New here and my story!

Taybrayy

hello,
Just wanted to share a little bit about myself. I am 25 and have a 4 year old. I work in a fertility based acupuncture clinic who works with the reproductive science center in California, we deal with a lot of patients ttc who go through ivf iui surrogacy self and natural. Why I talked about that? Well it's crazy to hear stories from there and I can understand the pain everyone goes through when ttc and maybe I can help some of your concerns as far as supplements anything, and can't really talk about it with them for I see them on a weekly basis and don't want them knowing my business and I'm trying to work on baby #2 and was hoping to see what you guys think? My boyfriend and I had unprotected sex 2 years prior to having my son and I got pregnant with him and no lie we had sex like a lot. Well me and him split for a while and stupid me ended up with someone else and gosh I will be hated for this but first I had a miscarriage with the new dude, then got pregnant 3 times and pretty much was forced to abort all 3 times. Given time I slapped myself out of the relationship and worked it out with my sons dad. And things are soooo much better. We want to give my son a sibling but I feel like because of the damage I have done (and remember we had unprotected sex for 2 years before my son was made ) I don't know like what to do . Which is why I'm hoping you ladies had suggestions or any type of inspiring advice or just even words of wisdom. I feel like I'm stressing myself out thinking about it. Please and thanks.

Plainjanie

Welcome.

Are you temping? Or doing anything to keep track of your cycles? How long have you been trying for number 2? It can take a health couple a whole year to conceive.

calfherder

Hi there, welcome! I just want to point out that you should adjust the title of your thread to include *loss mentioned* and *child mentioned*. It is part of the etiquette of this board. https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12539592/welcome-new-visitors-please-read-before-posting#latest

*edit to fix quote box

Taybrayy said:

hello, Just wanted to share a little bit about myself. I am 25 and have a 4 year old. I work in a fertility based acupuncture clinic who works with the reproductive science center in California, we deal with a lot of patients ttc who go through ivf iui surrogacy self and natural. Why I talked about that? Well it's crazy to hear stories from there and I can understand the pain everyone goes through when ttc and maybe I can help some of your concerns as far as supplements anything, and can't really talk about it with them for I see them on a weekly basis and don't want them knowing my business and I'm trying to work on baby #2 and was hoping to see what you guys think? My boyfriend and I had unprotected sex 2 years prior to having my son and I got pregnant with him and no lie we had sex like a lot. Well me and him split for a while and stupid me ended up with someone else and gosh I will be hated for this but first I had a miscarriage with the new dude, then got pregnant 3 times and pretty much was forced to abort all 3 times. Given time I slapped myself out of the relationship and worked it out with my sons dad. And things are soooo much better. We want to give my son a sibling but I feel like because of the damage I have done (and remember we had unprotected sex for 2 years before my son was made ) I don't know like what to do . Which is why I'm hoping you ladies had suggestions or any type of inspiring advice or just even words of wisdom. I feel like I'm stressing myself out thinking about it. Please and thanks.

wifeinraleigh28

Would the "trying to get pregnant board" be a better spot for this?  Just curious

calfherder

I agree, you should post this over in Trying to Get Pregnant. I'm sure they will have better advice for you...

riveridgional

^^ yes to the 3 PP above. This post was very painful for me to read, and I would have greatly appreciated a warning! Your history does not show trouble conceiving, so you belong on a different board.

KLake42

Are you already having trouble, or are you just worried that you'll have to trouble, because it took a while with your first?  Were you charting and temping with your first, or at least aiming for 14 days after your period, or were you just having sex every few days?

You shouldn't worry about abortions impacting your ability to conceive.  They don't.  They are an incredibly low-risk procedure. 

And I agree, if you aren't actually having trouble yet, start with the TTGP board.  And definitely add trigger warnings, since you're talking about both the fact that you've had a child, and that you've had terminated pregnancies. 

It sounds like you've managed to get pregnant a lot of times.  You are probably fertile.  If you had two years of timed intercourse (intentionally charting your fertile days) for your first, then have your guy get his semen analyzed.  My guess is that you weren't always having well-times sex, but if you were, and if you've gotten pregnant 5 times, then maybe it's his sperm.