For the anxious FTM's who don't have any noticeable symptoms.

thebigoaktree

Making this for the ones that have no symptoms and are feeling a little anxious/freaked out that they're not experiencing the amazing-ness of morning sickness, or anything that they're chalking up to feeling like this whole thing doesn't even feel real. 

thebigoaktree

I'll even start because I'm bored and I'm tired of working on a paper.

I'm 9 weeks, I had major bloating the first few weeks, then it has gone away. I don't know if I'm tired because of growing my little sea monkey or tired because I work and then have 4 nights of class that I'm not home till 7pm. I get freaked out because I have had zero throwing up in the morning, and the one time I did, I swear it was because I brushed my teeth the wrong way. I have noticed that I do get a little sick in the afternoons depending on what I eat. I also think my boobs get bigger and smaller depending on the day, and the only thing that hurts are my nipples. I can't even touch them with out wanting to scream. I'm scared because I won't have a heartbeat scan for another two weeks and I'm worried when I go they're going to tell me something awful. 

setosh

I'm a little over 8 weeks and have pretty much not had any symptoms. I was a little nauseous and kinda dizzy. Sore boobs and peeing a lot, but that's it. I have my first US on 12/9 and I need to hear that heartbeat for it to feel real.

TxTeacher91

@setosh I have my first ultrasound on the same day and I feel the same way! Im 6w3d and my boobs haven't been sore AT ALL. I've been nauseous the last few days but I feel like it might not even be pregnancy related. I've been lurking other boards and sites reading about people who didn't have any/ many symptoms but went on to have successful pregnancies. It helps.

sallyomalley106

Apparently not having strong symptoms really upsets some women with symptoms, and I can understand that because puking is literally terrifying for me and I'll do anything to avoid it. But not having symptoms is also absolutely terrifying when you're reading about everyone not being able to get out of bed every day and you're poking your own boobs to make sure they're still sore and worrying that your baby stopped growing inside you because you feel nothing, or less than you did last week. So it truly helps me cope when I read about others in my (lack of a) situation, so thank you for starting this thread even if it was done with an eye roll. I hope we all have healthy pregnancies. (And if it makes anyone feel better, my constipation struggle is REAL.)

Eveinshock

I can't understand how anyone can dare be nasty over other people's lack of symptoms. I'm devastated right now bc I've had symptoms for weeks, including a few days of morning sickness, that all came to a grinding halt yesterday. I certainly don't feel relieved! What I wouldn't give for the queasiness and barfing back....

decoycandy

I'm terrified my baby has just stopped being. I feel for those with symptoms, I truly do. Wish I could make them broth qnd bring them crackers. That being said I'm so scared. First time mom at 35, my time is limited, took me 2.5 years to get pregnant. Don't know how many more chances I may get.
No symptoms may be easy physically but it's become very difficult for me to limit my anxiety. Fortunately I have an appointment Monday. I know many of you have to wait longer and I empathize. May you all be well and have healthy Lil ones growing strong.

*tmi*
Oh and on Thursday I had a poo that felt like it came out sideways after not going for two days( dunno if pregnancy or travel constipation as I sometimes don't go when I have a lot of flights)

thebigoaktree

No eye roll, I just like things about the same thing in one place. Don't think that I didn't get annoyed seeing 17 posts about morning sickness and bleeding/cramping as red flag for my own non-symptoms. I got excited the one day I threw up. Thought this was it, this is want all these other women are dealing with. When in fact I probably just stuck my tooth brush down my throat or something. It's nerve wracking to me to hear my DH talk now about how excited he is to go to the heartbeat appointment and I'm sitting here trying to be happy with him, and all I want to do is scream. I have only one person around me that doesn't tell me horror stories about pregnancy and I'm going to repeat what she said to me, because it made me feel 100% better. You do have symptoms, you missed your period, not pooping is a symptom, peeing a lot is a symptom. We do have symptoms we just don't have the horrible one everyone seems to complain about.

ninji15

I really is a scary thing to not know what's going on for sure. I just want my little pnut to keep growing. I litteraly have no symptoms other than the missed period. I have pcos and take metfomin, so I really am not even constipated. Met makes me not I guess. I am so scared I am doing something wrong, I can't follow the perfect pcos diet very well. I am a really picky eater, and it sounds selfish and it is... I just can't follow it. I feel like everyone gets to eat whatever and I can't. My dh only knows how to offer me fatning food as support, and its not supportive. Lol I have been trying to better my diet though regardless.

I guess what I am saying is, my lack of symptoms makes me feel like I might have ended my own pregnancy. I really hope not, of course. I hope and pray every day for this baby. Just scared.

thebigoaktree

Can I ask how far along everyone is that didn't post that info already? It might be that it's still to early in the game for you. I've also read articles that say ms can also be a hereditary thing as well. People don't understand is this is the type of info we get to go off of. Or the other 80% of articles that scare us into think no symptoms means we've lost this pregnancy. That's what we get left with being the slim percent. I just want to hear a heartbeat and I want out of this first trimester.

kaytgalla

I'm 7 weeks 3 days and I'm in the same situation as everyone here. No symptoms and second guessing the ones I might have because I'm worried they're all in my head. I have my first appointment on December 1st so I'm just trying to hang in there until then!

stillcozy

Lurker. MS can definitely be hereditary but I've heard it is very different with every baby as well. I apologize if I made any of you feel bad last night. Just jealous but I do understand how scary it has to be and anxiety provoking as well to not have sucky but at times reassuring symptoms. My friend never had symptoms or if she did were very light and her pregnancy was very easy and had a healthy baby boy. I'm praying all your babies are strong and healthy and you all make it the 9 months.

thebigoaktree

kaytgalla said:

I'm 7 weeks 3 days and I'm in the same situation as everyone here. No symptoms and second guessing the ones I might have because I'm worried they're all in my head. I have my first appointment on December 1st so I'm just trying to hang in there until then!

Come back and let us know how it went, since your this week. Would probably put a lot of minds at ease. I promise to come back after I have my heartbeat appointment and let you all know how that goes.

rac557

9w1d right now. FTM. Very minimal symptoms... Maybe get constipation every three days and missed my period. Nipples are occasionally sensitive, but boobs seem to fluctuate. Oh, I do have really bad acne, which is a huge change for me. No nausea out of the norm. No cravings. I wouldn't think I was pregnant if it were not for positive blood test, but still worried whether there will be a heartbeat. It is really hard to drink so much water, but I'm trying to get the fluids in...any advice there?? Ultrasound on December 2nd, will post how it goes.

Update: 12/2 ultrasound revealed healthy baby and fast heart beat. Only one baby. Estimated to actually be 8w3d instead of expected 9w6d.

FiancB

Good idea to make one thread. I felt bad because I mentioned it in some symptom threads although at least I didn't make my own thread to whine about it. I'm sure it's obnoxious to people that feel like hot garbage but it's scary to us too. My boobs are huge and hurt and that's the only really obvious sign other than some fatigue and mood swings and other minor symptoms. Nothing that would really make me think I'm pregnant other than not having had my period in a long time and having some positive tests. It seems like most people have an increase in symptoms around 7 weeks but now that I'm at 8 weeks I'd say that week 5 was the most dramatic for me. I've only gained 3 lbs but still feel really blimp-like and my clothes don't fit right, so my hips must have done some changing. Not even constipated at all. 

U/S is on Monday so hopefully that will put my mind at ease. Hopefully we're all just lucky bitches that should consider a career in surrogacy. I do know someone that didn't even think to take a test until she was 10 weeks because she had no symptoms until then, and a couple others that pretty much missed their first trimester, so maybe it's not as uncommon as we think. 

lilurbanik

@thebigoaktree thank you for making this thread.

The day after I found out I was pregnant, I felt horrible. I had a horrible headache and thought I was going to puke if I moved. I woke up the next morning and nothing. I felt completely normal. I would have almost forgotten I was pregnant if I didn't keep reminding myself. My first thought "is this baby still alive". I searched this board high and low looking for answers. Turns out a lot of woman don't have symptoms, especially in the beginning. One mother said it perfectly "even the slightest symptom is a symptom". I keep telling myself that. The tender boobs, the bloating, the gas...all symptoms. This week, apparently I get to *enjoy* queasiness and gas. Yay me.

Eta: I'm 6w2d along

KASG

thebigoaktree said:

I have only one person around me that doesn't tell me horror stories about pregnancy and I'm going to repeat what she said to me, because it made me feel 100% better. You do have symptoms, you missed your period, not pooping is a symptom, peeing a lot is a symptom. We do have symptoms we just don't have the horrible one everyone seems to complain about.

This. I was just thinking this. Some of us are worried because we don't have morning sickness and nausea. But I remembered years ago I asked my mom about her pregnancy with me and she didn't have morning sickness. I was born perfectly healthy, all 10 fingers and all 10 toes. And I remember hoping I wouldn't get morning sickness too. And I haven't. I only get nausea when I overeat or when I'm already full. It doesn't mean my pregnancy is less viable than the person who's vomiting all day. Because the truth is, I still have cramps, my backache is exacerbated, I'm mad tired, I won't cry but I'll blow up out of irritation in a heartbeat...these are all by-products of growing a human inside you! (Even though, I was also getting jealous of all the "sore boobs" posts because my boobs are only sore for the second after I release them from prison, ie my bra. I was so excited the day my nipples were sore.)

This was much longer than anticipated, but if you made it this far, remember: every woman, every body, and every pregnancy is different.

Taymiller

I didn't have any symptoms with my first except hives (at that point we didn't know the hives were baby related). Everyone experiences pregnancy differently and I am finding every pregnancy is different. For everyone it is hard to not worry at this stage in pregnancy. Most of us will be in the no symptoms position second trimester so you guys just get to experience it early. Try and not worry, as long as you are not bleeding and you had a positive pregnancy test, you are still pregnant

ninji15

thebigoaktree said:

Can I ask how far along everyone is that didn't post that info already? It might be that it's still to early in the game for you. I've also read articles that say ms can also be a hereditary thing as well. People don't understand is this is the type of info we get to go off of. Or the other 80% of articles that scare us into think no symptoms means we've lost this pregnancy. That's what we get left with being the slim percent. I just want to hear a heartbeat and I want out of this first trimester.

8 weeks

decoycandy

I am 8w2d.
Although I am not responding to any of your posts directly, I just want you all to know that reading your stories helps so much, and I'm super thankful. Aww darnit #whyismypregnantasscrying

Singingmama10

I'm not a FTM, my DS turned one on the 21st of this month.  But I will tell you, my only real symptom with him was sore boobs and then they suddenly stopped at around 8 weeks.  I was scared to begin with, because I wasn't sick or anything, but then when all my symptoms totally stopped it was terrifying.  He was 100% healthy though and so was I.  

We are lucky that we don't have regular pregnancy symptoms,  but it doesn't ease our anxiety at all.  I don't really have any symptoms this time around again, but I am much calmer just cause I know it was the same with DS.  It's ok! Once you hear that heartbeat it will ease your mind.  Oh and if it doesn't (like it didn't for me, because I am hopelessly anxiety prone) a home doppler is a great investment.  Don't get it yet though... you probably wont' be able to hear the hb.  I think I was able to consistently hear DS's after 10 or 12 weeks.  

thebigoaktree

I think this thread will be a good support system, Updating as we have our first appointments will help ease the other's who are sitting here waiting for our own. I know I've threatened to switch drs. because it's weird that they're only going off the fact that I keep track of everything and know when my lmp was and all that other jazz. Hi, not a trained professional, I just had an app to keep track of this stuff.

Eveinshock

6 wks 3 days if everything is fine. At this point though I just really don't think so. And its the not knowing that's extra bad. The nausea is gone, the sensitive boobs I had from like day 6 are gone, the super smelling is gone, the fatigue is gone, the general feeling awful is gone. And everything stopped the same day, thanksgiving. I'm afraid the baby is gone.

I'm 37. I wasn't trying to have kids yet. My fiancé just moved in with me from across the world in October and less than 3 weeks later I was pregnant. It was so unexpected but so welcomed. I never thought I'd have kids. I certainly thought I'd have to try harder.

I have my first appt 12/7 so I will update. I just don't know how I'll make it to then mentally.

elldel

I'm really thankful for this thread. I joined The Bump because support and encouragement from other mamas along this journey is a beautiful thing. I'm 5+4 and symptoms come and go, plus they're slight when they're there. My appointment is 12/14 so I'm just waiting anxiously until then. In the meantime, it feels good to be here and hear your experiences.

EDIT: spelling. Because words are hard.

LinzerBinzer

I'll be 8 weeks tomorrow, first appnt Thurs. I just have on again off again sore boobs and mild nausea, no puking. (Plus the peeing, but I've always peed more than most.) (Oh, and being tired, but I've always been tired and slept 9 hours a night.)

The anxiety and worry for me has lessened quite a bit in the last week or two. I'm still convinced there's a solid chance of a missed MC, but there's nothing I can do about it if so, so I just keep on keeping on.

Oh, and last night I dreamed it was twins and I lost one. Weird frickin dreams man.

emjayen79

Please remember, we all found out VERY early too. Morning sickness sometimes doesn't show up until late the first trimester. At least this is what I'm telling myself. 7w5d

thebigoaktree

Just try to stay off Dr. Google, that prick adds so much un-needed stress for no reason. 

lilurbanik

LinzerBinzer said:

The anxiety and worry for me has lessened quite a bit in the last week or two. I'm still convinced there's a solid chance of a missed MC, but there's nothing I can do about it if so, so I just keep on keeping on.

Oh, and last night I dreamed it was twins and I lost one. Weird frickin dreams man.

This. For me too. I never even knew what a mmc was until this board. It sits in the back of my mind. I'm FTM so I have no history and no idea what to expect. I try and bury those thoughts with positive ones. I had the dead baby dream too, it's awful. I'm just waiting until my first dr apt and u/s, but that's not until 12/17

The weird thing, I don't have an emotional attachment to this baby yet. I feel really guilty about it. I'm not sick, so no one treats me like I'm pregnant. I barely feel pregnant except for bloating and big boobs. I think I'm looking for these big symptoms as a way to feel more attached to this pregnancy...to make it more real.

Taymiller

@lilurbanik - I didn't feel any attachment to my first until I could feel the kicks and then I felt that attachment. and I love it, until those kicks started hurting!!

lilurbanik

@Taymiller thanks, I was starting to feel like a horrible person. I'm hoping that hearing the heartbeat will make it real for me.

Taymiller

@lilurbanik- that totally helps and makes it more real but for me it wasn't until I felt that kid move around. And for my husband he was attached to the baby until he was born! And I swear we aren't bad people

rac557

Same here. It's weird when people say congratulations, but you don't feel pregnant or feel attached. I just keep thinking to myself, once I hear the heart beat it will be more real.

DominiqueU

I am a constant ball of vomiting and nausea, but I completely understand the not feeling connected. I don't feel like I'm pregnant, I feel like I have a stomach virus that won't go away.

I feel guilty because we wanted this so badly, but now I feel so indifferent. I'm hoping the first ultrasound will bring me a little closer to it all.

decoycandy

Insomnia is my biggest symptom, right now at 8w4. Dr appt. Monday. Fingers crossed

TX126

I'm just at 6 weeks and all of my symptoms have been pretty mild - definitely more thirsty, frequent trips to the bathroom, occasional mild cramping, and some sore BBs.  However, that all disappeared yesterday :-(.  This morning, I feel a little funny, which could be nausea.  I know I'll feel so much better once I have my u/s on the 15th.  

thebigoaktree

One constant symptom, I can't stand the smell of my dogs food. Made the DH move it because I couldn't handle it anymore. Woo symptom!

decoycandy

Even little symptoms are symptoms, we just need to keep telling ourselves that.

thebigoaktree

So I have dog food aversions and sore nipples. Anyone else got small but symptoms none the less?

elldel

Does extreme gas count as a symptom?! LOL. (But seriously) I find myself a little queasy off and on through the day, especially if my stomach is too full or too empty. Haven't thrown up though.

nnff

Freaking myself out because Ive had all the symptoms. Nausea,constant peeing, fatigue ect. As of about two days ago with the exception of the sore boobs my symptoms have subsided. I'm 8wks today and wont have my first appt till Dec9th. Should I be worried?

thebigoaktree

nnff said:

Freaking myself out because Ive had all the symptoms. Nausea,constant peeing, fatigue ect. As of about two days ago with the exception of the sore boobs my symptoms have subsided. I'm 8wks today and wont have my first appt till Dec9th. Should I be worried?

Your body might be finally just adjusting. I'm 9 weeks and some change and most of your symptoms that you had and lost, I've lost as well. I won't have heartbeat scan till December 8th, the waiting to even see if there is something growing has been stressful.