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HELP PLEASE!!!!!!

jheuertzjheuertz member
edited October 2015 in July 2016 Moms
My husband and I just last week found out we are expecting baby #3. We are excited but I'm scared and worried at the same time. We just had a baby may of this year. He in now 5 months old. Our oldest is going to be 5 when baby is born. I'm scared of what our family will SAY when we tell them the news. When I was pregnant with my youngest I had a few complications and a miscarriage before him. I'm scared to tell them. What can I do to help myself...?????
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  • Singingmama10Singingmama10 member
    Remind yourself... it doesn't matter what your family thinks.  You and DS are adults (I'm assuming) and can make decisions for yourself.  If they can't accept that then that is their problem.  
    P.S. I know it's scary with the two youngest so close in age, but you'll learn how to manage it :) 
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  • jheuertzjheuertz member
    Thank you!!!! :)
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  • WorkingMom562WorkingMom562 member
    I agree! It's your decision not there's. They're going to think whatever they think regardless of what you do. All you can do I'd r what's right for you and your DH!
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  • ebox322ebox322 member
    I agree, it's your life...are they going to be responsible for your kids? No? Then they can stfu, you do you!

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  • stephweinsteinstephweinstein member
    Singingmama10 said:
    Remind yourself... it doesn't matter what your family thinks.  You and DS are adults (I'm assuming) and can make decisions for yourself.  If they can't accept that then that is their problem.  
    P.S. I know it's scary with the two youngest so close in age, but you'll learn how to manage it :) 
    Ooh! I love this @singingmama10.  I'm assuming that any rebuke you would get would be because of concern? If you feel like it's their business and you want to put their hesitations to rest tell them your family plan. I.E. "We wanted to have our second and third close together.  We chose this direction because of xyz and we feel confident that raising our three children with this age difference will mean that xyz."

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  • juliagulia38juliagulia38 member
    I had some concerns about telling my family also. But honestly at this pointi don't care what they think. I'm pregnant with my 3rd also. Everyone was excited except my sister. But my sister is always like that, so I expected it and told her to put on a fake smile and get over it! She'll come around eventually. She's an amazing aunt and the kids love her. Who can be upset about being a precious baby into this world? People be cray cray.
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  • TattoosandLaceTattoosandLace member
    I'm in the same boat. My MIL will be PISSED. Our first is 8 months old. MIL is just that kind of person to not like anything that isn't her idea.
    Just have to remember that it's OUR baby and OUR family, not hers.
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    TattoosandLace said:
    I'm in the same boat. My MIL will be PISSED. Our first is 8 months old. MIL is just that kind of person to not like anything that isn't her idea. Just have to remember that it's OUR baby and OUR family, not hers.
    I have the same type, it gets to the point where when we go down and visit my husband will cut visits short because it gets to be to much judging for even him. There's a reason he moved 3 hours away. I remind myself that my DH and I are our own family bubble and we allow other people in our family bubble when we want to, not them pushing themselves in. 

    I'm also not telling my best friend I'm pregnant until a certain point because she felt like telling me I probably wasn't pregnant and it was just gas, because it took her and her DH 5 months to convcive their 2nd child. 

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    thebigoaktree said:


    TattoosandLace said:

    I'm in the same boat. My MIL will be PISSED. Our first is 8 months old. MIL is just that kind of person to not like anything that isn't her idea.
    Just have to remember that it's OUR baby and OUR family, not hers.

    I have the same type, it gets to the point where when we go down and visit my husband will cut visits short because it gets to be to much judging for even him. There's a reason he moved 3 hours away. I remind myself that my DH and I are our own family bubble and we allow other people in our family bubble when we want to, not them pushing themselves in. 

    I'm also not telling my best friend I'm pregnant until a certain point because she felt like telling me I probably wasn't pregnant and it was just gas, because it took her and her DH 5 months to convcive their 2nd child. 


    I wish we lived closer to my family. We live a mile from MIL (on the family farm) and 10.5 hours from my family. :/
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