2nd tri expectations vs reality

yogahh

So, we all should be in 2nd tri now I think, right? So far, its not all its cracked up to be for me... what about you guys?

For myself I expected to feel more "pregnant". I don't. At all. I actually have been pretty ok with the worries, but woke up this morning feeling that old nagging feeling that the baby died. I guess I thought I would be past this by this point. But the shrinking bump isn't helping my worries!

I also thought this would be the "honeymoon" period. But if anything, I am worse now than 1st tri. Since I wasn't hit with horrible MS, I guess I am getting my fill of pregnancy issues this tri. Headaches, sore legs and feet (like I ran a marathon in heels every day). RLP and cramping.  I am calling this the "tri of pain". 

Lusitano8

My MIL keeps asking me if I'm feeling better because the 2nd tri I'm "supposed" to feel great! I was lucky with only a few weeks of MS and it was not bad at all. 

Since week 14 I've been sleeping worse and have heartburn. I'm also fricken exhausted all the time, I have no energy to do anything. I'm also still worrying about baby beeing healthy, can't wait for the US in 2 more weeks!

So far the honeymoon phase is a lie! 

nay09

My 2nd trimester is ok some things are better some are worse. Morning sickness is gone but I still hate food. I'm also way more tired than I expected. Also that wonderful heartburn has started, but at least it's not everyday...yet.

Bluejay3030

I'm pretty sure the fabled glorious second trimester is a myth.  It definitely is for me.  With this baby and with DD I felt sick well into second trimester.  I remember the shrinking bump from last time, so I'm okay with that.  I finally feel less bloated and have the beginning of a legit bump forming.  But the surge of energy?  Nope.  Glow?  Definitely not.  Food aversions gone?  Better, but definitely not gone.  And as @nay09 said, the heartburn!  Ugh, I don't remember it starting this early last time around.

That said, I do feel better, and second trimester is definitely a reprieve from the nastiness of 1st trimester and before all the new grossness that comes with 3rd trimester.... soooooo, I guess that's the highlight.

Pascal86

@yogahh I'm at 13w3d, due May 27th, so depending on how you count your trimesters, a few of us are still on the very tail end of the first. But if you count trimesters based on symptoms, I think I started the second sometime in the last week - gone from nausea for half the day over to heartburn after big meals, crampy calves, and some RLP.

I was so exhausted and sick first trimester, I only had to feel slightly better to get pretty excited to be out of that phase. Hope it just keeps getting better before I get big!

LadySamLady

Honestly, I think I'd take the pain and weirdness of the 2nd tri over the nausea and throwing up of the 1st tri any day. I hate nausea and throwing up more than anything, so the 2nd tri will always win out a little bit for me.

That said, I'm still waiting for the mythical energy boost to come my way. I am so effing tired. All. the. time.

yogahh

LadySamLady said:

Honestly, I think I'd take the pain and weirdness of the 2nd tri over the nausea and throwing up of the 1st tri any day. I hate nausea and throwing up more than anything, so the 2nd tri will always win out a little bit for me.

That said, I'm still waiting for the mythical energy boost to come my way. I am so effing tired. All. the. time.

I am also still soo soo tired. I have been able to stay up until 9:00 now (yeah!) and last night laid in bed watching tv until 10:00. So its a bit better than the 7:30/8:00 bedtime I was having during 1st tri!

LadySamLady

yogahh said:

LadySamLady said:

Honestly, I think I'd take the pain and weirdness of the 2nd tri over the nausea and throwing up of the 1st tri any day. I hate nausea and throwing up more than anything, so the 2nd tri will always win out a little bit for me.

That said, I'm still waiting for the mythical energy boost to come my way. I am so effing tired. All. the. time.

I am also still soo soo tired. I have been able to stay up until 9:00 now (yeah!) and last night laid in bed watching tv until 10:00. So its a bit better than the 7:30/8:00 bedtime I was having during 1st tri!

Me too!! I'm staying up til 9 now and feel like a boss.

cortney626

I was sooooo sick during the first trimester, so the 2nd trimester has been wonderful in comparison. I do have more heartburn and headaches. I don't have a ton of energy. But I can eat healthy and work out. I'm enjoying it now even with the little pains, etc because once 3rd trimester rolls around I'll be even bigger and more uncomfortable. But it's all worth it. 

Jparke2

Yes! I just had this conversation with my husband. I'm so sick of people being like "Second trimester! You must be feeling much better, have you had your burst of energy yet?!" NO. I still feel pretty crappy (though, I do think I feel better in some ways... but worse in others...), my body hurts, I still pass as just a fat person and not pregnant to most people, I'm always hungry but food is still gross, I'm exhausted, walking up the steps and standing up is getting harder, and I've yet to have any burst of energy! And DH keeps asking me when I'm going to get the 2nd trimester horniness. UGH! I do have to say though that I'm happy I'm out of the first trimester and all of the worry. Don't get me wrong, I still worry a lot about the baby's health and all that, but I don't have that constant, daily fear of miscarriage like I did in the first couple months. I know it'll all be worth it in the end!!! Just a bit hard to deal with in the moment

tgortney

I've been feeling anxious again about whether or not the baby is alive in there. My next US is Dec 9 for the anatomy scan. But I have a check up Nov 25 which I'm hoping they will use a Doppler and at least listen to the HB or something!

Second tri hasn't been any different from first tri for me. No MS but some waves of intense nausea and headaches. Also, holy itchy nipples! Ugh! It's so bad!

I also loveeee going to bed at 9-10pm BUT it's so hard to sleep on my side constantly and I'm always waking up to make sure I'm not on my back which is friggin annoying!

lalala2004

I didn't have much nausea and no vomiting in 1st Tri, so it's not much difference to me. I only have slightly more energy, but I'm way more sore, so it balances out to make me no more productive....

Merciel

The shrinking bump is/was weird. I hadn't heard about that and wasn't expecting it, so am glad to see that I'm not the only one experiencing that symptom!

Other than that, things seem to be pretty much on track as far as I can tell. I did expect to feel "more pregnant" now than I did during the first trimester, but since I tend to equate that with feeling heavier and more miserable, I'm pretty glad to be wrong.

kbrands7

LadySamLady said:

Honestly, I think I'd take the pain and weirdness of the 2nd tri over the nausea and throwing up of the 1st tri any day. I hate nausea and throwing up more than anything, so the 2nd tri will always win out a little bit for me.

That said, I'm still waiting for the mythical energy boost to come my way. I am so effing tired. All. the. time.

My energy didn't hit until this past weekend at 16w2d. Today the energy got used up quickly at work and fighting off a headache.

Otherwise, I'm having headaches several days per week though, which I didn't have last time. I'm used to the BH contractions and RLP from last pregnancy because they happened a lot.

KyllieThomson

I'm probably a unicorn in this group of women, but other than some pretty solid tiredness (or maybe it's just laziness) I feel pretty good! Restless leg syndrome has gotten worse since I had it before, and some random nausea here and there.

But one thing I can't stand that I am pretty sure everyone is feeling: I don't feel pregnant. At all. Damn it's a scary feeling!! And definitely experiencing the shrinking bump! Thank god for my Dr appt tomorrow so I can hear the heartbeat...

proudparent2b

Agreed on being over the tiredness! I'm able to keep normal hours again, but I don't have much energy to do anything during those waking hours. Blah!!!

Sunshinebins

This thread is making me feel better!

I too do not feel pregnant/worry constantly/ feel like the babies died. And it freaks me out.

My bump is also not exactly what I expected

My energy is definitely better then first tri, as is my nausea, but both still hit regularly. And holy heartburn/bloat/gas/general discomfort. I guess it could be since I seem to be able to keep down normal food now, but just about everything makes me uncomfortable later. And the headaches seem to have a mind of their own too

Here's to the end of second tri being like a magical rainbow with pink ponies dancing!

JessicaB0627

2nd tri has been much better to me so far. I was so ridiculously over the puking, and other than a few mornings while I'm brushing my teeth I really haven't been puking anymore. I did have a really awful migraine a couple weeks ago welcoming me into 2nd tri, so if that happens more often I might change my tune!

I have had quite a bit more energy too. If I remember correctly from DD, my acid reflux will most likely get way worse and my legs will probably start cramping in the middle of the night soon. My foot cramped up yesterday so it's only a matter of time. But I will gladly take anything over puking and not being able to eat! I love food!

I also haven't had much of the worry since my doctor is being a little overly cautious and making me go to appointments every 2 weeks. Which is annoying but I like being able to hear the heartbeat that often!

Vivian0809

For my last two pregnancies, I felt so much better in the 2nd trimester, and my energy came back... But it didn't happen until 17ish weeks. So there's hope!
I force myself to work out everyday.. Even if I feel awful. I walk/jog combo a few miles and the fresh air just makes such a difference how I'm feeling. If you aren't already, maybe consider it?

wsgjmw1

That meme sums it up for me. Nobody at work can tell I am pregnant, in fact when I told them they seemed shocked and immediately looked at my stomach. I just had a nice little beer belly going on right now. I know this is happening, but it still doesn't feel real for me. Maybe until I have a real solid baby bump like the basketball under the shirt deal, OR i can feel this baby inside me, but as for now its weird. Speaking of headaches, I have a killer one right now. However I have been able to stay up until 9, WINNING!

Turtle37

I have been wondering if the glorious 2nd trimester is a myth. So far it is just an extension of the miserable first trimester. And oh so many headaches...

doozer1345

This was exactly what I felt. I literally felt un-pg. Told the doctor about it and they hooked me up to the doppler and babe is still there. I think maybe it's bc I don't feel sick or as tired. With DD I started really feeling pg at 20 weeks or so when my belly really started popping out and I would start to leak pee when I laughed or sneezed. I'm trying to remind myself of that time to try and enjoy right now where I'm not as big as a bus and I still have some control over my bodily functions.

saladflambe

2nd tri has, so far, been pretty magical for me. Aside from feeling fat and weepy - those things are bleh, but they're nothing compared to 1st tri nausea. I can cook again, don't need to turn off the tv at seafood commercials (barf), am sleeping ok, and the baby's so much more real now that I know she's a girl (and her name is Emma!)

yogahh

saladflambe said:

2nd tri has, so far, been pretty magical for me. Aside from feeling fat and weepy - those things are bleh, but they're nothing compared to 1st tri nausea. I can cook again, don't need to turn off the tv at seafood commercials (barf), am sleeping ok, and the baby's so much more real now that I know she's a girl (and her name is Emma!)

Congrats on your little girl!!!

Bltbear82

So far there doesn't seem to be a big difference, I'm almost 17 weeks. Last pregnancy my second tri was amazing and I loved that burst of energy. Running after a toddler now takes all of my energy but I'm hoping over the next few weeks I turn a corner. Fingers crossed!

mrstmoose

I pretty much just entered the 2nd tri but I've noticed less nausea but more migraines/headaches, RLP and I also notice the pain in my legs the last two days. I'm still super tired and have only a tad more energy.

camillaandcarson

DH keeps saying for months now you will feel better in the 2nd tri.  He is trying to make me feel better.
"Are you in the 2nd tri yet, when will you be in the 2nd tri?" (this question is asked frequently).
First week of 2nd tri, " Oh well, maybe next week, for sure next week".
Second week of 2nd tri, "In only a couple days or even tomorrow, that will be for sure."

CBS78

So glad this thread was started! I'm 17 weeks and I thought I was crazy for still feeling tired all the time. I also feel like I've run a marathon every day - my body is sooo sore, definitely didn't have this during my first pregnancy. Every day I sit at my desk at work and dream about getting a deep tissue massage (something not really allowed during pregnancy lol). I also haven't felt any kicks yet so it's a constant worry about the baby. 

It's great not to be sick anymore but so far this is far from the "honeymoon" trimester everyone thinks it is.

wsgjmw1

camillaandcarson said:

DH keeps saying for months now you will feel better in the 2nd tri.  He is trying to make me feel better.
"Are you in the 2nd tri yet, when will you be in the 2nd tri?" (this question is asked frequently).
First week of 2nd tri, " Oh well, maybe next week, for sure next week".
Second week of 2nd tri, "In only a couple days or even tomorrow, that will be for sure."

LOL, that is too funny. My hubs did the same exact thing, and still continues to do so. It is kinda sweet.

emma+karen

After a week or more of not throwing up, I hit 2nd tri today at 14 weeks and promptly walked into my office and puked in the trashcan.  So, yeah, no happy glow for me yet!

GoatSnakeMouse

Right now I'm having random bursts of nesting energy, but they're not sustained or consistent. So, for example, I'll figure out all of the different kinds of lightbulbs we need to replace throughout the house, run to Home Depot and buy them, and then let them sit on the kitchen table for a week because replacing bulbs suddenly seems like the hardest thing ever...

MellieRoseVargas

I honestly feel like absolute crappie lol rlp hungry all the time and then when I eat or drink anything I'm nausea, my mood swings and emotions are still all over the place, smells bother me, ugh I hope I'm not like this all pregnancy. This Pregnancy is completely different then my other two.

1mae2016

Second trimester is awful. I have constant pangs and pains all the time and some even wake me in my sleep. Although I am completely exhausted I can't seem to get a full night's rest in. My hips feel like someone pulled the bone out of the socket and nailed it back in with a hammer. On top of that I have completely lost my appetite and have a sinus infection. Also, since I still haven't felt my little baby move at all, or maybe I have and just assumed it was gas, I'm still constantly worried about baby.
FTM
14 weeks

yogahh

One thing that is exactly how I imagined...I am hungry all the time!m I have a feeling this is going to be poor DH pretty soon

rlworzalla

I thought the second trimester was supposed to bring less fatigue....but it seems that it's bringing MORE!

amscape

I'm barely into the 2nd trimester but November has been way, way better than the previous 2 months of exhaustion, some nausea, & good aversions. I still am in bed by 8 most days but my walk home from the train doesn't make me want to cry from tiredness anymore.

Kurrant

Well...I don't feel nauseated all day anymore and I don't need to nap as much but that's been replaced by strange pains. Every time I stand up at a normal pace I get a sharp stabbing in my lower right abdomen. I have headaches all the time. Just standing in the shower is causing my heart to race. Heck, right now I am lying down on the sofa and have been for over 5 minutes and my heart rate is 92bpm. No 2nd Tri euphoria here yet!

zekesmommy611

I am trying to enjoy this time as much as possible before I feel like a beached whale! I loved my pregnancy with DS from like 20-35ish weeks. I could feel/see him kick and move around, I had a very cute baby bump that was easy to dress, I could still see my toes and my shoes still fit... Life was good. From 36-41 weeks I was absolutely done being pregnant. I was huge. Every part of my body was swollen, I had to wear sandals to work (thankfully it was summer), DS turned and changed positions every week which was very uncomfortable and I couldn't sleep, ever. So I'm trying my best to remember that this pregnancy is going to fly by and soon I'll be absolutely miserable LOL!

Missingchampagne

I'm still exhausted after every minor thing, but I'm delighted to have figured out that these mystery headaches I had been getting were hunger! I had headaches all pregnancy, but no feelings of hunger in my stomach. When I finally put 2 and 2 together and noticed that eating fixes the headaches, my life got much better.

avidkeo

tgortney said:

I've been feeling anxious again about whether or not the baby is alive in there. My next US is Dec 9 for the anatomy scan. But I have a check up Nov 25 which I'm hoping they will use a Doppler and at least listen to the HB or something!

Second tri hasn't been any different from first tri for me. No MS but some waves of intense nausea and headaches. Also, holy itchy nipples! Ugh! It's so bad!

I also loveeee going to bed at 9-10pm BUT it's so hard to sleep on my side constantly and I'm always waking up to make sure I'm not on my back which is friggin annoying!

Sleep on your back if thats how you ate most comfortable! There is no reason you cant. Yes later on in pregnancy there is a slight risk when baby gets bigger, but you will wake up before that becomes an issue!

I hate it when people say you can't sleep on your back because its just fearmongering!

yogahh

avidkeo said:

I've been feeling anxious again about whether or not the baby is alive in there. My next US is Dec 9 for the anatomy scan. But I have a check up Nov 25 which I'm hoping they will use a Doppler and at least listen to the HB or something! Second tri hasn't been any different from first tri for me. No MS but some waves of intense nausea and headaches. Also, holy itchy nipples! Ugh! It's so bad! I also loveeee going to bed at 9-10pm BUT it's so hard to sleep on my side constantly and I'm always waking up to make sure I'm not on my back which is friggin annoying!

Sleep on your back if thats how you ate most comfortable! There is no reason you cant. Yes later on in pregnancy there is a slight risk when baby gets bigger, but you will wake up before that becomes an issue! I hate it when people say you can't sleep on your back because its just fearmongering!

THANK YOU!!!! I keep waking up on my back and every time I am worried I suffocated the baby since it apparently blocks oxygen? I never knew I was a back sleeper until PG.