and went "woohoo!! a thread where I can go wild!!" and, well, it's good to be brought back down to earth I guess.
And also I think it is good that you shared some positive and practical thoughts about smaller rings. It isn't a priority for everyone, and that's fine, there's nothing at all wrong with that. Although this forum is mostly women, it's still the case that guys feel huge pressure to spend extravagantly on jewelry -- especially engagement rings (which I know because I'm the friend-of-a-friend who always gets pulled in to consult when a guy in my social circle is about to make that purchase) -- and it's always so important for us all to remember that it's the love that counts, not the rock.
I'm just going to say I think it's just a little bit funny that spending 200 bucks on skivvies seems cray to some peeps while spending thousands on jewelry seems ok. Personally, I'm all for both.
Added note, after having my daughters I found that wearing my nice undergarments was one of the little things that made me feel sexy despite the TOTAL lack of sleep. Really sexed up my jam jams!
Jewlery last a lifetime. Undies, on the other hand, might not make it past your next period.
H proposed Christmas Eve 2012. We had been together 6 years and we had actually set the date and booked the venue a month prior. We were going to make an announcement that we were "finally" getting married and tell everyone we set the date. When we got up he surprised me and dropped to one knee. When I hugged him afterward I almost knocked him over. I absolutely love my rings and get compliments all the time. I would love to get another band- one for each side.
Please don't feel bad on my account! Like I said, I appreciate the reminder. It was insensitive of me to blather on about frivolous spending when many people aren't so fortunate. Especially this time of year, finances can be tight and there's so much social pressure about gift-giving, it was kind of thoughtless for me to chatter on like that.
I just saw a thread about "bling" and went "woohoo!! a thread where I can go wild!!" and, well, it's good to be brought back down to earth I guess.
Hey, I really don't care if that's how you spend your money if you can afford it. I'm actually kinda jealous that you have that kind of disposable incone. I'm not even sure where I'm going to find the $20 needed for my DD's Santa gift.
I joke that our budget is so tight I could bounce a quarter off of it...but it is actually a bit tighter than that right now. Long story that isn't important but short version, I can't wait until my DH starts his new, more hours but more pay job next month. Maybe I can upgrade to nicer underwear than Hanes.
Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012 TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016
Late again! I was waiting to pick up one of rings since I had to have a stone replaced. Top band is aquamarine for DS.
Proposal story is pretty simple. DH wrote me an anagram poem of the alphabet with a word or phrase for each letter. The W was missing. I was supposed to notice and ask "what's W?" And then he was going to say "Will you marry me?"
But of course I didn't notice. So he had to make me read it again!
DH and I had only been dating for nine months but had occasionally discussed marriage and both knew we wanted to marry each other. So one day we were visiting with his mom and brother and I wanted to go to the mall because I had a Victoria's Secret coupon. Next thing I knew he was inviting his mom and brother to the mall with us and I was a little upset because I wasn't going to go to Victoria's Secret with them tagging along. So my MIL was in some store and me, DH and his brother were in another store. My DH wanted to buy something and jokingly I was like you can only get it if I get what I want. My DH looked at me so seriously and was like ok, let's go look at rings. I started laughing and was like I meant Victoria's Secret and he was like well I've been thinking about looking for rings so let's go. I thought he was joking and he told his brother we had to run to another store and brought me to a jewelry store. I was laughing the whole time thinking he was joking as he starts asking the woman to look at rings and started picking them out. I found my ring and loved how sparkly it was. My DH looked at me with so much excitement and love and asked if that was the one I wanted. I still didn't believe he would buy it right then but he did. I was shaking and getting all teary eyed. So we hid the bag so his family wouldn't see.
He didn't want to propose until he asked my dad so a few days later he got his blessing. Then he waited about a week so I would be surprised. My parents were renting a camp right on a lake so we went up on day and we went down to the dock and sat down and just started talking about our future and sitting there surrounded by the mountains and lake he asked me! Even though I knew it was coming it still made me shake and cry
Re: GTKY: Bling!
Edit...woops. it said "knickers" my apologies
I just saw a thread about "bling" and went "woohoo!! a thread where I can go wild!!" and, well, it's good to be brought back down to earth I guess.
And also I think it is good that you shared some positive and practical thoughts about smaller rings. It isn't a priority for everyone, and that's fine, there's nothing at all wrong with that. Although this forum is mostly women, it's still the case that guys feel huge pressure to spend extravagantly on jewelry -- especially engagement rings (which I know because I'm the friend-of-a-friend who always gets pulled in to consult when a guy in my social circle is about to make that purchase) -- and it's always so important for us all to remember that it's the love that counts, not the rock.
Btw I heard you RSVP for NYC meetup!!
I joke that our budget is so tight I could bounce a quarter off of it...but it is actually a bit tighter than that right now. Long story that isn't important but short version, I can't wait until my DH starts his new, more hours but more pay job next month. Maybe I can upgrade to nicer underwear than Hanes.
Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012
TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016
Proposal story is pretty simple. DH wrote me an anagram poem of the alphabet with a word or phrase for each letter. The W was missing. I was supposed to notice and ask "what's W?" And then he was going to say "Will you marry me?"
But of course I didn't notice. So he had to make me read it again!
He didn't want to propose until he asked my dad so a few days later he got his blessing. Then he waited about a week so I would be surprised. My parents were renting a camp right on a lake so we went up on day and we went down to the dock and sat down and just started talking about our future and sitting there surrounded by the mountains and lake he asked me! Even though I knew it was coming it still made me shake and cry