Frustrating nights!! vent.

KristynLee15

So LO is 3 weeks old. She refuses to sleep at night unless she is held. But she sleeps all day in her rock n play just fine. Ive tried everything!! Everyone says "oh you need to keep her awake during the day" Easier said than done.
I just got into it with DH before he left for work because at 3am LO was up crying and i couldnt get her to settle so i thought i was being nice taking her to the livingroom so he could get more sleep. He says "shes never going to sleep in her bed if you keep taking her out". But in the middle.of the night i have no patience and its easier on her and i to go on the couch where she seems to calm.
Im just so frustrated trying to keep everyone happy and keep a little bit of my sanity. Im trying to do the right thing, but i dont know what that is. Anyone else having night issues?

JennaEllen

DS is almost 2 weeks old. We EBF and he's up every 2 hours on the dot to eat. Last night there were a couple stretches where it was every hour (the nights all start to blend together I-) ) He'll fall asleep instantly if I hold him or set him anywhere but his bassinet. In there it takes him a bit to settle /:)

tracij12

All very normal. It took about 4 weeks for my LO to 'wake up' during the day. Enjoy her daytime sleepiness and follow the age old advice and sleep as much as you can during the day.

As for the nighttime, your husband is completely wrong (in my opinion)! Nothing you do with LO is going to create a pattern you can't break at this age and he should appreciate that you are trying to let him get some sleep....and reciprocate (assuming he can calm baby) on the nights he doesn't have work.

Where is her bed? I'm assuming you've read all the threads with sleep advice so if you've tried it all I don't have any other suggestions, just keep loving on your baby and doing what you feel is best.

It will get better....eventually!

bmolson1

Keep doing what you're doing. If everyone is calmer when you hold her, do it. It won't last forever, it probably won't even last a week! Are you swaddling? We only swaddle at night. We also use white noise at night. During the day I keep the house light and bright and make normal noises (dishes, vacuuming, hair dryer, dogs barking). My dd still sleeps a lot of the daytime too, but hopefully she'll learn that nighttime is for sleeping.

jasmineluke

JennaEllen said:

DS is almost 2 weeks old. We EBF and he's up every 2 hours on the dot to eat. Last night there were a couple stretches where it was every hour (the nights all start to blend together I-) ) He'll fall asleep instantly if I hold him or set him anywhere but his bassinet. In there it takes him a bit to settle /:)

Yes, same here! I wish I could get 3 week DD to settle down a little bit quicker after her feeds which would make her every 2 hour awakenings less daunting. I'm waiting for that light at the end of the tunnel. Even a 3-4 hour stretch would be most welcomed! Sticking it out for now and hoping for better nights eventually!

KristynLee15

He's awesome during the day if he has the day off so let me go and take a four hour nap and he'll take care of her which is nice. I used to swaddle her but lately she hasn't like that she kicks our arms and legs out. It just seems that everybody else has some advice on how I should be doing things. And I'm frustrated because I'm doing everything that I can. Her room n is literally right next to ours we probably didn't even need a monitor because she's right there I tried sleeping with her next to the bed in the bed. Which I hate. I think she just needs to work it out on her own. Thank you all for the support. I was starting to feel like a failure and a bad mother

sarapagan

This is normal. Babies take weeks sometimes to figure out sleeping/feeding patterns especially at night. My first had his days and nights confused and we had to put him in the car to get him to sleep at night. It's hard, but will get easier. All babies are different and some take longer to get their routine down.

hbrooks09

I have this same problem! My little girl sleeps all day and then at night she is WIDE AWAKE. Last night we decided to give her a bath around 8 o'clock and she settled down nicely only waking up to feed and going right back to sleep. Maybe you should try that?

KristynLee15

I will definitely give that a shot! This morning we went and sat outside on the porch for a while. It seems t have woken her up a bit. Shes been awake..and not upset...for almost 3 hours now!!

dparker721

hbrooks09 said:

I have this same problem! My little girl sleeps all day and then at night she is WIDE AWAKE. Last night we decided to give her a bath around 8 o'clock and she settled down nicely only waking up to feed and going right back to sleep. Maybe you should try that?

I started a nighttime bath routine with my lo too around 8 or 8:30, and it seems to help calm her. She's likes baths. We also just bought a rock n play because she has reflux and while she will sleep in her pack n play, laying flat some I was hoping the rock n play would help.

I also try my best to keep lo up during the day and keep it busy and noisy. DH works nights and the nights he's home he wants to hold her while she sleeps at night and I had to tell him no. Once she's asleep, she gets in her bed. We have a good routine going and he can hold her all he wants during the day or when she wakes to eat, but I don't want to start putting her in bed with us, especially when she will soothe herself and sleep on her own.

rue:D

hbrooks09 said:

I have this same problem! My little girl sleeps all day and then at night she is WIDE AWAKE. Last night we decided to give her a bath around 8 o'clock and she settled down nicely only waking up to feed and going right back to sleep. Maybe you should try that?

I bathed DD the other night and she went right to sleep...only to wake up around midnight and refuse to go back to sleep.

waltersmom83

We experienced the same problem! My LO is 3 weeks too, she refused to sleep in her bassinet or crib the first week and a half. We took turns staying up and holding her while the other slept. Eventually I was done! I was determined to get this kid in her bed and sleeping. I started this routine: when she woke I unswaddle her, then feed her from one boob, burp, change her diaper, reswaddle, feed from second boob until asleep. I put her up on my chest for a burping for 15 to 20 minutes to elevate reflux. I even started putting a heating pad in her bassinet while I fed her so when I put her back to bed it was nice and warm. Of course I take it out first! When I lay her down I do it very slowly. Once she's down, I placed hands on her chest and sush, then slowly remove my hands and back away. I started a humidifier too which helps with white noise. This has helped me so far. I also started the contented baby routine, which helps start a wake time during the day. It's so hard though! When she's awake, if she's not feeding she seems to be screaming bloody murder. Apparently we are now entering this horrible gas stage so everything seems to go out the door and I just have a purple screaming monster every night.