:( my miscarriage

ericaz54

I first learned I was pregnant 10/13/15. I was so happy couldn't wait to tell my family. I made lots of mistakes though first I didn't go see a doctor to check if I was healthy or which nutrition I was lacking. I know ppl say there is nothing you can do to prevent a miscarriage but I feel like there is. 11/13/15 The night my miscarriage started I was cramping and bleeding and I refuse to go to the ER I don't know why i didn't go. Regardless the next morning I went to use the restroom and out came the lil embryo I cried my eyes out in disbelief and I went to bury it at the temple. I am currently trying to conceive again hopefully all goes well this time.

DaniGrace89

I'm so sorry. So sorry. Have you followed up with a doctor?

1faceinacrowd

If it's any consolation, I did EVERYTHING you're supposed to do. I started prenatal vitamins a month before starting to TTC. I had been pregnant once before (totally healthy pregnancy leading to a full-term child) so I knew all of the "dos and don'ts" of nutrition and ate very healthily. I completely cut out caffeine. I called the doctor's office immediately to set up an appointment, which they scheduled for just over 7 weeks (that's the earliest most doctors will see you unless you have a history of m/c or are high risk). I went to the ER as soon as I noticed spotting where they did an ultrasound and checked my levels and confirmed that I was miscarrying and there was nothing they could do.

I'm a healthy 25-year-old. I did everything you're "supposed" to do, and I had a miscarriage.

There are things that can up your chances of miscarriage, but at the end of the day, most of the time there is nothing you could've done. Don't blame yourself for this. I'm very sorry for your loss and I hope you can find peace and move forward. It's a terrible thing to experience.

ericaz54

Yes I went to see him but all he did was refer me to a obgyn and schedule a ultrasound 12/3 so now I'm just waiting.. It's ridiculous how long it takes to get checked out by a doctor.

ericaz54

Also sorry for your loss. It's true I should not be beating myself up for something that is out of my control, I just wanted to be a mother so bad I just hope everything would turn out good. I'm still a bit shocked and I can't believe how painful it is to lose a child even if I've never met them.

tinypikachu

It is very painful, I'm sorry you're going through this right now. I too "did all the right things", I ate very healthy, had been taking prenatal vitamins for months, wasn't drinking coffee and I even stopped wearing perfume and doing my nails and swapped out all my skin care and shampoo for natural ones. It didn't make a difference and it won't in the future. If you think of it, there are many women out there that have healthy babies after doing drugs and drinking heavily while pregnant. Relax... Unfortunately these things happen and no one at the doctor's office would have been able to prevent it.

ericaz54

Yeah you're right. Thanks for your response.