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mrsschmity

It's that time again...flame free friday confessions are upon us.

**Note: Can't guarantee it will be flame free, so make sure you're prepared and have your flame suit on if need be!

Trinirican3ondway

I am a mom who is a proud owner of an Elf on the Shelf...and I think it's cute. Our family elf's name is Ace. Ahhh...the things we do for our children. Last night, Ace got into the leftover Halloween candy. :-P

NicknShan

@trinirican3ondway I had the weirdest dream I named our DS Ace.  I always chuckle at the name now :-)

FFFC. I think I was an alcoholic.  Are you an alcoholic if you have a really hard time still NOT drinking wine?  When I have a stressful day, it honestly gets worse because I can't go home and have a glass of wine.  I have not even had a sip this pregnancy.  

mrsschmity

I had a dream last night. A very odd dream. It was full of girl-on-girl action. The vivid dreams lately have been out of control. The sex dreams can stay, but the lesbian vibe I woke up to was a first. DH thought it was awesome.

gray51015

@NicknShan I'm right there with you, I'm dying for a glass of red wine. We had some friends over last weekend and someone opened a bottle and my mouth literally watered!

I need to think for a little while longer on what my FFFC is this week.

mrsp2213

I did the ring/string over the belly test last night. I've succumbed to old wives tales. Someone save me before I pee on baking soda.

ahernandez16

@NicknShan I. Feel. You. Next week is finals week for me and every night after I've finishing studying or writing a paper all I want is a beer. My birthday is this weekend and I have an office Christmas party and a wedding next weekend and the fact that I can't partake in a cocktail is making me more sad than it probably should.
@mrsschmity I had a weird sex dream a few weeks ago, except I walked in on an old couple in a retirement home getting it on and apparently felt the need to stay and watch. Haha! That one messed me up for a while.

My FFFC: I am really crossing my fingers for a little boy. I've always naturally gelled much better with boys/men in general than girls/women. I also have a very complicated relationship with my mother and I fear the same if I have a daughter (totally different scenario, I know, but I just can't seem to shake that fear) and also, H has 6 sisters - no brothers. I'd love to see him with a son. However! I will be genuinely overjoyed and I am so excited to find out either way. My top priority is a healthy baby.

mrsschmity

mrsp2213 said:

I did the ring/string over the belly test last night. I've succumbed to old wives tales. Someone save me before I pee on baking soda.

The second my mom and aunt's heard the news, they did this to me immediately. I didn't even ask them to do it. It's an old wives tale that has stuck with my mom's side of the family for years. Granted it has been "right" for every single one of the females on my mom's side - so they are all convinced I'm having a boy.

We'll see if the tale is true come June.

AllisA914

I have a Yankee swap next week with my husband's family. I am totally bringing something I want (and I know no one else will) so I can steal it back.
In my defense , I know 75% of the gifts will be some sort of booze that I cannot use anyway.

2mommiesforbaby

@mrsschmity - now that sounds like my kind of dream!

marriedtoadutchman

NicknShan said:

@trinirican3ondway I had the weirdest dream I named our DS Ace.  I always chuckle at the name now :-)

FFFC. I think I was an alcoholic.  Are you an alcoholic if you have a really hard time still NOT drinking wine?  When I have a stressful day, it honestly gets worse because I can't go home and have a glass of wine.  I have not even had a sip this pregnancy.  

Haha I feel ya! I wasn't drinking much before my BFP Bc I was doing the 21 day fix but every night come 7pm after the kids go to bed all I want is a big glass of wine ! Lol

colesmom33

I'm extra hormonal today and super bugged by the "what sex is my baby" threads!  I get this is a community of women who are going through all of this together but guess what, it's not "fun" for me to try and guess the sex of your baby!  Especially the women who never post and then all of a sudden it's like "I just think it would be really fun if you all could take time and guess what kind of junk my baby will have,  C'mon, you all will love it and if you don't you're mean!"  Not fun for me, I don't give a f**K!  That might seem harsh but I'm hormonal and have had a rough week!

msuzannah

@jaceyannie YES. I'm convinced my baby is a unicorn and no one will tell me different.

WinniethePoohsPants

I LOVE everybody's Christmas siggys, but am way too lazy to change mine...

dennyandlee

jaceyannie said:

I'm extra hormonal today and super bugged by the "what sex is my baby" threads!  I get this is a community of women who are going through all of this together but guess what, it's not "fun" for me to try and guess the sex of your baby!  Especially the women who never post and then all of a sudden it's like "I just think it would be really fun if you all could take time and guess what kind of junk my baby will have,  C'mon, you all will love it and if you don't you're mean!"  Not fun for me, I don't give a f**K!  That might seem harsh but I'm hormonal and have had a rough week!

This was my U/O yesterday. I totally agree!!

mkemommy

@nicknshan - I'm also right there with you.  I miss wine terribly.  

FFFC - I promised myself I would eat healthier today and I'm currently eating a cheese and chicken sandwhich with lots of sauce that I'm assuming is calorie laden.  Next week I'm getting back on the healthy train.  

mrsschmity

I have two more confessions today:

1. I am slightly bummed that the daily symptoms thread got voted off the island. I enjoyed talking with the ladies that posted there everyday.

2. A friend of mine is also pregnant. She's 2 weeks further along than me and already has a significant bump - like a legit bump. We were talking about it this morning and she said that she's surprised I'm not showing yet for how small I am and that I should be showing by now. So what did I do? Go to the mirror and stick my belly out as far as I could to see how pregnant I could make myself look. Then started gasping for air as I couldn't force it out any longer. I'm dumb.

*Edited because words are hard. THERE not THEIR. Get it together.

vulpini

Ok, this one might not be flame free.

I have zero problem giving up alcohol 100% during pregnancy and nursing. I barely ever drink when not pregnant - maybe an average of one glass of wine or girly cocktail per month. I don't enjoy being tipsy/drunk at all and I don't really like the taste of wine that much and hate beer. To me it's no harder than giving up asparagus or something else I like ok but don't really love. I can't relate to the ladies missing their wine. I also have a hard time understanding those who drink a little in the third trimester. Since we don't know for sure that there isn't even a very small affect on fetal brain development, it doesn't seem like it's worth it to me.

Kballew10

@Mrsschmity - I also miss the daily symptom thread.  I felt like I was starting to get to know the people that posted daily!  But my EDD got moved up 2 days, so maybe I'll start joining the ticker change thread since I'm not on a Saturday anymore...

My FFFC is that I am annoyed by all of the gifs, pictures, and tickers in signatures.  I understand having a ticker for the pregnancy that you're in (I might be baised here, since that's the only one I have), but do you seriously need a ticker for this pregnancy, your 2 other kids, and your wedding?  Especially if your other kid's ticker says that you are 54 months pregnant because you haven't gone in to change it.  Delete it!  And while gifs/pics are fun for comments, I just think it's annoying to have to scroll by the same gif/picture every time people post.  Especially if they are frequent posters.

Then again, maybe it just annoys me because it means I can't sit on TB at work without it being obvious that I am clearly NOT working... okay it's not a maybe.  That's why it annoys me.

NicknShan

@vulpini I wouldn't flame you for that!  I will say I do not like being tipsy/drunk, but I love an amazing glass of wine or a fabulous craft beer.  I wish it were as easy as giving up asparagus :-)

@mrsschmitty I have a friend two weeks further along than me, and she still looks exactly the same and I am the one showing.  I feel like I am doing something wrong that I can't button my pants!  

Another FFFC?  I probably drink too much caffeine.  I have at least a cup per day, but sometimes I have over the 200mg recommended limits.  I am addicted to more than my glass of wine I guess...

hockeyfan42

mrsschmity said:

I have two more confessions today:

1. I am slightly bummed that the daily symptoms thread got voted off the island. I enjoyed talking with the ladies that posted their everyday.

Sigh. This. My ticker change day is Saturday, but got combined with today. I'm sad that there's no daily communal post to participate in anymore.

Bear14+

hockeyfan42 said:

mrsschmity said:

I have two more confessions today:

1. I am slightly bummed that the daily symptoms thread got voted off the island. I enjoyed talking with the ladies that posted their everyday.

Sigh. This. My ticker change day is Saturday, but got combined with today. I'm sad that there's no daily communal post to participate in anymore.

The random thread can be a good place for communal posting? Sorry for stirring the pot

mrsschmity

hockeyfan42 said:

I have two more confessions today:

1. I am slightly bummed that the daily symptoms thread got voted off the island. I enjoyed talking with the ladies that posted their everyday.

Sigh. This. My ticker change day is Saturday, but got combined with today. I'm sad that there's no daily communal post to participate in anymore.

Yup, my ticker change is Saturday too, so I posted in the one today, but what about the rest of the week man?! I like how it was a daily thing where we could post with the same gals and get to know each other. Boo.

Also, apparently I can't freaking spell today. I need to go back and edit my post. It's THERE, not THEIR. 

Wyattnash00

Bring back the daily thread you silly Mommas!!! It's great that you were getting to know each other, I wasn't participating on it as I was in a deep, dark MS hole, no one wants to hear about that. But maybe we can still do a gtky thread separately, those were fun yesterday!

mrsschmity

Bear14+ said:

I have two more confessions today:

1. I am slightly bummed that the daily symptoms thread got voted off the island. I enjoyed talking with the ladies that posted their everyday.

Sigh. This. My ticker change day is Saturday, but got combined with today. I'm sad that there's no daily communal post to participate in anymore.

The random thread can be a good place for communal posting? Sorry for stirring the pot

I don't think you're stirring the pot. I will say that I feel like the randoms thread is just that - a place for random thoughts. The daily thread was like the equivalent of meeting your girlfriends every morning for your daily cup of coffee. Your morning routine. Your connection. Your reason for living. Ok, ok I'm getting carried away, but 'tis what it is.

mkemommy

@vulpini - I truly think its great that isn't a struggle at all for you to give up alcohol.  I also agree with you that I don't like getting drunk and, as to drinking in the third tri, I don't see myself doing it either even though I really do love wine.  That said, I can still relate to women who have to give up habits that aren't really healthy during pregnancy.... even though I don't share those habits.  For example, I've never smoked in my lifetime but I feel really bad for women who are struggling with giving it up during pregnancy.   

candicek15

@nicknshan I'm with you. I am a wine lover and used to joke before my last pregnancy when it happened on the first cycle that I never got to say a proper goodbye to wine! lol. This time around I was okay giving it up because I was so happy and relieved to be KU. Then MS happened and I couldn't stomach it even if I wanted to. Now that my MS is subsiding I'm definitely missing it, especially with holiday parties coming up. I've resorted to being the big weirdo that takes a huge sad sniff of my husband's glass. #noshame

MsBeachNJ

@nicknshan, and @candicek15 I miss it too... I still drink sparkling water or juice from a wine glass in social situations/at dinners etc I find it helps me not feel as bad... maybe that would help you guys out during the holiday season!! 

hockeyfan42

mrsschmity said:

Bear14+ said:

hockeyfan42 said:

mrsschmity said:

I have two more confessions today:

1. I am slightly bummed that the daily symptoms thread got voted off the island. I enjoyed talking with the ladies that posted their everyday.

Sigh. This. My ticker change day is Saturday, but got combined with today. I'm sad that there's no daily communal post to participate in anymore.

The random thread can be a good place for communal posting? Sorry for stirring the pot

I don't think you're stirring the pot. I will say that I feel like the randoms thread is just that - a place for random thoughts. The daily thread was like the equivalent of meeting your girlfriends every morning for your daily cup of coffee. Your morning routine. Your connection. Your reason for living. Ok, ok I'm getting carried away, but 'tis what it is.
--------qbf-----------
I don't think you're stirring the pot either @Bear14+! But I agree with @mrsschmity - it's a great thread for random thoughts, not necessarily routine posting.

The symptoms thread was really similar to the ticker change one, but I only read the ticker thread for my specific day...So I guess it didn't bother me. Pout!

ETA: QBF

nrs164

@NicknShan I miss my wine too!

I stay home with my 2.5 yr old son who is a fireball of energy (and I'm very blessed that I have that opportunity). But I also watch my cousin's 1 year old son (mon, wed, fri) and I get my 7 year old nephew from school almost every day until 6pm (and every time he has off school for holiday breaks). I dk if it's hormones, exhaustion, or all the testosterone or what but I really only want to watch my own kids. I swear I love them dearly!

nrs164

@NicknShan I miss my wine too!

I stay home with my 2.5 yr old son who is a fireball of energy (and I'm very blessed that I have that opportunity). But I also watch my cousin's 1 year old son (mon, wed, fri) and I get my 7 year old nephew from school almost every day until 6pm (and every time he has off school for holiday breaks). I dk if it's hormones, exhaustion, or all the testosterone or what but I really only want to watch my own kids. I swear I love them dearly!

mrsb8244

1. I also miss the daily symptoms thread. Not trying to be rude but why couldn't we keep it and if you don't like it just scroll past it. I didn't think it was hurting anything. Again not trying to be rude but I just didn't see why it was bothering people.

2. I honestly don't care if this baby is a boy or girl but my IL's are making me really mad by calling the baby a boy when we have no clue of baby is a boy or girl. It's really starting to make me hope we have a girl just so they are wrong and I hate that because I'll be equally happy with either boy or girl. That's the only thing they do to annoy me though so I should be grateful. They really are great I just don't want you to call baby a boy constantly when we don't know!!

HighFive16

@mrsp2213  My husband made me pee in the baking soda last night. SO pointless as we don't care either way but he heard about it and asked me to oblige. I will not partake in any more of that craziness. He can wait for the ultrasound! \

@NicknShan and other posters. I too miss wine. Especially in the run up to Christmas I miss tucking in to my old friend Bailey.  

goldie987

I miss the symptoms thread too, I get that it was taking away attention from the ticker change but why not keep both and let people participate in the one they want to? I feel bad ranting about symptoms elsewhere, especially after people yesterday talked about how they hate seeing symptoms stuff everywhere because it triggers their own symptoms. The vote was decently close and I think everyone who participated in it enjoyed it. Idk, I just don't see the issue with it and don't think it slowed the board down or anything.

DeePaddy24

I'm jumping on the bandwagon. I really miss the daily symptoms thread. I loved getting to know the ladies who posted there regularly...& I feel slightly lost that I don't know how they're doing today or how appointments went yesterday. #sorrynotsorry 

MsBeachNJ

Atleast 25 women voted to keep the daily thread, so why not keep it, and let those that want to partake in it, partake? Others.... post only in your weekly ticker change or wherever else you want? Seems silly to take it away when there was clear participation in it and people that miss it? 

nicolesmith0624

TOTALLY keep the daily symptoms. All my symptoms were the same every day, so I never posted, but it never bothered me. And I LOATHE (with the fire of a thousand suns) multiple posts. So hey, if it didn't bug me, then go.for.it because, you know, I'm the end-all-be-all *eye roll*

nicolesmith0624

Also, my random thought ATM is that I'm constantly blowing my nose and it's driving me batty. I was fine and then BAM! Snot faucet.

nicolesmith0624

nicolesmith0624 said:

Also, my random thought ATM is that I'm constantly blowing my nose and it's driving me batty. I was fine and then BAM! Snot faucet.

Yep. QB'ed myself. This isn't the random thread. My apologies. Carry on.

Emztron500

My FFFC: I like my toddler more than basically anyone. And I go out in public with her a lot and she's super difficult and high strung and runs around wild and makes a lot of noise, and I do not care. I make sure she doesn't hurt or interfere with people and doesn't wreck anything but I'd rather she run around the mall exploring than sit in a stroller and whine. 

Linsbins

My boss is hot.