Lyncoln will not hardly take a paci --especially when she is wanting to comfort nurse. It just pisses her off when I try to give it to her. I am going back to work in 2 weeks and it is going to be a nightmare for the sitter if I don't figure something out...it seems like she is only content when she is sleeping or nursing. Her happy awake moments are fleeting. My kid is gonna get kicked out of the sitter haha
@Court11152325 my mom hasn't had a lot of luck but my husband does generally. I am Just hoping that since I won't be around she will acclimate quickly. Crossing my fingers anyway!
@dmendo01 mine won't take a paci either. Ive tried, my DW has tried as has my mother and no luck. I've tried the Avent silicone, the gumdrops and the mam. He spits out all of them. I had success twice. Once at the hospital when he was born and the second around one month after several attempts he sucked on it for a min then fell asleep. Spit it out in his sleep and hasn't taken it again since. He's so fussy I try almost daily. I am also HIGHLY concerned no caregiver will have patience for him.
@AnnH74 yes! It didn't hit me until recently but I am hungry all the damn time. Im now choosing making a snack over sleeping when lo naps, lol.
Does anyone else feel like they are constantly eating (snacking)? It seems as if I'm always wanting to find something to munch on.
Yes! I'm always wondering into the kitchen. I luckily lost most of my baby weight quickly but with all the snacking I'm doing I'm pretty sure I'm gaining weight again. Because of course I'm not not eating all healthy snacks.
Does anyone else feel like they are constantly eating (snacking)? It seems as if I'm always wanting to find something to munch on.
Yes! I feel like I am starving all the time and can't get full. They say you lose the weight faster when you BF but I really wonder how. Between being tied to the couch all day and constantly hungry, how will this happen?!
Your body will burn between 500-800 calories a day by making and maintaining your milk. That's how you "lose weight" ideally by burning more calories than you ingest.
Having a very rough day today. Does anyone else's LO yank off the boob while nursing and start screaming?! I don't know if she is frustrated with something nursing or if she is hurting I honestly cannot tell. I try to burp her every few minutes but she screams and roots around the whole time I am doing that. I am not sure if she is just cluster feeding? She poops and pees all the time so I know she's getting enough. She acts like she's starving but won't just calmly nurse, she nurses for 15-30 second and then rips off my nipple (which hurts like a mother) and screams (like the not breathe scream). But she's been like this last night and all day today and to top it off she's fighting her sleep like crazy which makes her more fussy. I just want to help her but don't know what to do or what's even wrong. Colicky? I didn't think that was all day and evening. We gave her some gripe water also and so far nothing is helping...we are 1 month old today. Happy bday Lyncoln
@dmendo01 DD does this to me when she wants to comfort nurse but is full. I now start her nursing and slip a pacifier in. She's also going through sleep issues and wants comfort because she'said tired but I'm pretty sure we're going through a sleep regression. DS did the same thing but was 3-4 months old. Sometimes I think when they start becoming more alert and aware of their environment they start fighting to stay awake and take in more. Then they get overtired and fussy. Not sure if this is what's going on with your LO since DD is 2 months.
@Mizuiro007 thanks I will try that sometimes she doesn't want the paci either so we will see. She napped for about an hour on my husband so maybe she's doing better. Just remembered I ate beans and lentils last night so maybe I made her gassy I hope it was just a one time thing anyway.
@laurabwalker I lost 28lb the first two weeks from this also and I feel famished all the time! But I still have 15lb to go so..here's hoping the breast feeding keeps driving my weight down. It is definitely difficult esp with the cluster feeding so I'm happy there's the perk of calorie burnage!
I've got a very gassy baby on my hands! Here's a weird question: what does it *sound* like when you're nursing? Can you hear LO breathing or just the sound of gulping? I'm afraid I'm hearing too much air being sucked in by DD and I'm concerned it's our crappy latch. This is not an easy thing to Google... She is absolutely miserable with gas and it's breaking my heart that I can't help her. Gripe water and drops aren't really helping.
@dmendo01 DD does this to me when she wants to comfort nurse but is full. I now start her nursing and slip a pacifier in. She's also going through sleep issues and wants comfort because she'said tired but I'm pretty sure we're going through a sleep regression. DS did the same thing but was 3-4 months old. Sometimes I think when they start becoming more alert and aware of their environment they start fighting to stay awake and take in more. Then they get overtired and fussy. Not sure if this is what's going on with your LO since DD is 2 months.
This exactly. DD does this and she's 7 weeks. She wants to nurse constantly but rips off and gets mad and then keeps trying to the point where she spits up. Now that I've realized it means she's tired I just give her the pacifier instead. I try to get her to nap after every hour of being awake to avoid that point though.
@Mizuiro007 and @taysun when did you first give your babies pacifiers? I was told to avoid it until breastfeeding is "well established" but I have no idea what that means in concrete terms and I think it could really help us with our very fussy LO. She's just 3 weeks.
@Mizuiro007 and @taysun when did you first give your babies pacifiers? I was told to avoid it until breastfeeding is "well established" but I have no idea what that means in concrete terms and I think it could really help us with our very fussy LO. She's just 3 weeks.
I actually pumped and bottle fed until 5 weeks because DD was early and too small to get a good latch and couldn't transfer well. So we used a pacifier right away. At 5 weeks she picked up breastfeeding and now we almost exclusively nurse.
@Alyssaerin996 we gave LO a paci in the hospital the first night she was born and she has never had trouble with her latch or nursing. She doesn't like the paci much but she will take the soothies and they're supposed to be good with not causing any nipple confusion.
Thanks! I might introduce one soon. I have a couple different kinds from my shower, including the soothies. All the note from my lactation consultant said was wait until "well established" but didn't really say why. I think part of it was because I was also trying to wean off the nipple shield. My only fear with the paci is if there is even a small chance it messes up her latch even more...
@Alyssaerin996 We introduced a pacifier with DS in the hospital and with DD a day or two after we were home. With DD we had some trouble getting her to latch but there were also issues with her sucking not being very strong. The pacifier actually seemed to improve her nursing.
I'm not even sure how to describe the sound. A nurse in the hospital when I was there had a five month old she was bf and described it as soundin like they're whispering. There shouldn't be any popping or clicking noises. The whisper might be pretty close with rhythmic gulping.
@Mizuiro007 Thanks- I know it's a totally weird question. I can usually just hear DD breathing through her nose and an occasional almost musical swallow which I think sounds a little like the TiVo noise, lol. But the last few days as we've been working on latch without the shield, I feel like I'm hearing more air being swallowed. I'm desperate to help her poor tummy.
@Alyssaerin996 It isn't a weird question at all. We're told so much of how to tell my sound if the latch is right but without hearing it you have no idea. Is it maybe like a coo? I've never had tivo so I have no idea what that sound is like, musically makes me think coo though. DD coos and sighs a lot which is normal. Sometimes if she does a lot of hard gulping she gets air and then it almost sounds like a croak as its trying to come back up.
I've got a very gassy baby on my hands! Here's a weird question: what does it *sound* like when you're nursing? Can you hear LO breathing or just the sound of gulping? I'm afraid I'm hearing too much air being sucked in by DD and I'm concerned it's our crappy latch. This is not an easy thing to Google... She is absolutely miserable with gas and it's breaking my heart that I can't help her. Gripe water and drops aren't really helping.
I'm not sure exactly how to answer this lol. I can hear him swallowing in the back of his throat. And his nose is stuffy so he sounds like a lil piggy. I know this is so not helpful.
My LO is having the same issue and we are trying to figure out if it's reflux, gas, my diet, or a combination of them all. It is so hard to figure out!
Have you tried the gas drops? One of the well known ones is Mylicon. The active ingredient smelthicone (spelling could be off). There are many brands. The reason I like Mylicon is because it comes with a syringe instead of a dropper. I can never measure right with the droppers. But I digress. Sometimes when gripe water is not successful, they try the drops and vice versa.
It's a hard question! Lol. I literally tried to YouTube it... "What should breastfeeding sound like". @Mizuiro007 It's not quite a coo because it's not a sound she is making with her voice, it's like a sound effect of her swallowing. I wish I could describe it. If I think of a non-TiVo analogy, I will post! I'm pretty sure I'm hearing too much air go down in the last couple days, though. She just seems uncomfortable, even when she's actively nursing.
@ksrkim I bought the drops! Just yesterday. The kind I got are the Little Remedies "gas relief drops". They help a little but it's almost just a momentary pause in the discomfort and 5 mins later she's wailing again. I was hoping for better results. She didn't seem to take to the gripe water either. SIGH
i think ill investigate the latch with my LC next week and then if that's not the culprit, I might try cutting out dairy. My friend said that did the trick for her when nothing else did. I'm just sad because...cheese!? And ice cream!?
@Alyssaerin996 I've been trying to think of a better way to describe it. Maybe like if you're drinking from a straw. You can hear sucking and swallowing and breathing but anything like the popping or clicking and you know there's a loss of suction and air is getting in.
Do you know if you have a heavy flow? Sometimes even if latch is perfect, they can swallow air trying to gulp and keep up with a fast flow. With that sometimes trying a different position or expressing a little first helps.
ETA: listening to DD I think I know what you're talking about. I'm not sure how I can share a recording but I do have one now. For her it is air although her latch is good. We just make sure to burp a lot. She hates being burped but it does seem to help.
@Alyssaerin996 the jury is still out with the gas drops for us too, but some people swear by them. I have been off dairy for a week now and boy is it hard. I just have to keep reminding myself that it is temporary. It still could be two more weeks before I see results. Meanwhile I feel so bad for my little guy who is clearly in pain. Good luck with everything and I feel your pain!
@dmendo01 DD does this to me when she wants to comfort nurse but is full. I now start her nursing and slip a pacifier in. She's also going through sleep issues and wants comfort because she'said tired but I'm pretty sure we're going through a sleep regression. DS did the same thing but was 3-4 months old. Sometimes I think when they start becoming more alert and aware of their environment they start fighting to stay awake and take in more. Then they get overtired and fussy. Not sure if this is what's going on with your LO since DD is 2 months.
This exactly. DD does this and she's 7 weeks. She wants to nurse constantly but rips off and gets mad and then keeps trying to the point where she spits up. Now that I've realized it means she's tired I just give her the pacifier instead. I try to get her to nap after every hour of being awake to avoid that point though.
Thanks for the advice! DD is 9 weeks and was doing that a bunch last night and I was getting so frustrated because I couldn't figure out what she wanted. I'll have a pacifier handy and try this!
@dmendo01Have you tried changing positions? I was having an issue two days ago where the baby would be latched on and there was plenty of milk available, but she acted like she couldn't get anything!
So, I googled my local chapter of La Leche League and found the hotline phone number. I called it and spoke to a woman who was a big help. She suggested that I try different positions, notably the "laid-back" position. This position was much more relaxing for me and baby.
We started DD on the Biogaia probiotic + vitamin d drops a week and a half ago. I put the drops on my nipples before nursing. These have helped soooo much with the gas.
We started DD on the Biogaia probiotic + vitamin d drops a week and a half ago. I put the drops on my nipples before nursing. These have helped soooo much with the gas.
We've done it a little differently but yes. Have to order biogaia so we got Gerber soothe drops (the probiotic is the same) and add them to a bottle of expressed milk each day. She still has major gas but seems much happier passing it.
My LO is 6 weeks, and I have been nursing successfully with a shield since the beginning. I'm now working on weaning from the shield, and have been able to do so on the right side but not yet on the left. Baby seems to be getting super confused because of the differences in sides now, and has issues latching with the shield. Has anyone used a shield just on one side successfully?
@rzaremba I just weaned off a nipple shield last week and the left side took longer for me too. So strange. For me it was more that the latch on the left was far more painful and the shield helped me from giving up completely in frustration. My LO didn't have confusion from one side to the other so I can't help there. However, one thing I did do that I think might have helped was to begin nursing with the shield on the left and after a few mins, when she was in a good, relaxed rhythm, I'd slip the shield out and pop her right back on. She almost didn't notice the brief interruption! So the majority of the feed she was actually nursing right on the nipple.
Good luck! Weaning off the nipple shield was hard work, but you got this.
Frustrated! I love to nurse DD but am starting to get so frustrated with the comfort nursing! I cannot hold my baby without her needing to nurse. She will be completely inconsolable until I give her what she wants. She ate for 45 minutes, slept for 20 and then DH held her she took her paci and was fine and then he left and as soon as I got her she screamed bloody murder, wouldn't take the paci, and when I finally nursed her she nursed for maybe 1 minute and passed out! It's causing me to really want to just pump and give her a bottle but I feel like I will regret it so I just need to rant a little!
@dmendo01 I have had that thought many times myself. I even pumped before work as well as at work and only nursed my LO twice yesterday. It made those two times so much more special and relaxing.
Feeling frustrated... It seems like everytime I make progress in breastfeeding something sets me back again. I feel like I'm annoying the lactation consultant because I call so often. I just got off the nipple sheild and was working on pumping and breastfeeding to get my supply up ( I was only getting 1.5oz total when I pumped), and decreasing the supplemental formula we were using due to my LO not getting enough to eat and loosing weight. I got up to 2.5 or 3 oz when pumping and down to 4-8oz of formula a day and now my nipples all of a sudden hurt and I am having to feed him formula more than feed him. I'm not sure if it's latch or if something else is wrong. I'm not using what I have saved from pumping because I need it for when I go back to work in March since I can't get enough from one pumping session to feed him. I think about just giving up everyday. My LO will be 8 weeks on Wednesday and I feel like that is pretty successful but my goal was six months. I have tried so hard and have worked through issue after issue and thought maybe I was on the right path but I can't seem to win. How do you ladies keep the motivation to contiue when faced when so many obstacles?
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BFP # 2 March 23rd, Rainbow Baby Boy Jayce Michael born 12/9/15
BFP#3 January 26th EDD October 9th! Hoping for my girl!
Does anyone's LO pull off your breast multiple times during feeding? Sometimes my little guy wiggles all over and unlatches himself then keeps wiggling so much looking for my nipple but won't re-latch and it's so frustrating. I know it's not because he's full because he's actively searching for it, and it's usually only been 5 minutes of feeding when this happens. It's so frustrating!
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Just hoping that since I won't be around she will acclimate quickly. Crossing my fingers anyway!
@AnnH74 yes! It didn't hit me until recently but I am hungry all the damn time. Im now choosing making a snack over sleeping when lo naps, lol.
@laurabwalker I lost 28lb the first two weeks from this also and I feel famished all the time! But I still have 15lb to go so..here's hoping the breast feeding keeps driving my weight down. It is definitely difficult esp with the cluster feeding so I'm happy there's the perk of calorie burnage!
I'm not even sure how to describe the sound. A nurse in the hospital when I was there had a five month old she was bf and described it as soundin like they're whispering. There shouldn't be any popping or clicking noises. The whisper might be pretty close with rhythmic gulping.
My LO is having the same issue and we are trying to figure out if it's reflux, gas, my diet, or a combination of them all. It is so hard to figure out!
Have you tried the gas drops? One of the well known ones is Mylicon. The active ingredient smelthicone (spelling could be off). There are many brands. The reason I like Mylicon is because it comes with a syringe instead of a dropper. I can never measure right with the droppers. But I digress. Sometimes when gripe water is not successful, they try the drops and vice versa.
@Mizuiro007 It's not quite a coo because it's not a sound she is making with her voice, it's like a sound effect of her swallowing. I wish I could describe it. If I think of a non-TiVo analogy, I will post! I'm pretty sure I'm hearing too much air go down in the last couple days, though. She just seems uncomfortable, even when she's actively nursing.
@ksrkim I bought the drops! Just yesterday. The kind I got are the Little Remedies "gas relief drops". They help a little but it's almost just a momentary pause in the discomfort and 5 mins later she's wailing again. I was hoping for better results. She didn't seem to take to the gripe water either. SIGH
i think ill investigate the latch with my LC next week and then if that's not the culprit, I might try cutting out dairy. My friend said that did the trick for her when nothing else did. I'm just sad because...cheese!? And ice cream!?
Do you know if you have a heavy flow? Sometimes even if latch is perfect, they can swallow air trying to gulp and keep up with a fast flow. With that sometimes trying a different position or expressing a little first helps.
ETA: listening to DD I think I know what you're talking about. I'm not sure how I can share a recording but I do have one now. For her it is air although her latch is good. We just make sure to burp a lot. She hates being burped but it does seem to help.
For those of you needing a little bit more encouragement to keep going. A very interesting read this evening.
milk available, but she acted like she couldn't get anything!
So, I googled my local chapter of La Leche League and found the hotline phone number. I called it and spoke to a woman who was a big help. She suggested that I try different positions, notably the "laid-back" position. This position was much more relaxing for me and baby.
Good luck! Weaning off the nipple shield was hard work, but you got this.
BFP #1 April 14th, 2014 MMC at 17weeks with a baby boy D&E
BFP # 2 March 23rd, Rainbow Baby Boy Jayce Michael born 12/9/15
BFP#3 January 26th EDD October 9th! Hoping for my girl!
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