2nd pregnancy after first was a missed miscarriage

purplefan1

This is my second pregnancy after losing our first to a missed miscarriage back in April. I am SO nervous about this pregnancy now, that every twinge, ache, pain, symptom, lack of symptoms, etc make me worry so much. I know I am supposed to relax and for the most part I am able to. But waiting for our next scan feels like an eternity. We had the initial scan the Tuesday before Halloween and I thought (based on my opk positive and when I first got a positive pregnancy test) that I should be around 6+5. However an internal exam measured me 5+6 (no way did I get a positive pregnancy test 5 dpo) but with a heart beat of 118. Doctor wasn't concerned and said he would see me in 4 weeks but that I could come back early if I needed to. I have been hesitant to call and go back early because 1)I don't want them to think (know) I am neurotic yet 2) I feel in my heart this pregnancy is going well 3) I'm not ready to be told bad news again if there is any. I know with miscarriage there isn't anything I can do to stop it. So just trying to keep this LO in as long as possible.

Next scan is the Wednesday before Thanksgiving and if it goes well, plan to announce to family only on Thanksgiving. So hopeful for a positive scan and a growing/healthy baby!

Anyone else had a previous miscarriage that is making this pregnancy more nerve wracking?

kaitielynnrichardson

I had a missed miscarriage a bit over a year ago.. This too is my second pregnancy, and rainbow baby. I completely understand how hard it came be, every little thing makes me think "what if".. I will say my doctor has been amazing and I have had ultrasounds every couple weeks (I'm 9w3d now).. I say if your insurance covers the scans get them done. Your doctor won't think you're neurotic. You know your body and only you can do what's best for you, but if you feel you need the extra scans to be at ease, do it.

Rachie2

You ladies aren't alone. I had a MMC at 12 weeks in June. This is my second pregnancy. I just had my 8 week scan yesterday and was so relieved to see the baby's heartbeat. I have been very anxious and cautiously excited this pregnancy so far because we had a good ultrasound at 6 weeks with that one then lost the baby at our 12 week scan. It's so hard to be relaxed about it all. My symptoms are similar to my last pregnancy so it's not like I can reassured by anything different. It feels like time is dragging until 12 weeks. I am hoping once I get past where I got last time I can be more relaxed and start to enjoy things more. I feel robbed of the experience to be honest. My due date for my first baby is next month so even though I am pregnant again I am still going to really struggle that day with sadness for my first babe. Sending hugs to all you ladies who know exactly how this feels. Xoxo

purplefan1

I know what you mean. My due date for my first one was October 20th and I was really not looking forward to that date. I felt better being pregnant, but still soooo nervous. And I agree, I feel like I am robbing myself of the experience a bit.

As for my first precious one, I spent a lot of time reflecting on the fact that the probable reason why I had a miscarriage was because of chromosomal abnormalities. I found some peace thinking that the baby knew it wasn't the right time and decided heaven looked better. It was also about 6 months after I lost my sister, so I knew they were in heaven together, and my sister LOVED babies. So my first is being well taken care of. Days like Mothers Day were hard for me. I couldn't celebrate it, because people don't see me as a "mother" and I felt cheated. And my SIL announced on mother's day that she was pregnant with her second.....that was tough to share her happiness but to feel alone in my grief. Lucky to have an extremely supportive partner who let me cry whenever I needed! And who is now banning me from googling anything and everything miscarriage related.

Curbs12

I had a misses miscarriage a while back, got pregnant a month after I passed the baby, and now have a healthy 10 month old baby girl! It's hard to be patient, but just take it day by day. It will get better. Now that I'm pregnant with my second, I still have the same worries and fears and I know it's hard!

Curbs12

Missed* not misses..

ChristinaMichelucci

I had a miscarriage in May when I was 5.5 weeks. I am now 8.5 weeks and going for my first trimester screening Wednesday. Last week we had a ultrasound and heard the heartbeat which definitely calmed me down. Still trying to stay calm and positive this is a sticky baby!

PressLove

You're totally normal. I was PG with DD after a MC at 7.5 weeks. Getting past 8 weeks and then out of the first trimester helped to calm my nerves.

Also, our birth month group started a weekly check-in for PGAL. It helped to have a place to focus my nervous energy.

purplefan1

@christinamichelucci-wonderful thoughts for you this week as you go for that second appointment! I'm itching to get to my next appointment which isn't until the day before Thanksgiving.

Mickeyliz

I am on the exact same timeline. It's really tough, but this time I feel way more sick, so I'm taking it as a good sign. Still, no sonogram until 12 weeks, so It's nerve wracking!

ngraham17@yahoo.com

I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks (baby stop growing) and I am so nervous and anxious this time. It is so hard to remain positive and excited when you have been down that road, but I do try. I have my next appointment Wednesday. I can't wait. I am so excited, yet nervous.