I am due to deliver our second in 6 weeks and our first child will be 18 months old. As the due date approaches, I feel my anxiety building on how to handle the two of them smoothly!
Sadly I have some ultra critical family members who are quick to point the finger at the mother and offer their unsolicited "help". My first child was SEVERELY colic. Multiple pediatricians concluded it was due to a milk allergy that was aggravated by cows milk proteins passing through my breast milk. But MIL and sister- in-laws convinced my husband the problem was caused by me! This went on for 8 weeks until I and the baby had finally gotten all traces of cow's milk protein out of our systems…at which point she turned into an angel baby. For the following year, my inlaws continued to roll their eyes at the mention of our daughter's allergy. Well now that she's 16 months and gets a massive rash all over her behind within minutes of having a trace of milk or soy; The evidence of the allergy is irrefutable….and my father-in-law has finally admitted that he had a dairy allergy until he was 14 yrs old! So this bad experience is why I'm getting very nervous as my due date approaches. I know its going to be hard…I know I won't be perfect…but the better I can handle it, the less opportunity my in-laws will have to criticize.
If any of you have any advice at all on how to handle a newborn and young toddler PLEASE, PLEASE share it!
Is there anything I should start doing now with my toddler now to prepare her for the newborn? Once the newborn is here, how much one-on-one time should I still try to spend with my toddler?