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Devastating news at first ultrasound (11 weeks)
mippy101
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I haven't been active on any boards but just wanted to share my story. I went in last week for my first ultrasound at 11 weeks. My husband and I were so nervous and anxious to see a beating heart on the ultrasound since we had a miscarriage earlier this year. We got to the ultrasound and saw the baby moving around and the heart beating and it was so thrilling! The tech didn't say anything was abnormal and we thought everything was fine. We were so excited. But when the doctor came in, she said that they saw something on the ultrasound that was concerning - the head wasn't shaped normally. They sent me to a Maternal Fetal Medicine specialist, who did another ultrasound. That doctor told us she saw significant abnormalities on the ultrasound. The skull hadn't formed properly and the brain tissue was exposed. She told us that they baby would not be viable once outside the womb, if we even made it full term. So the day went from elation to total devastation. We have to terminate the pregnancy. We were just getting ready to share the news of our pregnancy with the world and we were making so many plans and this news has really hit us hard. I'm sad to be leaving the May 2016 group and wish you guys all the best. Hope to be back soon.
Re: Devastating news at first ultrasound (11 weeks)
That is horrible
I am so sorry to hear your news. Wishing you all the best in your journey to conceive. xoxo
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019I'm so, so sorry you received such horrible news. I hear tears in my eyes as I type this. It's really is the worst feeling when you feel so helpless and you'd do anything to make it better for your child.
Last pregnancy, I found out at 18 weeks that my baby wouldn't survive the pregnancy due to a rare heart condition. The second specialist we saw said we had to terminate the pregnancy, but the next ones said we could carry and let him go on his own terms (he was with me an additional 2.5 months). It was our choice. I'm definitely not trying to talk you out of your decision, but in case you are even considering carrying, please visit allthatlovecando.blogspot.com. There are no textbooks on how to deal with these situations and you are so blindsided with the worst possible news.
Many T&Ps to you.
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Married in 2011
Baby 1: Stillborn at 27 weeks (April 2014)
Baby 2: Due May 2016
BFP 1: 9/15/2013 | DD 5/23/2014
BFP 2: 9/15/2015 | EDD 5/26/2016
DST T4L
DS: Born 5-17-16