I'm having a really hard time with my mother in law.
We had a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks in July. We had only told our families and asked that they not tell anyone. My mother in law took it upon herself to tell whoever she wanted. I was getting congratulated by people I don't know and even getting cards in the mail! I was really, really hurt and felt disrespected. And then when we found out we lost the baby, it was even worse! Because then people were still asking us how we were doing and how the baby was doing and we had to tell all of them. I was just starting to get over it and then last night happened...
My brother in law and his wife have 8 kids and needed our help trick or treating. We had to ride in a car with my in laws and 2 of the little girls. My 6 year old Niece feels the need to ask me about the baby every time she sees me... And last night it hit me wrong and I started crying. My mother in law comes and hugs me for way too long (I hate being touched anyway) and tells me how sorry she is and how much she loves me and THEN thinks it's the perfect opportunity to ask me if we're going to try again soon. First of all, when I'm crying about a baby I've recently lost why would she ask me about trying again? And second of all, why would she think I'm going to tell her? I don't want everyone that we know to know we are actively trying!!! It just really rubbed me the wrong way...
Thanks to anyone that read this entire thing. I had to get it out. :-S
Re: I just need to vent...
I had 3 different conversation with her about telling people. The first time was when we told them. The second time was a week later when I found out she had been telling people and then I talked to her one more time. I just feel like she doesn't respect my wishes.
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BFP #4: 03/31/16 EDD 12/01/2016