I, unfortunately, did not tell her to stuff it. I figured rather than get her going around my brother, who would tell my father, who would try to "mediate" I would bank on history repeating itself and not hearing from her again for quite a while. The less that gets back to my father, the better. I fully expect his new wife will take it as me being stressed with bedrest and she will decide to come in to help. I don't know how well I can do bed rest when I'm in jail for murder.
If that decision was made I would go through with the confontation and put my foot down. In the meantime, I am trying to avoid it since drama with this side of the family really stresses me out.
Also, wtf Bump app? I get halfway through a post and it gives me this "you don't have permission to do that" notice so I can't reply unless I reload the whole app.
This must be the year of family inviting themselves to the holidays. FIL and SMIL invited themselves to Thanskgiving and then MIL invites herself to Christmas. DH won't say no and I do enjoy having families around for the holidays but geeze!
March '16 February Siggy challenge- After Pregnancy hopes
I also do love having family around for the holidays. What I don't love is being told that I'm hosting 50 some odd people and what I'm cooking. Also, most of the family that would come around are only the ones that do so for a handout. It gets annoying to me :-w
March '16 December Siggy Challenge - Favorite Christmas Movies/Quotes
WTF High Risk Doctor?!? I know you see a lot of patients and don't know me all that well but please take 30 seconds to look over my file before you speak to me! It's bad enough I have to deal with the ignorant public but when you are holding my file which I would assume/ hope has my medical records that I would expect at least mentions my multiple miscarriages, it is not ok to say with a little chuckle, "Oh you have a nine year old? Wow you really waited a long time to decide to have another one!" Insensitive and unacceptable especially from someone in your profession!
@kynbar5 I feel for you with your mom's crazy pronouncement. My MIL tries stuff like that all the time with holidays. My favorite (not really) was the year that she and my SIL decided Christmas Day that they wanted to spend the holiday at BIL's instead of our house since his wife was going to her sister's. Fine, no hard feelings right? Problem was BIL doesn't cook and they didn't want to cook; so they showed up at my house and she had her kids pack up my fresh from the oven turkey and all my sides despite my freaking out telling them they were not leaving my house with my holiday dinner! I was losing my $&*+ and hubby was just standing there saying nothing while they stole our holiday meal. I told him if he ever did that again (just stood there and watched the insanity) he'd be a single man in the new year.
WTF High Risk Doctor?!? I know you see a lot of patients and don't know me all that well but please take 30 seconds to look over my file before you speak to me! It's bad enough I have to deal with the ignorant public but when you are holding my file which I would assume/ hope has my medical records that I would expect at least mentions my multiple miscarriages, it is not ok to say with a little chuckle, "Oh you have a nine year old? Wow you really waited a long time to decide to have another one!" Insensitive and unacceptable especially from someone in your profession!
@kynbar5 I feel for you with your mom's crazy pronouncement. My MIL tries stuff like that all the time with holidays. My favorite (not really) was the year that she and my SIL decided Christmas Day that they wanted to spend the holiday at BIL's instead of our house since his wife was going to her sister's. Fine, no hard feelings right? Problem was BIL doesn't cook and they didn't want to cook; so they showed up at my house and she had her kids pack up my fresh from the oven turkey and all my sides despite my freaking out telling them they were not leaving my house with my holiday dinner! I was losing my $&*+ and hubby was just standing there saying nothing while they stole our holiday meal. I told him if he ever did that again (just stood there and watched the insanity) he'd be a single man in the new year.
And this day just keeps getting better! Just waited an hour and a half to see my dr only to find out his midwife, who I don't like to begin with never called to tell me I failed my sugar test last month (AMA so I had to test early). Then he couldn't find the heartbeat so he wanted me to go get an ultrasound tonight. I'm not worried because she's moving like crazy and I had an hour and a half anatomy scan where they said everything looked "perfect" earlier today. Still he insisted so the girl in the office told me to make my next appointment then head out before the ultrasound place closed. The receptionist told me my next appointment will be with the midwife. I asked to only see the dr from now on because I'm having another c section. They told me I can't make an appointment now until the dr and practice manager ok my not seeing the midwife. I leave sans appointment to go to the ultrasound place only to be told "They never told us you were high risk. We can't do that here." Ugh!
I came home, vented to hubby and told him it looks like I'll be getting laid off next month for at least a month. He proceeds to tell me he out some laundry away, DD should be ready for bed, he's going out to meet up with some buddies. It's nine o'clock, I have been at work, and appointments from 6 a.m. until 8:30 tonight, haven't eaten dinner and now I get to wrestle a 9 year old to bed because she wants to know where daddy is going and why is he going out so late. That's for tipping over the entire apple cart on this craptastic day before you head out for a good time with your buddies on the way out hubby! And telling him I've had a crummy day and needed him here had no effect. He got snippy because I wouldn't kiss him goodbye. I said, "I asked for help and you're just ignoring me. If you don't get to leave with a clear conscience that's on you."
WTF High Risk Doctor?!? I know you see a lot of patients and don't know me all that well but please take 30 seconds to look over my file before you speak to me! It's bad enough I have to deal with the ignorant public but when you are holding my file which I would assume/ hope has my medical records that I would expect at least mentions my multiple miscarriages, it is not ok to say with a little chuckle, "Oh you have a nine year old? Wow you really waited a long time to decide to have another one!" Insensitive and unacceptable especially from someone in your profession!
@kynbar5 I feel for you with your mom's crazy pronouncement. My MIL tries stuff like that all the time with holidays. My favorite (not really) was the year that she and my SIL decided Christmas Day that they wanted to spend the holiday at BIL's instead of our house since his wife was going to her sister's. Fine, no hard feelings right? Problem was BIL doesn't cook and they didn't want to cook; so they showed up at my house and she had her kids pack up my fresh from the oven turkey and all my sides despite my freaking out telling them they were not leaving my house with my holiday dinner! I was losing my $&*+ and hubby was just standing there saying nothing while they stole our holiday meal. I told him if he ever did that again (just stood there and watched the insanity) he'd be a single man in the new year.
Wow....after reading all the previous WTFs, mine seems little and kind of whiny....lol.....
WTF DH, telling me you are freaked out by my belly and aren't sure if you can handle touching it....ever (while there is a baby in there).....and then not understanding why in my hormone ridden state you made me cry????
And here I was thinking I had none this week. Turns out I was just a day late.
WTF MIL no, you cannot sleep over on Sunday after dinner. You live 35 minutes away and are perfectly capable of driving down and back. You have NO problem doing do twice a week for your bridge game in the next town over, it's only when it comes to visiting your son and grandchild that it's OMG SO FAR. I realize this is actually probably an UO as my mother disagrees with me too but I am at level like 99 stress right now at work and cannot start the week like this. To be clear it is DHs bday dinner that I set up and invited everyone for, the only reason she wants to stay is so she can drink. I'm perhaps a major brat here but no, just no. Why is dinner not enough?! Gaghhhhh.
WTF DH pushing to unpack so many boxes....I just want to lounge in bed, but no, I feel guilty that I need to help you out. It's good, but bad being married to the most driven man in the world. Kind of exhausting actually. And yes, this WTF is really dumb but I'm hormonal and moody.
DS1 - 9/21/11
DS2 - 7/4/14
DS3 - 2/21/16 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
@skruhmin I would not feel a bit guilty about letting Mr Driven tackle those boxes himself.
Thanks for your permission I have to keep reminding myself that he was laid up all weekend with a massive kidney stone so I took the brunt of move activities. But I'm a people pleaser so there's my guilt factor. I will say our house is coming together quickly thanks to him.
DS1 - 9/21/11
DS2 - 7/4/14
DS3 - 2/21/16 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
Oh man, kidney stones are torture! Hope he's on the mend now. Yep, definitely your turn for a break - growing a baby and still recovering from all that illness! Plus you'll be unpacking that little human from your belly in March - that's plenty enough unpacking to look forward to LOL
March 2016 siggy: babies - expectation vs reality Brian's Whovian wife (5/'09)
AP, BF, BW, CD, CLW, CS, ERF, Catholic mama
to Evan (7/'10), Clare (8/'11), Dean (3/'14), ^F(12/'15)^, Rose (3/'16)
*no longer a Timelord ~ WibblyWobbly BabyWaby is here!*
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@maddynnugget that is so so so much WTF that I'm having trouble gathering my jaw back up out of my lap. WTAFFFFFFF I'm so sorry about all of that!
Thanks. I made the mistake of saying out loud the day before how well everything was going transitioning to working full time and being pregnant and I wasn't having any of the stress I thought I would. Yeah the universe was laughing so hard at me yesterday I'm sure it peed itself!
My WTF seems really small in comparison, but here it (well, they) go anyway:
WTF people who borrow DVDs from the library and use them as frisbees, doorstops, or whatever else causes those giant scratches that prevent them from playing. There's nothing better than getting through 95% of a show and having it freeze up on you.
WTF bull calf next door who is being weaned. Yes. I feel bad that you want milk and can't have it but you sound like a straight up blow horn at 6 am and it's been two weeks now...it's getting a little old.
I'm going to give a WTF to my sister who said I could not "wear" my baby at her wedding...her wedding is next October and my baby isn't even born yet. Bridezilla?
Re: WTF 10/28
If that decision was made I would go through with the confontation and put my foot down. In the meantime, I am trying to avoid it since drama with this side of the family really stresses me out.
Also, wtf Bump app? I get halfway through a post and it gives me this "you don't have permission to do that" notice so I can't reply unless I reload the whole app.
March '16 February Siggy challenge- After Pregnancy hopes
@kynbar5 I feel for you with your mom's crazy pronouncement. My MIL tries stuff like that all the time with holidays. My favorite (not really) was the year that she and my SIL decided Christmas Day that they wanted to spend the holiday at BIL's instead of our house since his wife was going to her sister's. Fine, no hard feelings right? Problem was BIL doesn't cook and they didn't want to cook; so they showed up at my house and she had her kids pack up my fresh from the oven turkey and all my sides despite my freaking out telling them they were not leaving my house with my holiday dinner! I was losing my $&*+ and hubby was just standing there saying nothing while they stole our holiday meal. I told him if he ever did that again (just stood there and watched the insanity) he'd be a single man in the new year.
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
*BFP #1- 11/12/12, m/c 11/16/12 @ 6 weeks
*BFP #2- 1/23/13 EDD 10/4/13
*Emma Rose: 10/8/13
*BFP #3- EDD 03/9/16
March '16 December Siggy Challenge- Favorite Christmas Movie/Quote
Already there as of this afternoon
I came home, vented to hubby and told him it looks like I'll be getting laid off next month for at least a month. He proceeds to tell me he out some laundry away, DD should be ready for bed, he's going out to meet up with some buddies. It's nine o'clock, I have been at work, and appointments from 6 a.m. until 8:30 tonight, haven't eaten dinner and now I get to wrestle a 9 year old to bed because she wants to know where daddy is going and why is he going out so late. That's for tipping over the entire apple cart on this craptastic day before you head out for a good time with your buddies on the way out hubby! And telling him I've had a crummy day and needed him here had no effect. He got snippy because I wouldn't kiss him goodbye. I said, "I asked for help and you're just ignoring me. If you don't get to leave with a clear conscience that's on you."
In short WTF: people!!!!!
January siggy challenge - Pregnant lady problems
WTF MIL no, you cannot sleep over on Sunday after dinner. You live 35 minutes away and are perfectly capable of driving down and back. You have NO problem doing do twice a week for your bridge game in the next town over, it's only when it comes to visiting your son and grandchild that it's OMG SO FAR. I realize this is actually probably an UO as my mother disagrees with me too but I am at level like 99 stress right now at work and cannot start the week like this. To be clear it is DHs bday dinner that I set up and invited everyone for, the only reason she wants to stay is so she can drink. I'm perhaps a major brat here but no, just no. Why is dinner not enough?! Gaghhhhh.
WTF DH pushing to unpack so many boxes....I just want to lounge in bed, but no, I feel guilty that I need to help you out. It's good, but bad being married to the most driven man in the world. Kind of exhausting actually. And yes, this WTF is really dumb but I'm hormonal and moody.
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
March 2016 siggy: babies - expectation vs reality
Brian's Whovian wife (5/'09)
Autism mama!
March 2016 siggy: babies - expectation vs reality
Brian's Whovian wife (5/'09)
Autism mama!
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
March 2016 siggy: babies - expectation vs reality
Brian's Whovian wife (5/'09)
Autism mama!
Thanks. I made the mistake of saying out loud the day before how well everything was going transitioning to working full time and being pregnant and I wasn't having any of the stress I thought I would. Yeah the universe was laughing so hard at me yesterday I'm sure it peed itself!
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
WTF people who borrow DVDs from the library and use them as frisbees, doorstops, or whatever else causes those giant scratches that prevent them from playing. There's nothing better than getting through 95% of a show and having it freeze up on you.
WTF bull calf next door who is being weaned. Yes. I feel bad that you want milk and can't have it but you sound like a straight up blow horn at 6 am and it's been two weeks now...it's getting a little old.
OK. That feels better. Thanks, ladies!
March 2016 siggy: babies - expectation vs reality
Brian's Whovian wife (5/'09)
Autism mama!