Tough announcement to make

jayded24

So I just recently discovered I am pregnant. However, it is not with my ex boyfriend of 2 years. After we broke up I started seeing a guy I had known since high school, someone I truly care about. After only a month of dating I discovered our news. I'm having a hard time thinking of a way to introduce this to my family, especially since they don't know this guy at all. They can be somewhat judgemental at first.. any advice would be greatly appreciated!

kynbar5

I think there's not a gentle way around it. Just going to have to rip it off like a band-aid. I would say to have some things worked out before hand because you know what questions will be asked. Does the guy know? Does he plan on being around? Are the two of you doing this together? Can you support a child? Do you live on your own? I just think that if you go into informing your family with answers to any questions you think they'll have it will be much easier to digest. Good luck and I hope it all works out for you!

ecwk

Everything said above ^^^
Best of luck to you. If you find it's not easy in the beginning, try to remember it won't be like that forever.

cMichelle0423

kynbar5 said:

I think there's not a gentle way around it. Just going to have to rip it off like a band-aid. I would say to have some things worked out before hand because you know what questions will be asked. Does the guy know? Does he plan on being around? Are the two of you doing this together? Can you support a child? Do you live on your own? I just think that if you go into informing your family with answers to any questions you think they'll have it will be much easier to digest. Good luck and I hope it all works out for you!

Yupp, all of this. Good luck.

1faceinacrowd

Hi there! I'm Jessie - I'm new here so hopefully it's okay that I respond. I just saw your post and I've definitely been there, so I thought I'd offer some words of advice.

When I got pregnant with my now 4-year-old, I had only been dating her dad for about 2 months. Most of my family hadn't met him yet, and we were only 19 and 21, so we were still fairly young. My mom is very judgmental, and I will be completely honest - she was not happy. Despite being 19 and having my own apartment and a decent job, she freaked out and told me my life was ruined. 

BUT after a few months, my mom got much better. She saw that we were being responsible and handling things very well. My daughter's dad and I tried to make it work but ended up splitting a couple of years later and we now co-parent very well. I'm 25 now, and my mom actually denies that she had the response that she did. She LOVES being a grandma and has been so supportive, especially since I had my daughter. 

So long story short, your family might freak out a little, because they love you and they'll be worried about you and your future baby. There's no way to know if you and the father will work out, but even if you don't, your baby will be in good hands. In the end, I guarantee your family will be excited and supportive.

ijstarr28

First of all, CONGRATULATIONS!!! 

If I were in your situation I would probably let the family meet him before telling them about the pregnancy. Give them a chance to form their own opinions about the guy before he become the guy that KU their daughter. Depending on how far along you are you could have a few family gatherings before you tell them.  I've been married to my Husband for a year and a half and i'm still not telling my family until Thanksgiving. 

I would just give them a chance to like the guy before they find out you're pregnant. Springing a new guy on them and a pregnancy might be traumatic and it could set the tone for any future relationship between your BF and your family. 

snowhite12

I have been in your shoes and it is not easy or fun.

After I graduated college I moved back home jobless and in student and car loan debt. I started "dating" a guy and within 2 months I found out I was pregnant. I started bringing the guy around my family in prep to tell them the news.

After about 2 months, I became very sick and had to tell them. I broke the news to my mom and sister who were stunned. They were with me when I finally told my very judgmental and conservative father. All he said in response when I told him was "okay". He barely spoke to me for months.

However, towards the end of my pregnancy he definitely opened up and the moment he saw his granddaughter he fell in love.

"the guy" and I are now happily married with our 2 year old, we just bought a house,  a German shepherd and I am pregnant with baby number 2!

My best advise to you is keep your head up, let your family get to know the father a bit before you break the news. This can and WILL turn out for the best! CONGRATS!