Intro. Blighted ovum

m6agua

Hello, I'm sorry that we all have to meet this way.

My name is Amanda, I'm 27 and this is/was my first pregnancy. I started spotting at 9w5d, had an ultrasound yesterday at 10w. I have a blighted ovum and the sac was measuring 6w and some days. My days were completely accurate as I was temping. I was seeing my PCP up until this point so this was my first u/s and OB visit ever. The OB that saw me was not helpful. I just feel like I am waiting to miscarry now and have no idea what I should be doing. I want to schedule a D&C just in case I don't pass it naturally soon but the doctor didn't give me any information who to call. I've read through a lot of TB posts and watched vlogs and everything. Does an OB do the surgery, if I go natural am I at risk for infection, I have so many questions. I just don't know who to talk to.

Edited to clarify I am not asking you for answers I am just sharing my story.

callieeli

hi. I'm 29 and went through my second miscarriage this week.
I had my first ultrasound for this pregnancy on Friday. I should have been 12 weeks but was also diagnosed with a blighted ovum. I started spotting on Saturday but then opted for a D&C. The waiting to miscarry naturally was really hard for me and I was very nervous about passing it at home. I had my D&C today is wasn't terrible.

I was also really surprised and disappointed by how little information they gave me at the OB office!! Maybe I should have asked more questions but I was so upset I couldn't think clearly. I ended up reading people's stories on the Internet to help make my decision.

I'm so very sorry for your loss. It's a heartbreaking experience to have to go through for sure.

m6agua

@callieeli sorry for your loss. Thanks for the response. I was too upset to think clearly as well. I feel like they should expect that and he should have at least given me a number to call when I got my mind straight. My provider is a fairly large company and has multiple offices/departments and has 2 hospitals in the area.

lilyaster

I'm so sorry about your loss. I just had a d&c, but the baby was measuring almost 12 weeks so they really encouraged the surgery as opposed to waiting.  I was seeing a midwife practice but was referred to an OB right away who did the surgery the next day.  I would call the office and ask a nurse your questions, or if you prefer get another opinion from a different OB. 

callieeli

Yeah I agree they should have given you a number! Personally, I called my OBs office and talked to a nurse there (it's also a fairly big practice so I see different doctors a lot) and she scheduled the procedure at the hospital for me. I ended up scheduling a D&C, canceling it two days later, and then rescheduling it two days after that. They probably thought I was crazy!!
@lilyaster I'm so sorry to hear about your loss as well

m6agua

@lilyaster sorry about your loss. I did message my PCP last night to ask her what I should do. I am not needing another opinion. I know there is no baby.

silentP

I'm sorry for your loss, and I am sorry things are confusing and unclear at this time. I am preparing for my second d&e because after my last time, I felt immeasurably better. My body wasn't recognizing my baby stopped growing and I have a young son to think about. I didn't want to miscarry at home while he was around, and I wanted closure ASAP. ETA: physical closure, I mean. obviously, emotionally takes more time. And for some women, miscarrying at home is the right choice.

But hopefully, someone can go over your options with you in more detail. ((Hugs))

blondie1314

So sorry for your loss. We had a heartbeat last monday for a dating sono then no heartbeat for a growth sono this Tuesday. My OB went over options but I wasn't listening and I too have many questions. Now that my head is slightly clearer I will do one more sono before discussing options and probably going with a D&C.

@silentP I also have a young son (4 months) and cannot wait possibably weeks to miscarry. I still feel pregnant and cannot handle getting waves of nausea and thinking I'm pregnant When I am not.

Hugs and love to you mommas

babymama03252016

@m6agua
I am so sorry for your loss, I also had a blighted ovum, mc at 10w. My doctor also was no help at all and gave me no information, she ordered me a ultrasound at the hospital so I went and took one there and I had to come back and wait for the results. She was no help at all and was never very clear on anything, she didn't even want to see me after the hospital ultrasound. She ordered me to come see her a couple days after, when I went back they just took some blood and sent me on my way. Before I went back I tried to pass it naturally and the cramps were not comfortable. I kept telling myself I didn't want to take any medicine to help pass it or do the surgery. We were so frustrated of the lack of attention and sympathy we were getting from the doctor when we went back so we went straight to the hospital for some more accurate answers. The hospital ended up recommending me take the medicine ( that's inserted vaginally ) so I finally decided to do that. It is 8 pills inserted vaginally. The doctor prescribed me painkillers because she told me the pain would be mild to severe. That night I went home and rested the pain was tolerable until around 9 o'clock. The pain was so so bad I was passing huge clots about the size of my hand. ( TMI I'm sorry ) They hurt so bad, it was like mini contractions. I was soaking thru about a pad an hour. I had a heating pad on my stomach to help the pain. I ended up passing out about twice at my house and my boyfriend rushed me to the hospital because of me being faint. When we got there they couldn't find a vein with any blood at all they had to poke me about 8 times, they finally got a vein with blood and hooked me up to an IV. They recommended me staying over night because if I would have lost more blood I would have needed a blood transfusion. They did another ultrasound that night and it turned out I haven't passed any of the sac. I was so heartbroken and sad I didn't get why I hadn't yet. Sometime over the night I past it which still doesn't make since to me because after those huge clots my bleeding lightened up and the doctor came in that morning and told me I had passed it. I didn't see how I didn't loose much blood after the clots. Sorry for the long post, I just wanted to let you know I did the medication. I was against it and any surgery I just wanted to pass it naturally but they recommended the medication and at the time the pain was uncomfortable and it would speed the process up which was better physically and mentally on my body. Most importantly don't say that there wasn't a baby there was. You felt it. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Please keep us updated on what you decide to do. This process is so hard I still have ups and downs and recently have been very emotional. But it will get better and i promise you things will look up. Know that you are not alone. I can relate and it will be okay. Prayers and love to you.

queenklau

I am sorry for your loss. It is heartbreaking. I am also sorry that your OB did not take the time to explain everything, mine was very patient and kind. It is a moment of terrible sadness and doctors need to have better bedside manner! I just had my second d&c and the doctor himself did the surgery (both times). Physically, it seemed like the best option, both times my body didn't reconize that the pregnancy had ended for over a week. I did not want to wait.

We are all here for you in whatever you decide. Take care and be kind to yourself.

m6agua

Thank you all for the support, and sharing your stories. It definitely helps to hear everyone's experience and know I'm not alone. My PCP (she was going to do all my appointments up to 28 weeks) called me last night and she really helped. She took the time with me on the phone and explained everything. She recommended that I try to pass everything naturally since it seems like that's what my body is trying to do. I've been spotting since Sunday and it's gotten more, almost a light flow and there is stuff coming out but not really any clots yet. Cramping started yesterday but it's mild so far. I am going to see what happens through the weekend and then talk to her Monday. Just taking it a few days at a time right now. Once again thanks everyone for all the support.