Mine goes to my SIL this weekend. I spent my Saturday afternoon (after DSs 2nd birthday party that morning) cooking my part for thanksgiving lunch (hashbrown casserole, homemade Mac n cheese, pumpkin cheesecake). You know what my SIL made? Cranberry sauce from a can, vanilla pudding with fruit cocktail dumped in it, and her husband dumped green beans from a can because she didn't "feel good." And she didn't make it to church that morning (that's whatever) and took a morning nap and we all had to wait on her to get there. Seriously?!?
And she wouldn't stfu about how she's potty training her almost 18 month old...that just started walking at 16 months.
Gah I feel better. Thank you.
ETA: because angry typing in mcds drive thru before work is hard.
I stubbed my toe on a pumpkin yesterday, likely broke my toe but won't do xrays to confirm, but.the worst is the huge piece of pumpkin skin lodged UNDER MY TOENAIL that cannot be removed because pumpkin skin is fleshy and can't be gripped with tweezers. So after I dug around with tweezers, needles, and nail clippers, the ER doctor confirms I just have to wait it out. Meanwhile, I'm pregnant so no pain meds and not even a numbing drink. Have you ever had a cm long piece of anything lodged under your toenail? Probably in my list of top pains ever. And I've been through labor, broken bones, and surgery to remove lymph nodes. I did not sleep more than an hour due to the pain, spent the whole night crying. So that is my BFM.
We've had our mattress for 6 months and it still has that chemically "off gas" smell to it! It's definitely not as strong as when we first took the packaging off, but it makes all the bedding stink and I'm worried that it's emitting some kind of toxic chemicals. Everything I've read online says mattresses will off gas for a few days... not 6 months!! We've let it air out multiple times including when we got it. Every time we go out of town for a few days we strip all the bedding off and open the windows so it can keep airing out. I've put baking soda all over it, sprayed it with odo-ban... I just don't know what to do anymore and it's SOOO annoying! I'm mostly pissed off at myself because it's probably too late for the store to do anything about it and mattresses are so expensive, we definitely are not in the market for a new one. Argh!
@imrachellea ouch! Did they recommend a soak in Epsom salts or anything like that? I'm cringing just picturing that.
Mine is truly a #pregnantwomanproblem. My DH's holiday party is always at the same place, and they always do a buffet with this AMAZING pasta. I'm obsessed. It's a private venue, so you have to be a member and we can't just go whenever.
This year, he sends me menu selections! No pasta! 3 meat dishes! Yuck!!! PASTA, I WANT THE FREAKING PASTA.
In my defense, I have a headache and a cold, so this feels like the end of the world this morning.. Clearly, it's not.
@MrsCayEye I've already informed DH that we will be getting me a wheelchair. As ridiculous as that seems for a toe, it could also help us avoid some lines...
@misstopsail Yes soaks of Epsom salts, keeping antibacterial ointment on it, and taking an antibiotic to avoid infection (that I have to run by my OB first). I also want to find out if there us any pain meds I can take. The ER doc wanted to give me something because she said my pain isn't good for the baby, but didn't know what was safe
@imrachellea rock that wheelchair! No sense in putting yourself through agony. Your OB should be able to give you something for the pain, there are some things you can use sparingly.
First one goes out to my job. I was supposed to be off this week, but thanks to what always seems to be an emergency, I now have to go in for a series of meetings. I've barely taken any time off this year and I was really looking forward to being able to check out for once.
Second one occurred while I was typing up the first and goes out to mother nature. Hello?!?! I'm supposed to be in the honeymoon phase of pregnancy, so what's up with the vomit? And now because I no longer have any bladder control, a little but of pee comes out with each upheaval. Just ugh!!!!
Why does no one know how to drive through a 4-way stop?
People! It's not stop, wait for one car to go, take your turn ... it's stop, wait for EVERYONE who got there before you to go and then take your turn. PS. if you got there at the same time as another car, the car to your right has the right-of-way.
@spatter1, no way your mattress should be smelling for that long. Contact the store, and then the manufacturer! And if you decide to go for a new one, we have a tuft & needle that we LOVE that was very reasonable ($600 for queen). Caspar is similar and a little cushier depending on your preference.
My BFM goes to my oldest stepson (age 15). He's failing a couple of classes and had just earned his phone back 2 weeks ago. Grades have fallen again so he lost it again on Thursday. Somehow he figured out where it was hidden, in the back of a drawer in my bathroom, and snuck it out last night thinking I wouldn't notice while his dad was at a football game. When I confronted him, he was not at all apologetic. He's not texting anyone, he's just playing idiotic games. I don't really know what else to do with him (other than find a better hiding place for his phone, obv). Also, he took 2 of my middle brownie pieces either late last night or this morning. I think I'm just as irritated about that as I am about the shit grades and cell phone.
If any of my neighbors has not salted their sidewalk by tomorrow morning, I'll be taking pictures of their house number and submitting a complaint to the city, and I'll be submitting complaints this year every time you don't get that ice cleared by the next morning. It's not a suggestion, it's a city ordinance, and you're responsible even if you're just a tenant. Every flipping year it's the same story; snow falls, no one clears it, it melts down and freezes over again as solid ice, snow falls again, melts down, repeat ad nauseam until the ice is a good 3 or 4 inches thick. Not this year! I'm not going to wait until January this year for you jagoffs to get your acts together; I shouldn't have to carve out an additional 10 minutes for my walk to the train station every morning because you refuse to make it safe for the rest of us to walk past your home. Enjoy your $50 tickets, happy Thanksgiving!
Love,
The pregnant woman sprawled on her back in front of your house
@imrachellea that sounds awful. I stopped reading part of the way through because it sounded so painful.
My BFM goes to my hormones for giving a nightmare that I cant shake! We are supposed to tell immediate fam about the pregnancy this week and now I'm afraid. UGH. I woke up at 330 this morning in a sweat and panic and couldn't go back to sleep. So today I'm anxious and tired.
Thanks for all the sympathy love ladies! Looks like I'll be making an appt at the podiatrist to have my nail removed, the stupid pumpkin skin goes all the way to my nail base, that sucker isn't coming out on it's own. Funny thing is, when DH was googling it last night to try and find ways to help, this has actually happened to other people. And at the ER, they had someone come in just about a month ago with it under their fingernail from Halloween! I swore I was unique...
Over the weekend my sex drive came back in full force. I've been waiting patiently for it and DH was so excited about it. So excited that he ended up finishing before I did both times this weekend and just left me hanging...Twice! Wtf. Now I am a raging ball of pent up frustrations.
@imrachellea that sounds awful. I stopped reading part of the way through because it sounded so painful.
My BFM goes to my hormones for giving a nightmare that I cant shake! We are supposed to tell immediate fam about the pregnancy this week and now I'm afraid. UGH. I woke up at 330 this morning in a sweat and panic and couldn't go back to sleep. So today I'm anxious and tired.
Ugh, I had one last week too - horribly realistic early delivery/stillbirth at my parents house. What a horrible way to wake up.
@mrstrax no bueno. I feel your pain. I think its my nerves from being afraid to tell my family. We lost a pregnancy in May two weeks after telling immediate family. I'm not superstitious but I know our previous experience has to do with my anxiety.
First off, I have good news. I just had my anatomy scan today and everything looks good. They mentioned a little fluid in the right kidney, but she also mentioned that's more common in boys and nothing to worry about. We did not get to bring home any ultrasound pics of baby's face and they were not able to look at the heart because baby was laying face down and all you can see is the spine and back of his head. So not really a BF but no pics today.
My BF is holidays are approaching and I can feel the financial strain already. Plus, my car's brakes need to be changed so that's even more money. And I'm hosting Thanksgiving and it's also doubling as a birthday party (we have a very large family). Normally we get cards and such for all the birthday people. There's 5 birthdays we're celebrating this month along with Thanksgiving. My pockets are already virtually empty so nobody's getting a card or money from me.
@Ready4theParty He clocks out after he gets off? I establish early on in relationships that that is a beating offense. I hope you get some relief soon. I'm already starting to go in the I can't really do this for myself camp, so that's going to be fun!
My BFM might end up being a murder confessional...
We moved into a new house together on Tuesday/Wednesday of last week. I have unpacked EVERYTHING since we moved it. I have hung up all our pictures, paintings, knick knacks, and our giant clock. I have asked my fiancé every single day to help me put our clothes into the closet and put together our dresser, because he has so many articles of clothing, I don't want to deal with all of it myself!
Last night after four days of nagging he put together our dresser, and hung up a basket of his clothes, leaving mine on the floor, then went back to playing Madden. I just now discovered my clothes on the floor... He doesn't seem to care that we really need to be 100% unpacked, and organized by Saturday, because we are having a crap ton of people come over for a party, and they are all going to want to look at the house.
I get that his mom did everything for him growing up, and he never really had to deal with chores, because he would either put them off for forever until she would do them, or he would go out of his way to do them terribly (ie put away dishes with food still on them) so he wasn't asked to donthem again. Straight up, I would have had a belt to my ass if I'd tried a stunt like that... He doesn't seem to comprehend that it really is a big deal when I ask you to do something, and you say you will, then don't, or half ass it.
I'm about to explode. I can't deal with all the clutter everywhere, and if he had actually helped me with the clothes yesterday, we would be 95% done, instead of the 60% we are now. We don't have a dishwasher, or a microwave, so I'm having to handwash all the dishes after cooking every night, and there is no cheating with a microwave for me. Everything is on the stove. I get that it's better to not use one anyway for the baby in theory, but my swollen ankles don't gaf about microwave emissions atm.
He also yelled at me because at some point I threw out all of our Tupperware containers in one of the six times we've moved in the last three years, due to none of them matching anymore, or him taking them to work and not returning them for up to a week at a time, and they get too grotty to deal with at that point... So yesterday I bought a set of pyrex storage containers, that can go in the oven right out of the fridge, and he went ballistic about it. What did he expect me to do with all the left overs from Thanksgiving he's making me cook for him this year? I swear I only care that my family is vegan around the holidays, because we can't have meals with them anymore.
I've had so many meltdowns lately that if I hear the term calm your tits one more time I'm going to stab. Now I'm going to go start on the mountain of clothes he has left me to deal with by myself, and try not to throw any of his shit away in the process...
Oh my other BF is to my body. The MFM also said that I started showing kidney dysfunction in my 24 hour urine, which is common in people with high blood pressure issues. These are the only kidneys I have I'm glad my baby is doing good though.
@Ready4theParty He clocks out after he gets off? I establish early on in relationships that that is a beating offense. I hope you get some relief soon. I'm already starting to go in the I can't really do this for myself camp, so that's going to be fun!
Pretty much. Usually this is not an issue whatsoever and he felt bad about it but...still you don't leave a woman hanging...pregnant or not!
And schools within a school district that stagger their dismissal times much too far apart. Every day I have a solid wasted hour between picking up my preschooler and picking up my freshman. Usually I wind up driving home, unloading the preschooler, hanging around briefly then loading back up and driving to the high school. Sometimes I TRY to run errands in between pickups, but that's not super fun with a preschooler who is diometrically opposed to taking naps at school (but still desperately needs them, of course!) AND who blatantly refuses to use the restroom at school like he's supposed to do before they line up to go home. Sigh.
OMG, I'm losing it today. I posted this over on a different thread which I don't recall ever clicking it!
I got a good BFM. Why is it so hard for whoever uses the staff bathroom back here to CHECK if they are leaving pubes on the seat before they leave??? FFS that's like the second time I've seen it when I went in there. I can't wait for my lunch breaks or to go home anymore since my bladder's starting to be squished. >:(
@aa79606, I hear you on the staggered starts. It works out for the most part due to our kids' ages, but the high school starts at 7:30 am (!), elementary at 8:15, and middle school at 9:00. I can only imagine if you had to drive kids to all 3! DH's ex lives just outside our district boundaries. She drives the high schooler in the morning, then drops off the little guy, then drops off the middle one at our house, who then walks to school on his own. High schooler comes to our house in the afternoon and gets picked up after little guy gets out of school. Yuck.
@aa79606 not sure if it's the same where you are, but our county uses the same buses for elementary, middle and high school pick ups and dropoffs, which is why it's staggered like that here. Elementary starts at 7:20, Middle starts at 8:30, High starts at 9:40.
@aa79606 not sure if it's the same where you are, but our county uses the same buses for elementary, middle and high school pick ups and dropoffs, which is why it's staggered like that here. Elementary starts at 7:20, Middle starts at 8:30, High starts at 9:40.
OMG, I'm losing it today. I posted this over on a different thread which I don't recall ever clicking it!
I got a good BFM. Why is it so hard for whoever uses the staff bathroom back here to CHECK if they are leaving pubes on the seat before they leave??? FFS that's like the second time I've seen it when I went in there. I can't wait for my lunch breaks or to go home anymore since my bladder's starting to be squished. >:(
My BF is that I cannot wait to get out of this apartment. I've hated it most of the year we've been here, and the office is making our lives especially difficult now. We have to give 60 days notice, which we were ONE DAY LATE turning in, so they're holding us rent responsible for one day in January also. Like, it's only $30ish, but seriously, people? We're getting the keys to our new place December 14th, so we literally won't even be in this apartment for half the month, but since our lease doesn't expire until the 31st, we're stuck paying for the whole month + a day. This is even more frustrating because we moved in on 12/6 -- so they locked us into a lease for weeks past our 1 year mark in the first place.
But also, they're charging us to replace the entire carpet because of a couple spots that need repaired in the dining room (thanks for knocking the iron onto the carpet, asshole cat!). Apparently they can't just replace patches of carpet (understandable), and they also can't just replace a single room, because "dye lots would be different." Like, god forbid the beige in the dining room is half a shade different than the beige in the bedroom. They apparently replace the entire carpet every 5 years, but we're a year short of them replacing it at their cost, so it's going to take more than half of our security deposit to fix it.
Today we're spending our day off together putting a coat of primer on everything we've painted, because even though they said when we moved in that we could paint whatever we wanted, the terms of our lease actually say that we have to repaint / prime everything before leaving. When I asked the office about it, they said they could take the cost of it out of our security deposit if we don't prime it for them. At this point, $20 in primer is worth it if we can at least get like $100 back from this place. Ughhhhhhhh.
Lesson learned: get absolutely everything in writing, and don't ever take the landlord's word for it when they say "oh, that's fine." I've apparently been too blessed with decent landlords to ever have had to worry about this before.
----QBF----- Oh we were illegally sent to collections from the last apartment we were in. They charged $5 per lightbulb, and an entire host of ridiculous bs. I'll never live in another apartment complex as long as I'm alive. Communist bastards...
OMG, I'm losing it today. I posted this over on a different thread which I don't recall ever clicking it!
I got a good BFM. Why is it so hard for whoever uses the staff bathroom back here to CHECK if they are leaving pubes on the seat before they leave??? FFS that's like the second time I've seen it when I went in there. I can't wait for my lunch breaks or to go home anymore since my bladder's starting to be squished. >:(
My BF is that I cannot wait to get out of this apartment. I've hated it most of the year we've been here, and the office is making our lives especially difficult now. We have to give 60 days notice, which we were ONE DAY LATE turning in, so they're holding us rent responsible for one day in January also. Like, it's only $30ish, but seriously, people? We're getting the keys to our new place December 14th, so we literally won't even be in this apartment for half the month, but since our lease doesn't expire until the 31st, we're stuck paying for the whole month + a day. This is even more frustrating because we moved in on 12/6 -- so they locked us into a lease for weeks past our 1 year mark in the first place.
But also, they're charging us to replace the entire carpet because of a couple spots that need repaired in the dining room (thanks for knocking the iron onto the carpet, asshole cat!). Apparently they can't just replace patches of carpet (understandable), and they also can't just replace a single room, because "dye lots would be different." Like, god forbid the beige in the dining room is half a shade different than the beige in the bedroom. They apparently replace the entire carpet every 5 years, but we're a year short of them replacing it at their cost, so it's going to take more than half of our security deposit to fix it.
Today we're spending our day off together putting a coat of primer on everything we've painted, because even though they said when we moved in that we could paint whatever we wanted, the terms of our lease actually say that we have to repaint / prime everything before leaving. When I asked the office about it, they said they could take the cost of it out of our security deposit if we don't prime it for them. At this point, $20 in primer is worth it if we can at least get like $100 back from this place. Ughhhhhhhh.
Lesson learned: get absolutely everything in writing, and don't ever take the landlord's word for it when they say "oh, that's fine." I've apparently been too blessed with decent landlords to ever have had to worry about this before.
Oh man I feel for you. I went through that two years ago with my old apartment. I repainted and fixed everything I could, and when they came they were like "this paint job is not good enough and the wood flooring is scratched so we have to repolish it, and oh the door there has to be changed" (because they chose to have shitty doors built in to begin with) and I lost my entire deposit which was a lot of money. I was so pissed. Stupid landlords!
I'm adding another because it's one of those days apparently.
I have called EIGHT podiatrists to see about my toe. Four of them no longer take my insurance, two went to voicemail, one closed the local office, one is apparently a disconnected number, and the only one that can help me can't see me for TWO weeks. How about I go shove pumpkin skin under THEIR nails and see how long it takes someone to help me?!
My BFM is how fucking slow my hospitals staff are. It's like the longer the line they see, the slower they fucking move. Not ok for a hungry pregnant lady!!
My BFM is how fucking slow my hospitals staff are. It's like the longer the line they see, the slower they fucking move. Not ok for a hungry pregnant lady!!
Hospital for regular checkup, I'm hoping? Hope all is well!
My BFM is how fucking slow my hospitals staff are. It's like the longer the line they see, the slower they fucking move. Not ok for a hungry pregnant lady!!
Hospital for regular checkup, I'm hoping? Hope all is well!
Yeah just getting some blood work done for second trimester screening
I don't really have anything for BFM today BUT...I'm excited for it to be a super short week and to eat some good food and spend quality time with mine and DH's family!
Re: BFM 11/23
And she wouldn't stfu about how she's potty training her almost 18 month old...that just started walking at 16 months.
Gah I feel better. Thank you.
ETA: because angry typing in mcds drive thru before work is hard.
Mine is truly a #pregnantwomanproblem.
My DH's holiday party is always at the same place, and they always do a buffet with this AMAZING pasta. I'm obsessed. It's a private venue, so you have to be a member and we can't just go whenever.
This year, he sends me menu selections! No pasta! 3 meat dishes! Yuck!!! PASTA, I WANT THE FREAKING PASTA.
In my defense, I have a headache and a cold, so this feels like the end of the world this morning.. Clearly, it's not.
@misstopsail Yes soaks of Epsom salts, keeping antibacterial ointment on it, and taking an antibiotic to avoid infection (that I have to run by my OB first). I also want to find out if there us any pain meds I can take. The ER doc wanted to give me something because she said my pain isn't good for the baby, but didn't know what was safe
Why does no one know how to drive through a 4-way stop?
People! It's not stop, wait for one car to go, take your turn ... it's stop, wait for EVERYONE who got there before you to go and then take your turn. PS. if you got there at the same time as another car, the car to your right has the right-of-way.
THE.END.
@spatter1, no way your mattress should be smelling for that long. Contact the store, and then the manufacturer! And if you decide to go for a new one, we have a tuft & needle that we LOVE that was very reasonable ($600 for queen). Caspar is similar and a little cushier depending on your preference.
My BFM goes to my oldest stepson (age 15). He's failing a couple of classes and had just earned his phone back 2 weeks ago. Grades have fallen again so he lost it again on Thursday. Somehow he figured out where it was hidden, in the back of a drawer in my bathroom, and snuck it out last night thinking I wouldn't notice while his dad was at a football game. When I confronted him, he was not at all apologetic. He's not texting anyone, he's just playing idiotic games. I don't really know what else to do with him (other than find a better hiding place for his phone, obv). Also, he took 2 of my middle brownie pieces either late last night or this morning. I think I'm just as irritated about that as I am about the shit grades and cell phone.
First off, I have good news. I just had my anatomy scan today and everything looks good. They mentioned a little fluid in the right kidney, but she also mentioned that's more common in boys and nothing to worry about. We did not get to bring home any ultrasound pics of baby's face and they were not able to look at the heart because baby was laying face down and all you can see is the spine and back of his head. So not really a BF but no pics today.
My BF is holidays are approaching and I can feel the financial strain already. Plus, my car's brakes need to be changed so that's even more money. And I'm hosting Thanksgiving and it's also doubling as a birthday party (we have a very large family). Normally we get cards and such for all the birthday people. There's 5 birthdays we're celebrating this month along with Thanksgiving. My pockets are already virtually empty so nobody's getting a card or money from me.
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016
We moved into a new house together on Tuesday/Wednesday of last week. I have unpacked EVERYTHING since we moved it. I have hung up all our pictures, paintings, knick knacks, and our giant clock. I have asked my fiancé every single day to help me put our clothes into the closet and put together our dresser, because he has so many articles of clothing, I don't want to deal with all of it myself!
Last night after four days of nagging he put together our dresser, and hung up a basket of his clothes, leaving mine on the floor, then went back to playing Madden. I just now discovered my clothes on the floor... He doesn't seem to care that we really need to be 100% unpacked, and organized by Saturday, because we are having a crap ton of people come over for a party, and they are all going to want to look at the house.
I get that his mom did everything for him growing up, and he never really had to deal with chores, because he would either put them off for forever until she would do them, or he would go out of his way to do them terribly (ie put away dishes with food still on them) so he wasn't asked to donthem again. Straight up, I would have had a belt to my ass if I'd tried a stunt like that... He doesn't seem to comprehend that it really is a big deal when I ask you to do something, and you say you will, then don't, or half ass it.
I'm about to explode. I can't deal with all the clutter everywhere, and if he had actually helped me with the clothes yesterday, we would be 95% done, instead of the 60% we are now. We don't have a dishwasher, or a microwave, so I'm having to handwash all the dishes after cooking every night, and there is no cheating with a microwave for me. Everything is on the stove. I get that it's better to not use one anyway for the baby in theory, but my swollen ankles don't gaf about microwave emissions atm.
He also yelled at me because at some point I threw out all of our Tupperware containers in one of the six times we've moved in the last three years, due to none of them matching anymore, or him taking them to work and not returning them for up to a week at a time, and they get too grotty to deal with at that point... So yesterday I bought a set of pyrex storage containers, that can go in the oven right out of the fridge, and he went ballistic about it. What did he expect me to do with all the left overs from Thanksgiving he's making me cook for him this year? I swear I only care that my family is vegan around the holidays, because we can't have meals with them anymore.
I've had so many meltdowns lately that if I hear the term calm your tits one more time I'm going to stab. Now I'm going to go start on the mountain of clothes he has left me to deal with by myself, and try not to throw any of his shit away in the process...
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016
And schools within a school district that stagger their dismissal times much too far apart. Every day I have a solid wasted hour between picking up my preschooler and picking up my freshman. Usually I wind up driving home, unloading the preschooler, hanging around briefly then loading back up and driving to the high school. Sometimes I TRY to run errands in between pickups, but that's not super fun with a preschooler who is diometrically opposed to taking naps at school (but still desperately needs them, of course!) AND who blatantly refuses to use the restroom at school like he's supposed to do before they line up to go home. Sigh.
OMG, I'm losing it today. I posted this over on a different thread which I don't recall ever clicking it!
I got a good BFM. Why is it so hard for whoever uses the staff bathroom back here to CHECK if they are leaving pubes on the seat before they leave??? FFS that's like the second time I've seen it when I went in there. I can't wait for my lunch breaks or to go home anymore since my bladder's starting to be squished. >:(
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016
----QBF-----
Oh we were illegally sent to collections from the last apartment we were in. They charged $5 per lightbulb, and an entire host of ridiculous bs. I'll never live in another apartment complex as long as I'm alive. Communist bastards...
Oh man I feel for you. I went through that two years ago with my old apartment. I repainted and fixed everything I could, and when they came they were like "this paint job is not good enough and the wood flooring is scratched so we have to repolish it, and oh the door there has to be changed" (because they chose to have shitty doors built in to begin with) and I lost my entire deposit which was a lot of money. I was so pissed. Stupid landlords!
I have called EIGHT podiatrists to see about my toe. Four of them no longer take my insurance, two went to voicemail, one closed the local office, one is apparently a disconnected number, and the only one that can help me can't see me for TWO weeks. How about I go shove pumpkin skin under THEIR nails and see how long it takes someone to help me?!
Yeah just getting some blood work done for second trimester screening
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016