MIL rant...

acanfield18

Back story...my MIL and I don't really get along...we tolerate one another at best...well after deciding she would rather not spend Thanksgiving with us, she dropped the bomb that she was going on vacation the week of my due date, so she was also ditching us for the birth of our son....her other plans fell through so even though I didn't want to, I called and reinvited her to Thanksgiving with us...and she accepted. So now everyone else is pissed at me because I didn't tell her to stay home alone...but its just not me, I'm better than to stoop to her level and I feel better about doing what I think is right..I'm just annoyed and my feelings are hurt that we were her second choice and that she somehow "forgot" I was having a baby...as if I havnt been pregnant for most of the damn year...

Elizabella85

Sorry that you're getting criticism for being classy. You've done a kind thing even though your MIL has blatantly made family a low priority. Kudos to you!!

taysun

It was nice of you to invite her even though you'd have liked not to. However, I'd try and look at the plus side of her vacation. If you actually end up giving birth that week, you'll probably be glad not to have her around for your own sake if you don't particularly like her anyway. Your son won't know the difference and you might not even deliver while she's gone.
We've actually asked my SO's parents and my father to not visit for a few months, our baby won't know the difference and we don't want the added stress.

Taylovesbrad

For real, you handled this great! You are.not playing into her psychological warfare. I'm sure she wants you to beg her to be around for the birth, ect. It was mature of you to reinvite her to thanksgiving.

The fact t she won't be around actually seems like a huge blessing but I'm sure it hurts her son. Either way you are.handling her well, with hormones, so good job!

acanfield18

Thanks ladies. I just got upset that everyone else seemed to get pissed at me for not being a jerk. It's not me and I don't like feeling pressured into doing something I don't think is right...so now instead of my SIL cooking at her house like we planned, ya know since its days from my due date..I'll be cooking...not a huge deal actually. I'm looking forward to having left overs to freeze...plus his parents can bring their pup...all of their kids are grown and their family dog passed earlier this year, so this new puppy is treated like a child. I don't mind, he'll help clean the floor after all of the littles are done! I am also not even mad anymore that they aren't going to be here when baby comes..she was with me when my first was born and it didn't end well...I was just hoping for more family support, since we are actually around family... But hubby and I have a solid plan and I'm done stressing..thanks again for listening to my tantrum... Good luck!