TTC after 35

Tell me the secret to your (bfp) success!

Alright ladies, there have been a lot of bfps up in here lately. For those of us still in the throes of TTC, tell us what you did differently your bfp cycle, what supplements you were taking, how often/what days you bd, and any thing else you can think of that led to your bfp success!

Congrats again to all the bfpers out there. Our grad thread is about to get a lot more exciting!

Re: Tell me the secret to your (bfp) success!

  • I've thought about doing this many times before when I've seen others celebrate their BFPs! I'd be more than happy to share everything I did but be prepared, it's going to be a long list (I take a LOT of vitamins!). However, I really want to wait until after my 2nd beta on Monday to make sure things are progressing normally before I consider myself a "success". I'm already feeling a decrease in my boob soreness level and it has me worried. Yikes - this whole thing is such a rollercoaster and nerve-wrecking process!
    ME: 36 (PCOS), DH: excellent SA
    NTNP since 11/12, actively trying since 8/14
    m/c @ 7w (4/22/14), m/c @ 6w (11/19/14)
    11/15: Letrozole, Ovidrel, TI = BFP!!!
    Beta #1(14dpo)=349, Beta #2(18dpo)=2,805
    12/17/15: Got to see the heartbeat (105bpm)!
    1/25/16: NT scan = normal (HB=163bpm)
    EDD: 8/10/16 
    8/8/16: Baby boy born @ 12:25am, 8lbs, 20.5 inches
    5/18/17: BFP!!! (11dpo)
    Beta #1(12dpo)=176.4, Beta #2(15dpo)=607.1
  • I don't think there's any one thing that helped. I have been going to WW since April and I'm down 19 lbs. I've been tracking on fertity friend. Spent a ton on OPK. I've been taking prenatals for a few months now (I like the target gummy). I've tried to reduce my sodium, eat a little healthier. BD a couple days before I o'd, the day I o'd and the day after.
    But I'm not out of the woods yet. I went through the same last year and things didn't work out.

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  • bgf1bgf1 member
    edited December 2015
    I am still in the breath holding phase of having had a recent bfp... But in my successful cycle I added opks, cut back to one cup of coffee a day, and found some emotional peace finally with the fact that after 1.5 years of trying it may not be going to happen. I think that release of the pressure and stress and expectations was probably most important for me
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  • @jillian14, @jenniferk08 and @bgfi - I totally understand being cautious in the early stages, but all my fx that these bfp's are the real deal!

    @CarrieandRoy,it's interesting that you got your bfp on the cycle where you only had sex a couple days before O. The exact same thing happened to me with my last bfp after I had many cycles of having perfect timing. Go figure... I agree with @PattersRN that MIL was probably the secret weapon! Send her up north, would ya?
  • lickasticklickastick member
    edited December 2015
    We are all so different but here is what worked for me:
    Our timing this month was -2,-1,0. In past cycles I always started BD too early and by the time O day came I was burnt out. This cycle I specifically waited and extra day or 2 before starting BD.

    Supplements I have been taking forever:
    Vit D
    **the 3 above to help regulate my thyroid function
    smarty pants prenatal gummy with fish oil (love this brand!)
    Herbs from my endocrine specialist naturopath to decrease cortisol, decrease prolactin, regulate thyroid and increase progesterone. 
    I've been eating bone broth more regularly the past 2 months

    2 months ago I read the book "it starts with the egg" and after that I started
    ubiquinol (CoQ10) to help with egg quality, I highly recommend this for anyone over 35 TTC
    my naturopath also started me on vitex 2 months ago only during the TWW
    **both of these take a little while to build up in the system 

    2 months ago and I started my DH on
    vit c
    *all to help with sperm quality
    and he takes smarty pants adult gummy vit with fish oil as well
    If your DH isn't on supplements I would suggest considering it!

    After reading that book I also changed out every single piece of plastic tupperware/cooking utensil we had for glass and wood, I also changed our soda stream to glass and only used stainless steel for my water bottles I carry around (clean kanteen.)

    I've been gluten free on and off for the past 3 years, I have never been diagnosis, but celiacs runs in my family. For the past 2 months I have been really good about being gluten free. (I was on quite a gluten binge in september and october)

    DH was forbidden to go in hot tubs/steam/sauna and no seat heater in the car which he has been doing since august. (that is a tough one for us, we love hot tubs and steam rooms!)

    I had Mayan Abdominal massage 2x before O for the past 3 months, and I did castor oil packs from end of menses to O, ED or EOD religiously for the past 2 months, and I did my self care massage as taught by therapist. DH also did castor oil on his testicles 2x a month before the FW time.
    I get acupuncture about every 3 weeks and I do self acupuncture outside of that. 

    For the past 2 months I also used mucinex at O time. Starting 4 days before O I took a 12 hour release tab in the am and pm. 

    My DH and I have had a regular daily meditation practice for the the past 2.5 years, but for the past 5 months we have been doing the exact same pranayama practice, sometimes we do it at the same time but a lot of the times we do it at different times. The one we are currently using is specific pranayama or breath technique that is recommended during pregnancy. It is called bhramari pranyama and I'll include a link if anyone wants to try it. It is a great meditation to reduce stress! We do 22mins of bhramari and 11mins of stillness meditation. But you can start with just 3 mins and it is very effective. (*because we do such a long time, we use ear plugs instead of our fingers to block the ears)

    A couple weeks ago I was with a friend at a coffee shop and I broke down and ugly cried right in the middle of the place and finally talked to someone about my struggles. My friend said something very helpful to me, which was, god doesn't want you to put your life on hold (I was relating how even my yoga practice was on hold because I was scared to do inversions.) After that I decided this month that my mantra will be "I am deeply committed to moving forward with grace and ease" and I decided that baby- boy/girl or no baby, I would have to move forward either way. And after that I finally started doing inversions again after 4 months. I decided long ago that if it didn't happen for me (getting pregnant) that I would not go down the path of IVF/Adoption. I am so amazed by the strength of the women doing IUI/IVF and more. I just know in my heart that it isn't my path, and if that means a life without my own babies then that is my path, and I will have to accept that. I started to really think about and feel that either way baby or no baby, I can move forward and it will be ok. 

    I hope this helps some! 

  • These posts make me feel so lazy! No wonder some stress levels are high, y'all are putting in a lot of effort and time (obviously you will all make amazing parents!) I honestly had no idea what regiments people were on in order to increase their chances of conceiving. I hope you are all giving yourselves the credit you deserve for this, it's not easy mentally or logistically (something I didn't realize before we started trying). My hat is off to all of you for what you are doing to create a better environment for a little one to grow in. It's been very inspiring to read these posts - and motivating!
    Me: 39 SO: 36

    Dx: low progesterone, possible DOR - officially "unexplained"

    TTC#1 since November 2015
    9/16/2016 IUI#1 - BFN
    10/12/2016 IUI#2 - BFN
    1/21/2017 Clomid/IUI#3 - BFN
    March 2017 IVF: BFP! (beta#1 191, beta#2 378!) - it's a boy! DS born 12/6/2017

    TTC #2 since July 2018
    May 2019 IVF #2: BFP! (beta#1 346, beta#2 646) - vanishing twin at 8 weeks. Baby B still going strong - due 2/8/20!
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  • @createillumination did you take the coq10 during your entire cycle and how much did you take?
  • lickasticklickastick member
    edited January 2016
    @agriffin92013 I did take it the entire cycle after i cleared that with my naturopath. From what I understand most RE also want you to take it the whole cycle. I took 100mg per day, my DH took 200mg per day. The book says that if you are doing fertility treatments you want to take 200-300mg a day. I stopped it a couple of days after BFP.

    After a little research on cost and ingredients i decided to take nature wise ubiquinol its about $40 for a bottle of 120 on amazon (don't buy it if it's priced a lot above that, the price will go down again.)
  • I didn't do much beyond temping/charting and just trying to stay patient. We were NTNP for over a year before we started actively trying. I never took birth control but we stopped using condoms mostly out of laziness. I never got pregnant in that time period despite the fact that we were having sex at least 2-3 times per week. I started charting after we got married in May and learned that I ovulate early in my cycle (usually CD11-12), which I think was tremendously helpful for us. It took 5 cycles of well-timed sex to get my BFP. Honestly the month I got KU was our worst timing of those 5 cycles (-3, -2) and I thought I was out. At the end of the day I feel like it's just a numbers game. My advice is to keep at it, be kind to yourself, and reach out for support here and elsewhere. There's a lot of advice and opinions out there about lifestyle changes, supplements, etc but do what feels right for you and your partner. I took a prenatal vitamin but didn't do anything else.

    Haha @createillumination I never thought about the seat heater in the car! My DH LOVES his! Maybe this explains why we got KU in the summer rather than the winter :)
    Me: 40  DH: 43
    Married 5/30/15
    TTC #1 June 2015
    BFP #1 9/28/15, EDD 6/10/16. DS born 5/23/16!
    TTC #2 May 2017
    BFP #2 m/c 11/18/17 5w5d
    BFP #3 12/17/17 EDD 8/25/18. It's a boy!
  • @redheadbride15 Ha so true right! For us it's the hot tubs- we are in them all summer long and maybe thats why I only get KU in the winter!
    @poemasque I totally agree with PP, you certainly don't have to do all that stuff to get KU, women all over the world get KU without any extra effort. I did all of that because it is the field I work in (acupuncture/herbs/yoga) and I like to experiment. I also think I want to go into fertility as a specialty in acupuncture and yoga so I did a ton of research as part of my professional development. Any small changes or effort make a big difference, it doesn't have to big a big effort to get big results, so much of it is just the luck of the sperm!
  • IVF is the secret to my success!  But seriously, I took many of the same supplements as others: Vit C, Vit D, myo-insolitol, CoQ10, high dose fish oil.  I did acupuncture regularly, Reiki every couple weeks, and Mayan abdominal massage.  I did castor oil packs for the week prior to my egg retrieval.  

    I'd highly suggest reading "It Starts with the Egg." I found it so helpful and just overall intriguing.  I also got rid of plastic containers after reading that book!

    I lost 45+ pounds for IVF by decreasing carbs and sugar and increasing protein.  The month or so before my IVF, I did gluten free and also did a green smoothie cleanse, which made me feel AMAZING after all the fertility meds I took for over a year.  

    I agree that we do not HAVE to do all this stuff, but I figured at my age, every little bit helped.  AND, it all had the added bonus of making me feel great, so why not?? :)
    *** Child & current pregnancy mentioned ***
    Me - 41 (PCOS), Hubby - 43 (healthy)
    7/2013 - Sweet baby girl born (Clomid + TI)
    3/2014 - TTC #2, return to RE 7/2014
    12/2015: IVF #1 transferred two great looking embryos - BFP!
    First ultrasound: TWO beautiful little heartbeats!!
    Harmony: negative; level 2: babies look great and are boy/girl! :) 
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