hello all! I am 29 years old and was adopted at 3 weeks. I always knew I was adopted, at least for as long as I could remember.. It was never anything my parents hid from me. (I mean seriously, how could they... on the outside I looked different than them... although I never felt any different!)
anyway, I wanted to share my story and be open to answering any questions anyone might have about my adoption experience. My family and I certainly had our rough times, but at the end of the day, I am beyond thankful that my birth mother gave me up. some background....
My mom and dad (the ones that adopted me) could not have their own children, so they decided to adopt... after 5 long years of waiting, I was born!
My birth mother (Caucasian) was 28, birth father (African American) was 16. Birth mother never told birth father she was pregnant. She had 2 older daughters and knew she could not properly care for another child at that time.
About three years ago I decided to hire a private investigator, after failed attempts of finding my birth family through the state in which I was adopted. I was able to locate my birth mother, her three daughters, my birth father and his daughter. I have been able to get all my medical information, and meet my birth father and one of my birth mother's daughters. It was am amazing experience, and I wouldn't trade it for the world. (My birth mother decided it was too hard for her to meet me, and I respect that.. I will be here if and when she decides she does want to reconnect though)
To the moms out there who are thinking of putting their little one up for adoption... I can only speak for myself and my situation, but what I can say is that I know deep down inside (and I have always known) that my mother did whatever she needed to do to ensure I had a great life. She knew she was unable to provide for me the way she wanted to, so she acted selflessly when she made the decision to give me up. there are not enough words to express how grateful I am that she made that decision. I cannot imagine how hard it must of been - how strong she was to make the decision. I don't know that I could have done it. Have peace in knowing you are making the best decision for your child, and we appreciate and love you for it.
I am happy to share many more details of my experience if anyone is interested.. I honestly feel like I could write a book. My story is just my story, and many others may be very different, but I feel that my life has been a positive example of how amazing adoption is. I could have been left at a doorstep, or put in a foster home, but instead, my birth mother made the decision to place me with a loving family that gave me the world. For that, I will always be thankful!
Good luck to everyone in their journey. It truly is a beautiful one to take.