We aren't planning to tell anyone because I don't want anyone else's suggestions or opinions. My mom already made several nasty comments about a name we were considering.
When anyone asks, my husband says "Gertrude Esmerelda" or "Chnequa Chiquita" to get them to shut up.
LOL - we are openly sharing our name (family names so they are immune to criticism), but prior to that my husband took great pleasure in letting people know that we think Fantasia is a beautiful name that works for both genders. So funny.
We haven't made a final decision but I think we're close. Everyone keeps asking and I tell them what we're thinking of. So far no stupid or rude comments. My mom likes it a lot too so I've been pretty fortunate
We did not tell anyone with DD and we are not telling anyone with this little guy either. Both times we have known exactly what we were naming our kids prior to being pregnant. However, people are judgemental and don't hesitate to give unsolicited advice. We don't want to hear it. Also, people (my family) like to get things personalized as soon as they know the name. We reserve the right to change our minds until we have officially put it on a legal document, which is what we tell people when they ask why we aren't sharing the name. Our families were a little annoyed with this during our first pregnancy, but they don't even question it for this one. They're learning
We've had the names picked out since before we knew the genders, but we are letting them secret. My reasoning is that I really love the idea of introducing them to the world once they make their arrival. It also keeps all the name naysayers at bay. We just say "Yes, we know their names. No, we're not telling you."
We told people early with DS because we were sure of the name and did not revive any negative comments.
This time around we are not telling because we aren't sure yet. I don't want to change my mind or choose a name not on our short list and have to explain to people why.
We've decided and shared already. Because, well, I guess we don't GAF what anyone thinks or says about it. Oh and technically also because we're using family names and wanted to share that to be sure that was cool--which kind of negates what I said about not GAF but hey. ;;) But, fwiw, another thing is that, given we use his name already, it's kinda just more convenient and fun if we can include others in referring to him by name at this point.
S & A married 8.12.2013 Expecting Saulie O 2.12.2016
We are def waiting to share the name like we did with our first daughter. After we found out we were having another girl, we did share our "boy" name (since its probably our last pregnancy). We got some underwhelming responses about our choice. Since we aren't telling and avoiding any annoying responses to the name, I have found it's easier to say we haven't decided on a name yet. It always feels just a little awkward when you tell someone "yes we know but we aren't telling." Especially when it's someone like your eye doctor or a fairly random stranger. They kind of look at you like ...'I could really care'. Just easier to dodge the topic I think.
We've been sharing all along, we shared the two potential names and when we found out we're having a little boy we've been shouting Malachi August from the rooftops! So far we've gotten almost exclusively positive reactions to the name, which has been great. There have been a couple ones that seemed less into it, but I just stay enthusiastic about it anyway because guess what? It's not their baby!
We picked Malachi because we wanted either a family name or a Biblical name and we don't really like our male family names all that much! We wanted something not on the top 100 but not too out there, and this fit the bill! Plus we really just like it My DH's father's name is Michael so this is kinda close to that without being it as well.
August is actually after my grandpa, so we did go family name for the middle name. We love the way they sound together!
Oh, I should add that the hello no I am not sharing really only applies to my in laws and their family. Out of respect to my inlaws we are also not telling my parents or family. But I shared with my two best friends, because they are also pregnant w girls, just to avoid having same names ( one is named Emma and the other is undecided/ due 4 days after me). I think I have also shared my top choice at some point on this board. I don't have any problems really with sharing with others because no one has ever given negative feedback but I don't want to hear it this time from my in laws so we aren't telling them.
@mcklough wrong guess again there are too many schools near the fingerlakes! We went to Cornell at the bottom of Cayuga lake. but I promise we aren't like Andy Bernard from the Office. My husband's family is originally from Orlean and we dropped by the school after my husband's grandpa unexpectedly passed away this summer and recreated a picture of my MIL and my husband; ETA: delete pic
I think its ballsy when people say "ew I dont like that name" after asking! I would never have the balls to do that. Unfort my inlaws have no shame. We won't be telling till after hes born for this reason.
I think its ballsy when people say "ew I dont like that name" after asking! I would never have the balls to do that. Unfort my inlaws have no shame. We won't be telling till after hes born for this reason.
That is what I do not understand! I would never tell someone anything negative about names that they come up with, unless they specifically asked me for an opinion, and even then I would be very cautious about it.
I recently started telling people the name and have gotten nothing but great feedback, expect for my grandmother which didn't surprise me at all. She kind of laughed and made a face, I laughed at her reaction and just tried to justify it but quickly moved to another subject.. Ah, grandmothers.
Oh, I should add that the hello no I am not sharing really only applies to my in laws and their family. Out of respect to my inlaws we are also not telling my parents or family. But I shared with my two best friends, because they are also pregnant w girls, just to avoid having same names ( one is named Emma and the other is undecided/ due 4 days after me). I think I have also shared my top choice at some point on this board. I don't have any problems really with sharing with others because no one has ever given negative feedback but I don't want to hear it this time from my in laws so we aren't telling them.
@mcklough wrong guess again there are too many schools near the fingerlakes! We went to Cornell at the bottom of Cayuga lake. but I promise we aren't like Andy Bernard from the Office. My husband's family is originally from Orlean and we dropped by the school after my husband's grandpa unexpectedly passed away this summer and recreated a picture of my MIL and my husband;
Super cute! I trimmed the pics for the sanity of scrolling Yes there are SO many colleges in the Fingerlakes/Rochester area. I actually like Cornell as a first name but it's a little out there plus I agree it would be TOTALLY awkward if they ever wanted to go there. Total side note- did you hear they are turning a street in downtown Ithaca into "diagon ally" for Halloween? We are about 3 hours away now or else I'd totally want to go!
We're not telling anyone irl. It's kind of fun having our own little secret and we really don't want any input. When people ask we usually make a joke about Moonunit or Dweezle.
We waited with our first because our families are so opinionated. We just said that we knew the sex and the name was the last thing we could keep between us (me and my husband) and make a surprise for everyone else. People seemed to understand. We're still deciding this time around if we'll share or not.
We told his parents our front runner name for a girl (Penelope Rose), and they had a lukewarm reaction to it. Once our ultrasound confirmed girl, my MIL (husband, MIL, and I all work together in an office) announced to everyone at work the name, like it was her idea! I was pretty surprised.
I had one coworker who asked, "Are you REALLY going to name her Penelope?" and another coworker, who just had a baby recently, jumped in with, "Of course they are, it's a BEAUTIFUL name." and I was pretty grateful for that.
My side of the family loves the name. FIL is still trying to get us to name her Meredith -- which happens to be the name of his high school ex girlfriend. GROSS.
If baby had been a boy, I probably would have waited until he was born to announce the name. Both sides of the family are heavy on the patriarchal name being passed down (husband is a Jr; my family passes down a first name and middle name is always grandfathers) and we had planned to ditch both traditions, so there will be hurt feelings no matter what.
We're not telling anyone irl. It's kind of fun having our own little secret and we really don't want any input. When people ask we usually make a joke about Moonunit or Dweezle.
We will be waiting until birth to announce his name. Right now it just feels like a special secret SO & I can share between the two of us until baby arrives
We haven't decided but once we do, we'll keep it secret because I just don't want people's input. We do have a few people we're floating ideas by just to get some input but these are people who will give input without being pushy or mean.
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I think its ballsy when people say "ew I dont like that name" after asking! I would never have the balls to do that. Unfort my inlaws have no shame. We won't be telling till after hes born for this reason.
If it's a friend or family I say "it's unique" or try to think of some way to compliment the name without lying and saying I love it. I wouldn't actually say wow that's horrible if they weren't genuinely asking my opinion
Hey mamas!
Just curious on who's sharing their baby's name now and who's waiting til birth?
And if you're waiting, why?
What are some clever lines you've used to get people off your back about it?
Title is for the judgement I know some people give out if they hear a name before birth
We have told a select few - we did the same with our son, I told my mother and that was it. Our reasoning is because every time someone I know mentions a name, their baby name is immediately given to someone else we know who just had a baby. I know that I can't claim a name but I definitely like names that are not very popular, like my name Ashley - do not want my child to have 7 other "Ashley's" in their class and have to go by "Ashley D." etc. as I did. When people asked that we didn't want to tell, we just straight up said - we aren't telling until the birth and that usually shut them up rather quickly.
We're not telling anyone irl. It's kind of fun having our own little secret and we really don't want any input. When people ask we usually make a joke about Moonunit or Dweezle.
MOONUNIT! Totes stealing... What about Becky? )
Ah, yes! Becky! The perfect name for if I have a feminine little boy! 8->
I wish I kept mine a secret not from my family but my babies sperm donor(my ex fiancé). He has been so judgemental on it saying it's a sissy name. But why name my son after someone who wanted nothing to do with me once he found out I was pregnant. And continues to say he doesn't want anything to do with him. BTW my son's name is Dawson Owen I think it's perfect. His middle name is my dad's middle name
With our first, we decided to wait till she was born. This was because we didn't feel like getting everyone's opinion on her name. I don't care what you think of my child's name... so if I don't share, I don't have to be concerned with your approval or disapproval. We also didn't really want anyone's "assistance" in naming our child. So my line was, "yes, we've chosen a name but we aren't sharing it until she gets here".
However, with this one, we simply can't decide on a name. So when people ask thats what I tell them. And sometimes I even tell a couple of the rejected names that way people don't think I'm just trying to keep it a secret. Once we decide, I don't care what people think, but the problem now is deciding! haha
I just simply say oh I have no idea yet is so hard... then people start giving you their opinions and I tune it all out.... but I did tell a lady the other day that we, are just keeping it to ourselves.
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This time around we are not telling because we aren't sure yet. I don't want to change my mind or choose a name not on our short list and have to explain to people why.
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I wouldn't actually say wow that's horrible if they weren't genuinely asking my opinion