Benched/TTA Weekly Check-in 11/8

gardeniagirlknits

@brambles1 that breaks my heart Cancer is such an asshole. I will keep thinking positive thoughts for him. It's hard to be going through something so awful and not have your daily activities to take your mind off of it... Such as your job. for weeks after my diagnosis, the only times i didn't cry were when I was being busied... And I didn't have the emotional strength to busy myself. Left to my own devices I would have stayed in those dark places in my head. just keep taking his mind to other things, like you said... Things that will cheer him up. I found the "stay strong" tidbits some give... To be more hurtful than helpful. But my best friend snail mailed me quotes about courage every single day... And that was somehow different... That helped me a lot. But Everyone is different. I wish the best for you and your family. Cancer is such an asshole. I am so so sorry. And remember to Take care of yourself too right now.

CoonMom

*lurker*

AmyNinSD  so sorry to hear about you and your husband losing your jobs. I lost mine two years ago. Best of luck finding new ones.

brambles1  so sorry to hear about your dad.

tinypikachu

brambles1 said:

@gardeniagirlknits  My dad just got discharged from the hospital today.  He met with his oncologist before he left to go over what the next steps will be and I think the reality of what he is facing finally hit him.  After the oncologist left he started to cry, told my mom his career was over (my dad is a cop), and started to rattle off the names of other cops he'd have to give his gear to. I feel like he is already giving up. I know that part of it is a knee jerk reaction and the other part is fear of what's to come but it breaks my heart to see my dad hurting so much.   I'm spending the weekend at my parents' house and I'm trying to come up with things I can do with my dad to cheer him up.

I am so sorry. I will be praying for your dad and your family. You being there for him is amazing and pretty much all you can do to help him. Having that kind of support and love is exactly what a person that is going through what he is going through needs to remind them that there's hope (and lots of it) and a lot to live for. Tell him we want him to kick cancer's ass! He's got some grandbabies coming down the road!