Issues in relationships.

emcampeau

I'm just finding my boyfriend looks at me like I'm lazy and useless. I'm suffering with depression through this pregnancy and extreme fatigue. I used to be extremely active.. so this is hard on both of us.

xaudreyx2011

It will get better I felt the same way when I was pregnant with my first (I'm on my 3rd). It might help to get a good pregnancy book or pull up a website and encourage him to read it with you so he understands what your body and mind is going through. My husband thought I was exaggerating my symptoms with my first, but this time around he helps more with the house and kids so I can relax and be sick in peace lol.

SweetMamaJune

I think you should tell him, this is my first too and i am just coming out of the exhaustion phase at 10 weeks. Hubby goes, "You cleaned!?!?" like he's never seen me do it before. You have to go at your pace and ask for help when you need it, lady. Sending you a big hug and lots of good thoughts.

Emztron500

1st trimester is weird. It's so so hard but to everyone else you just seem like your normal self but tired and lazy. Tell him to just treat you like you have the flu for a few months, and adjust his expectations and level of support accordingly.

mom2beEbby

I absolutely understand. I feel so tired all the time and I know that Im getting on his nerves. Due to my irritability, I truly don’t care. LOL. But sometimes, when I get emotional, I feel bad that he doesn’t have his super awesome girlfriend right now. I cant change it right now, Im just waiting for this to pass. When I try to do more than my body wants, I just wear myself out and it takes even longer to recover from a day. Take it easy and he needs to just do some reading so he can better understand.

cattlebride

Give it time you will be back to your normal personality in the 2nd tri most likely.

dennyandlee

I've been feeling this way, too. Like my husband just thinks I'm being lazy and milking it . But I just try to be honest about how I'm feeling. I have some days that are better than others, and on those days, I try to be productive to make up for couch and take-out days. I'll be 11 weeks Wednesday and I'm having more good days than not, so things are turning around.

Knottie86418473

Same here! I suspect DH thinks I'm exaggerating and being a lazy bum. He's even read a little about pregnancy (at my insistence of course), but I still don't believe he truly gets it. Especially as he mentioned last week that it would be nice if sitting around was all he had to do all day. But pretty sure he quickly regretted the pregnancy rage he stirred up with that remark.

jwilly87

I'm so glad I found this post! I am so exhausted and lazy after a work trip this weekend and I came home to a house that was not the cleanest. I made a mention of it to my boyfriend and was met with much resentment as he has been picking up the slack lately. It's not that I don't want to do the work around the house but he does not understand the pure exhaustion and sickness that I'm dealing with. I cried and felt very unsupported. He has yet to read much about pregnancy although I have sent him articles. Grrrrrr! This post almost belongs more on Monday bitchfest haha

june2016baby

My husband wasn't all that supportive of my first trimester tiredness my first three pregnancies either. But this time I made a comment like, "I feel like a cancer patient!" (Please note, I'm sure the fatigue of first trimester pregnancy isn't actually as bad as the fatigue of fighting cancer and dealing with cancer treatments.) I just randomly made the comment, but I'm glad I did. I think something clicked in his brain. After that he kept asking me how he could help!

Atlast111

june2016baby said:

My husband wasn't all that supportive of my first trimester tiredness my first three pregnancies either. But this time I made a comment like, "I feel like a cancer patient!" (Please note, I'm sure the fatigue of first trimester pregnancy isn't actually as bad as the fatigue of fighting cancer and dealing with cancer treatments.) I just randomly made the comment, but I'm glad I did. I think something clicked in his brain. After that he kept asking me how he could help!

Sometimes you just have to go to the extreme with men to get the message through! Lol. Glad you are now getting some support, with children that sounds like a lot of hard work. I have no children and am still so tired, have moved from couch to bed and back. Thank God I'm self employed and at home!