Push Present

jennahkross

Did any of you get a push present after you gave birth?

ForeverEverAfter

I put no, but I did get a cake that DD1 picked out for me.

KissMeImScottish

I certainly didn't ask for one, but my husband came home from work about a week before I delivered and gave me these and told me "we've been buying all these things for the baby and have been so focused on getting ready for him that I want you to have something nice, too, to remind how very proud I am of you and how much I love and appreciate you."

He does things like this on a fairly regular basis, though. I have a pretty huge collection of gifts in general that are "just because I love you" or "this has been a rough week/month" gifts and he has a personal rule that I should never go more than two weeks without fresh flowers in the house. These were just a pretty significant step up from the usual fare.

What's so special about them is that they are very, very similar to the necklace that my dad got for my mom when she had me and my husband knows that how much I love pearls. He's a seriously amazing husband and father.

Edited to Add: He also bought our son a teddy bear when he went to grab lunch while I was in labor (I had an epidural, and was more bored than anything - no pain. So he asked if he could leave me for a couple minutes and I just watched HGTV while he was gone. So much HGTV during my 27 hour labor...haha)

jennahkross

@ktewart that is so sweet!

ElleMF728

I got a baby, does that count?

urfcerin

Pushed out one baby and had two surgically removed and there have been no presents!

jen83mn

I got a Subway deli sandwich on the way home from the hospital, which is exactly what I wanted!

stumpty

My husband surprised me with an iPad mini the night before my delivery. I feel so guilty because I hardly use it. Sometimes I'll sit down with it when he's in the room so it looks like I get use out of it but really my phone does everything I need. It was a very nice gift though and I am in no way complaining.

ahoneycutt12

DH brought up getting me a necklace after LO was born (he wants me to pick stuff out because he doesn't want to get the wrong thing) but I was trying to be good and not spend extra money... hooray c-section bill lol

mwertalik

My husband bought me a sapphire ring. I thought it was so sweet and thoughtful. I hope one day to pass it on to my daughter-like your dad gave this to me on the day you born...blah blah blah. Of course, she was the ultimate gift, but it didn't suck getting an extra something from the hubby

myfingerhurts

@jen83mn I got Jimmy Johns! And a few hours later I ordered another one. It was majestic.

babyplut

Geeze I didn't even know what a "push" present was till I read the comments lol is there a you got me knocked up present? Because I think someone is owing me some presents with interest...

KissMeImScottish

I think it's a sweet idea, as long as it's not expected. It's like any present (birthday, Christmas, etc). You don't expect it, but it's appreciated if it's done. When I wear the pearls my husband gave me, it always makes him smile because he likes to see me enjoying something he did to spoil me, especially since I was definitely NOT spoiling myself around that time.

I'm going to preface this next statement by saying I'm certainly not accusing anyone here of suggesting this, BUT, it's a major pet peeve of mine when people make other people feel poorly for being excited about receiving a gift for doing something that is life changing. This seems like such a divisive subject and it absolutely shouldn't be. Some relationships involve the exchange of gifts more frequently than others. It shouldn't be shameful or require justification as to why you received a present from your husband or partner, regardless of the occasion. Yes, my son is an incredible gift - I went through fertility treatments and a whole lot of prayers to make him happen, so I feel this as strongly as anyone - but a physical reminder as an expression of my husband's appreciation of me isn't something I should need to come up with an excuse for. It's part of his love language for me.

End rant, haha. Sorry, it's just a major pet peeve of mine, the mommy shaming. However, everyone on this board had been very respectful just in general, so please don't anyone feel like that was aimed at them.

kate913

I got diamond earrings, it was a birthday present too. LO was born on my birthday and it was a traumatizing delivery.

monicaP

After my first my husband gave me a diamond necklace, after my third he gave me granola bars

Not gonna lie, the granola bars were much more useful... And now I'm hungry

CSchoFink

DH gave me a bracelet that is almost identical to the one my dad (who passed away three years ago and for whom my son is named) gave my mom when she had me (I'm the first born). That would have been special enough as is, but it was also my MIL's from her mother, so it's a gift keeping in "tradition" with my family that is being passed down from his family. I love the sentimentality of it--DH was so thoughtful for making this happen.

dmbfan46835

We are getting granite countertops for my push present. He said he planned on doing it while we were in the hospital with the baby so when I got home they'd be done (hate my counter tops and sink with a passion) but was worried if hate what he picked out. And he is right im sure. So once this shitty Indiana winter passes we will drive up and pick out our slab and get the ball rolling we don't ever do Christmas, bday or anniversary gifts so it was nice for DH to think about something like this. I imagine he had friends tell him about the idea of a push present.

eah325

ktewart said:

I'm going to preface this next statement by saying I'm certainly not accusing anyone here of suggesting this, BUT, it's a major pet peeve of mine when people make other people feel poorly for being excited about receiving a gift for doing something that is life changing. This seems like such a divisive subject and it absolutely shouldn't be. Some relationships involve the exchange of gifts more frequently than others. It shouldn't be shameful or require justification as to why you received a present from your husband or partner, regardless of the occasion. Yes, my son is an incredible gift - I went through fertility treatments and a whole lot of prayers to make him happen, so I feel this as strongly as anyone - but a physical reminder as an expression of my husband's appreciation of me isn't something I should need to come up with an excuse for. It's part of his love language for me.

End rant, haha. Sorry, it's just a major pet peeve of mine, the mommy shaming. However, everyone on this board had been very respectful just in general, so please don't anyone feel like that was aimed at them.

Yes! People should read the book the Five Love Languages. It's an excellent read that outlines the way in which people give and receive love. Gift giving is one of the love languages and people shouldn't be judged for giving or receiving a gift.

jennahkross

I should have added comments to my poll, that with all the recent hubub about Kim Kardashian and her push present, I was just curious if anyone here had gotten one or not. Not really for or against push presents, but I definitely wouldn't have turned it down if hubby had decided to get me one!

bumptink

DH got me a Willow Tree "expecting mother" for Mother's Day this year. I wasn't expecting a push present, but he surprised me with the Willow Tree family figure! It was so sweet and special. We already have the marriage one too. He bought the family one at the same time as the one from Mother's Day and had been saving it since!

annibanani0929

All throughout my pregnancy, I wore a necklace with the initial of my soon-to-be baby's name, which was the letter A. It wasn't very expensive, but it was a daily reminder of our little blessing. As a push present, my husband bought me a more expensive initial pendant, made of diamonds, silver, and rose gold. It holds so much sentimental value and I will have this for years to come!

dmbfan46835

jennahkross said:

I should have added comments to my poll, that with all the recent hubub about Kim Kardashian and her push present, I was just curious if anyone here had gotten one or not. Not really for or against push presents, but I definitely wouldn't have turned it down if hubby had decided to get me one!

So I hadn't heard about Kim K'a request so I had to look it up... Is this B for real?!! I million dollar choker?? And she really thinks she "deserves" it. I want to throat punch her!!! She only wore chokers to try and hide the weight age gained in her face because she's the most vain person in existence. Like she's gonna wear that shit again. Donate that money to Mali or Kenya. God I hate her!!

Rant over

beansideirae

my LO was born the day before our anniversary and I didn't get presents for either, heh. but we had zero money at the time. hubby got me flowers a few weeks later when he had some cash.

jennahkross

@dmbfan46835 isn't it crazy!!

blehsm

Yes but I ordered it myself. My DH was fine with it. I ordered a pendant with my twins birthday then each of their first initials and their birth stone. My DH also calls our new car a push present but I call it a necessity

Sully3302

We also got a new suv a few weeks before her arrival (definitely a necessity). It is primarily mine... So I'll consider my baby and new family ride my push presents

jen83mn

klhelder said:

@jen83mn I got Jimmy Johns! And a few hours later I ordered another one. It was majestic.

I also ate red sauce and tomatoes to my heart's galore! They were off limits third tri due to my acid reflux, but once baby came out, the reflux went away immediately!

Growingapepper

I voted that I didn't get a push present and wanted one. I feel gulity.. after I had the baby my husband took me out for sushi, grilled me a humongous medium rare steak, and made me eggs benedict (he wouldn't let me eat runny eggs) the three things I had been missing most. While part of me wishes I had gotten something a little more sentimental, my husband thinks food is my #1 so I need to appreciate those.

Dot30324

Pushed 3.5hrs followed by c section. Hubby got me a locket!

adeckard2014

dmbfan46835 said:

We are getting granite countertops for my push present. He said he planned on doing it while we were in the hospital with the baby so when I got home they'd be done (hate my counter tops and sink with a passion) but was worried if hate what he picked out. And he is right im sure. So once this shitty Indiana winter passes we will drive up and pick out our slab and get the ball rolling we don't ever do Christmas, bday or anniversary gifts so it was nice for DH to think about something like this. I imagine he had friends tell him about the idea of a push present.

Where do you live in Indiana? I'm in brown county!

adeckard2014

jen83mn said:

klhelder said:

@jen83mn I got Jimmy Johns! And a few hours later I ordered another one. It was majestic.

I also ate red sauce and tomatoes to my heart's galore! They were off limits third tri due to my acid reflux, but once baby came out, the reflux went away immediately!

I got a HUGE fountain Diet Coke after refraining my entire pregnancy. Best gift ever. I cried at the sight of it.

dmbfan46835

@adeckard2014 hey there! I'm in Fort Wayne! I love brown county!! My grandparents are from there. The Coffeys and the Boughtons. What a gorgeous place! You are very lucky!!!