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TTC after 35
carrieandr
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Perspective
carrieandr
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in TTC after 35
A few weeks ago, I posted this: "My cousin's wife is 20 weeks pregnant and today she has pretty much
filled my newsfeed with photos from the amazing party they had to
announce that it's a girl." She got pregnant not long after my first miscarriage, and those facebook photos were posted not long after my chemical pregnancy. I've felt very jealous of her and sorry for myself.
Today I found out that at 23 weeks, she had to have an emergency c-section and her baby girl is only 1lb 2oz. My heart breaks for them. It's surreal that as it turns out, I was the lucky one. My losses don't begin to compare to what she is going through...
Today I found out that at 23 weeks, she had to have an emergency c-section and her baby girl is only 1lb 2oz. My heart breaks for them. It's surreal that as it turns out, I was the lucky one. My losses don't begin to compare to what she is going through...
TTC#1 since Jan 2015
BFP 2/19/15 • MMC found at 9 wks • D&E at 11 wks (age 36)
BFP 8/29/15 • CP (age 37)
BFP 2/19/15 • MMC found at 9 wks • D&E at 11 wks (age 36)
BFP 8/29/15 • CP (age 37)
BFP 11/18/15 • DD born at 41 weeks 
(age 37/38)
TTC#2 since May 2017
BFP 10/18/17 • MMC found at 8 wks • Misoprostal at 10.5 wks (age 39)
BFP 2/16/18 • CP (age 39)
BFP 4/13/18 • CP (age 39)
BFP 5/07/18 • MMC found at 10.5 wks • D&E at 11.5 wks • Testing showed it was a girl with Trisomy 22. (age 39/40)
9/5/18 Diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve (4-5 follicles, one ovary had none and was very atrophied)
RE says the low egg count is likely causing my recurrent pregnancy loss. Less eggs results in more aneuploidy.
BFP 9/24/18 • CP (age 40)
(age 37/38)TTC#2 since May 2017
BFP 10/18/17 • MMC found at 8 wks • Misoprostal at 10.5 wks (age 39)
BFP 2/16/18 • CP (age 39)
BFP 4/13/18 • CP (age 39)
BFP 5/07/18 • MMC found at 10.5 wks • D&E at 11.5 wks • Testing showed it was a girl with Trisomy 22. (age 39/40)
9/5/18 Diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve (4-5 follicles, one ovary had none and was very atrophied)
RE says the low egg count is likely causing my recurrent pregnancy loss. Less eggs results in more aneuploidy.
BFP 9/24/18 • CP (age 40)
BFP 5/11/19 • Fraternal twins • MMC found at 10w5d (Baby A 6w, Baby B 10w) • Misoprostal at 11 weeks (age 41)
Re: Perspective
And don't feel guilty. You are human, not clarvoyant.
That's so horrifying. It's one of those stories that haunts me, because even if we can get pregnant, so many things can go wrong. Cue spiraling, anxious thoughts.
I think the title of your post is really appropriate -- perspective. As unlucky as we all feel sometimes, we are blessed to have husbands that we love, furry kids, jobs we can stand on most days, etc.
Someone always has it better; but someone always has it worse, too.
DS 4/2009
m/c 11/12/2010 ~ 7 wks
m/c 7/4/2012 ~ 6 wks
DD 12/2013
mmc Baby Girl 7/12/2015 ~ 14 weeks
Twin girls! 8/26/2017
BFP 2/19/15 • MMC found at 9 wks • D&E at 11 wks (age 36)
BFP 8/29/15 • CP (age 37)
TTC#2 since May 2017
BFP 10/18/17 • MMC found at 8 wks • Misoprostal at 10.5 wks (age 39)
BFP 2/16/18 • CP (age 39)
BFP 4/13/18 • CP (age 39)
BFP 5/07/18 • MMC found at 10.5 wks • D&E at 11.5 wks • Testing showed it was a girl with Trisomy 22. (age 39/40)
9/5/18 Diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve (4-5 follicles, one ovary had none and was very atrophied)
RE says the low egg count is likely causing my recurrent pregnancy loss. Less eggs results in more aneuploidy.
BFP 9/24/18 • CP (age 40)
Me: 37, DH: 36
Started TTC #1: 9/2015
Preliminary labs/testing @ 6 months: TSH, A1c, progesterone, prolactin, SA, HSG all normal
BFP: 5/19/2016, M/C: 5/29/2016
BFP: 6/22/2016 EDD 3//6/2017