Another CPS Question

briwuvsbri

I suppose that I will just jump right into this post. First and foremost, I have never delt with CPS before. I had my son at age 15 and I was homeless, so I split the custody with his paternal grandmother. Fast forward, I had my daugter at age 21. Her father (my now ex-husband) and I had a very unhealthy relationship. It was toxic on both ends, emotionally and physically. She also has severe autism. I eventually and inevitably had to leave after 4 years of Hell. During the divorce, it was mutually agreed upon that he would have custody of her (he is a wonderful father) and I could have rights to see her every other weekend. Please, keep in mind the severity of her autism. It is impossible for her to be tossed from house-to-house because even a simple car ride causes her a lot of trauma and anxiety. She is non-verbal, cannot feed herself and is violent towards herself/others. The hardest part in all of this is that she no longer remembers who I am, due to not being around her constantly; her memory is poor, but she is such a beautiful and intelligent child. My son and I are extremely close and he comes to stay with me every other weekend; he will be moving in with me next year. Once again, never once has CPS been involved. Should I be concerned about them taking away my unborn baby? Maybe it is just me over thinking.

kynbar5

I think you got some pretty good answers on your last post about this. Also, maybe my memory is going bad but I thought that you said you asked your case worker about this too and they told you unless they had reason you didn't have anything to worry about. I think talking to them is going to be your best bet because no one here can absolutely know all your circumstances and how it will work out for you personally. I do hope it all goes well and everything works out though!

briwuvsbri

Thank you.
Yeah, my last post was mainly regarding my FIL and BIL. You are right, though.

ambercakes92

Disregarding what I remember from your other post, nothing you've written here sounds like a reason for CPS to be involved in your life. I agree with PP that talking to your case worker is going to give you concrete answers and do the most to put your mind at ease/prepare you for reality.

amoulder423

CPS gets involved when there is an allegation of abuse or neglect. I do not see any evidence of either in your post. I wonder if there is more to this story than you have shared in both posts? You seem very worried about CPS...

briwuvsbri

No, there is not more to my story.

I think a lot of the fear also comes from personally being taken away from my mother by CPS as a child. I am 100% honest to both of my MW and SW.

dramaphile

I think in both cases, you did the responsible thing and went through the legal system and arranged custody. Just because you do not have full custody of your other children does not mean CPS would get involved unless there was a report of abuse or neglect of your new baby. You were probably taken away from your mom as a child because of abuse or neglect or drugs or criminal activity, and as long as you are caring for your baby and not doing any of those things, there is no reason for CPS to get involved.

The only way I could see your other two children having an impact is if you were to have a custody dispute with your new baby's father, it could get brought up. Obviously it has been years since either of the situations and you have had time to mature, so it likely wouldn't matter there, either.

colsen4

Unless you test positive for drugs at the birth or are reported for abuse you should not worry. Cps does not get involved unless called or previously involved. Just do your best to provide a safe home for your baby and make sure you have everything you need.