This post is for those people in our lives who just don't know how to help us.
I have always had a great relationship with my Mom, she is one of my best friends. But I will admit since TTC I have pushed her away. I think a lot of us push a lot of people away during this processes, and family may be no different. But for me there's added layers. Of course, the fact that my brother knocked his girlfriend up doesn't help. My mom is super respectful and doesn't really ever bring it up because she knows it absolutely crushes me, but I don't want her to not be able to be happy about it, its her first grandchild. I think more than that though, is that me hurting hurts her, and I know it, and it shows. I can't talk to someone about how I feel when I have to do it on egg shells or sugar coat my feeling because it hurts HER too much. Thankfully she knows that when people try to say the right things they often say the wrong things, so she doesn't really say anything, but that doesn't help either. I cant tell she is desperate to find the right thing to do or say and its almost awkward to watch, like she's drowning in a see of sympathetic looks and I'm sorrys and lingering hugs. I know she has no idea what I'm going through.
We all have these people in our lives. And that's ok, there are only so many people you can clue into your journey. We have all saw how much you learn about yourself and your relationship through this process, but its interesting how much you learn about others and your relationships with them too.
Do you have anyone like this in your life, perhaps even your own Mom, who want to help so badly but sometimes its just easiest to keep them out of it? Do you have any advice for those of us who do?