Push present for dad?

woahitszdtet

Is anyone getting dad to be a present for the big day? What are you getting him?

maddisonwallace

I'm getting him his firstborn. That's enough.

Mamabeagle

He didn't push, so I wouldn't call it a push present. Maybe get him a surprise Daddy related onesie to bring baby home in.

ashhsa

Obviously some people are opposed to these- but I'm just getting a little onsie that says "smalls" for the bub and my husband a a matching shirt that says "biggie" (obviously he is a biggie fan, and it's also his nickname)

claireloSC

maddisonwallace said:

I'm getting him his firstborn. That's enough.

Exactly.

failuretofly

Ugh who decided we need to give everyone gifts for every single moment in their lives??? Isn't pushing out his child after spending 10 months growing him/her enough?? 

Wicked4589

I bought my husband a pair of cuff links that say Dad to wear on his first day back to work after baby is born. But it's not a push present (which I think are weird). It's just a gift that I know he will treasure. This is his first born. That is gift enough.

ChrissyD1203

I got him an enjoy your last few weeks of not having major responsibilities present when I bought him new golf irons last month.

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GAgirlinSDakota

Scullahoo said:

I'm getting my DH a referral for a vasectomy lolol.

Same.  He swore up and down he'd get it done by the end of 2014, and look where I am now. 

kmo8986

Haha ditto to the vasectomy!!

Monilee1017

I'm getting DH a tubal ligation on myself so he doesn't have to get a vasectomy.

maureenmce

LOL.  My present is a.) the baby and b.) maaaaaaybe considering going through this whole wacky process one more time, at some point.   

MssyMmmy

I am still waiting on a birthday present...from August. So no...no push presents for someone who doesn't push or remember my birthday.

Krisdee123

When he pushes a watermelon out of his penis, he will get a push present.

nickicb7

Seriously?! With all the gifts? We live in such a bizarre society! So much selfishness, greed and need for recognition. How about we have a baby, and thank God for the amazing gift that baby is!

mesamyt

I'll put a bow on my vagina with a note that says "do not open for 6 weeks". That's the best present he could ask for.

Rach8672

I'm not planning on one ... I know I'm getting one though My mom had a necklace from when I was born that I was able to wear on my wedding day , I thought that was soo special ! This is why I wanted one so I can do the same for my daughter on her wedding day . If our next baby is a boy I'll be getting DH a nice pair of cuff links so we can do the same for our son on his special day .

sarahbeara25

I like the idea of something sentimental but I'm keeping that for Baby's first gift to Daddy. SO's b-day is in Feb so Little One is going to get him something special. I haven't fully decided on what yet (he's not a cufflink kind of guy, or fancy at all really), but I figured that was a nice idea. 

peppercorn16

I bought my husband a dad's Bible... he saw it a couple years ago during our infertility journey and said "one day, I know I will be a dad". And all you ladies complaining about people gift-giving at the birth, why does this bother you so much? I don't mind that you aren't giving your husband a gift. I am not doing it because someone told me I need to, I am doing it because this is a huge event in our lives  that we may not get to experience again and my husband has been my rock... through infertility, pregnancy, bed rest, endless doctor's appointments. I am not so prideful that I think I am the only one who has worked hard this pregnancy. He has been there every step of the way, loving me and this baby, working 12 hour shifts and coming home with a smile on his face and talking joyfully about our baby's birth. Everything about pregnancy centers around the mom, and I am not sorry for the fact that I love my husband and want to express that with a gift. A gift isn't necessary, but if you feel compelled to express or commemorate your happiness, gratefulness, or whatever other emotion you're feeling with a gift, then do it. If you don't, then don't! Geesh people!

sarahbeara25

OOOOHHHHH just found on Etsy.... Personalized Credit Card Inserts. With my guy not really being a dress up guy this would be PERFECT. 

Thinking of having a little poem put on it (I'm semi good with words sometimes). And depending on who you order from not all that expensive. YAY for random internet searches

Achae

I made my husband a nice framed photo of baby for Father's Day and I'll probably do the same thing this time around for this baby.

maddisonwallace

peppercorn16 said:

I bought my husband a dad's Bible... he saw it a couple years ago during our infertility journey and said "one day, I know I will be a dad". And all you ladies complaining about people gift-giving at the birth, why does this bother you so much? I don't mind that you aren't giving your husband a gift. I am not doing it because someone told me I need to, I am doing it because this is a huge event in our lives  that we may not get to experience again and my husband has been my rock... through infertility, pregnancy, bed rest, endless doctor's appointments. I am not so prideful that I think I am the only one who has worked hard this pregnancy. He has been there every step of the way, loving me and this baby, working 12 hour shifts and coming home with a smile on his face and talking joyfully about our baby's birth. Everything about pregnancy centers around the mom, and I am not sorry for the fact that I love my husband and want to express that with a gift. A gift isn't necessary, but if you feel compelled to express or commemorate your happiness, gratefulness, or whatever other emotion you're feeling with a gift, then do it. If you don't, then don't! Geesh people!

I think that's awesome! It's not so much the gift giving, but the expectation that that's what you're supposed to do. If your love language is giving gifts then go for it. But it's really saddening that our culture today expects a gift any time something significant happens and to me it waters down the reason for giving anything at all. Give out of love and not because that's the popular thing to do, and the whole "push present" idea is on the rise. It's just a new reason to get crap that doesn't matter. It bothers me that it comes from a "I did this, so what are you gonna do for me?" Mentality. Why can't we just enjoy something because of what it is instead of needing a gift to make it exciting?

alandaim

My husband really loves Star Wars. When I was pregnant with DD I saw a " I Am Your Father..." Shirt on Zulily so I got it for him and hid it in my hospital bag. I didn't wrap it or anything but one of his first pictures with her he was wearing it and I thought it was cute. He won't be getting anything this time... But I will be sure to pack his shirt again to get another picture. Obviously he didn't expect anything and it is was more cheesy than sentimental.

miranderp

mesamyt said:

I'll put a bow on my vagina with a note that says "do not open for 6 weeks". That's the best present he could ask for.

Do it with henna!

MssyMmmy

@alandaim my hubby is a Star Wars fan too. For his birthday I got him an adult t shirt that says master Jedi and a baby onesie that says padawan. He loved it! I wouldn't be surprised if it is what he wears to the hospital/what our little guy comes home in.

mesamyt

miranderp said:

mesamyt said:

I'll put a bow on my vagina with a note that says "do not open for 6 weeks". That's the best present he could ask for.

Do it with henna!

That's too much effort. I'll probably just vajazzle it or have the doc slap a leftover Christmas bow on after they stitch me up.

NHKx2

Is a "Push Present" another evil spawn of Pinterest?

nlwz123

I feel like everyone is now obsessed with buying gifts or throwing parties for every occasion.  The birth of the child is a gift enough for us.

littleloves3

I think for a dad, the correct turn of phrase would be "pull present", right?

I think push presents are insane, so pull presents are just taking it to a whole new level.

Kimberlyain

I know my husband isn't doing the "heavy lifting" but he has been so amazingly supportive during my pregnancy and I love the on demand massages so I am getting him something from the baby. I bought a man diaper bag and filled it with a gift card to a masseuse for him to get pampered, some really good coffee ( for long nights) and other first few week survival type gifts.

maureenmce

I think some people have adorably sentimental gifts planned for moms and dads, and I have no problem with either a push or pull gift in theory, but the marketing behind push presents does make me kind of crazy.  I saw an article last night with push present ideas and they were all ridiculous.  Once was a tropical vacation!  Um... with a newborn?  The other was a surprise car!  If my husband bought  CAR without telling me and us discussing it, I would be livid!

We're not doing gifts (push or um, pull, haha) but some of the birth stone necklaces and surprise Star Wars t-shirts and stuff sound super sweet.  I just think it's the whole hubbub around the "push present" concept (and the name, which I honestly hate) that turns some people off.  

NillaWafers

I read the title and was like Uhhhhh, no. Get something for your husband for being awesome, but don't call it a push present, cus it's not lol. I don't even want one for me, but to each his own.

ashhsa

I think- it's all about the sentiment, the idea of feeling like you have to give a gift isn't very good, but I just want to do something nice for my husband, a onsie for the baby and a matching shirt for him is cute, a little tacky, and funny! and not an effort or expense as I'm buying them online, everybody is going to think differently and that's all good. I wouldn't approve of something expensive and non baby related, because then it's selfish, but my husband has got no idea he is getting this present, and I just want him to feel included, I certainly wouldn't call it a push present, more a thank you for supporting me present. However I can understand why somepeople don't like the idea.

fishsticks-n-custard

We've spend quite a bit of money finishing up our media room which is his "man-cave" kind of. Additionally, I have not been complaining about him playing WoW almost nonstop for two weeks. That's a good enough push present for him

kmo8986

I did not expect anything with my first (nor do I this time) but my husband bought us tickets to see zac brown band, a little more than 2 months after my due date and my sister kept our son and it was wonderful to have our first night out together after baby was born. Plus he emailed me the tickets with a beautiful message while we were in the hospital about how proud he was of me and how he didn't think he could love me more. Honestly the message was way more important than the present.

GAgirlinSDakota

Seriously though.

This will baby #5, and I've never gotten (or expected) a push present from exH or SO.  I'm pretty certain I'm not getting one this time around.  So, no way in hell am I getting someone ELSE a present after doing all the work.  "Hey SO-who-won't-even-do-the-damn-dishes, here's a present for donating sperm 40ish weeks ago?  I did all the hard work growing this human, and I've still got to recover from it, plus care for a toddler and do all MOTN stuff solo, but here's a new ::insert gift he would love here:: to show you how much I appreciated that swimmer."

LOL!! While I might not have ever expected a push present, I'm in a cranky-pants mood, and I might be a little jealous of some of the cute push presents I've read/heard of.