how to politely decline coworkers visiting newborn

KDCastrillon

I am 37 weeks with planned c-section at 39 weeks. Both my husband and I work in the hospital we are delivering in. It is flu season and with all of the respiratory bugs and GI bugs going around we don't want our coworkers coming to see our newborn. How do we politely tell them this? We have the best coworkers but it is not worth risking our newborns health.

Pontot31

Tell the nurses no visitors. Have them explain you're exhausted and want sleep.
You can lie and say it was a rough delivery and you would rather not be seen afterwards by your coworkers and you want rest. And you'll call them when you're up to it. Then just never call.

But I would have the nurses make sure no one gets by with out talking to you first.

poupoule

"That is so nice ! Thank you, but we are planning to come introduce her to everyone a bit later"

That is so nice ! Thank you I will let you know when you can come, but it will be a bit later than the hospital"

I would just delay for now.

CheeseSticksfor4

I also work in the hospital that I will deliver at.  When I was pregnant with my first I saw how co workers really had no since of "boundaries"  when it came to others that had delivered.  Example another co worker was in labor for 26 hrs and then had to have an emergency C-section.  When she woke up in PACU she had 6 of our co workers standing around her.  She hadn't even gotten to see her baby yet!  I learned from this so when I went into labor I went in as a NO NEWS patient.  Also no pictures were posted on Facebook or sent out until we were home.  I also locked my Facebook wall so no close family members or friends might slip up and spill the beans.  I will be doing the same this time.

PetitNightingale

I don't see why you have to be polite about it. Honestly maybe I am an alien but I would never think to visit a new mother at the hospital unless I was specifically invited. That just would not occur to me. No visitors seems like an excellent idea. 

queenwog

PetitNightingale said:

I don't see why you have to be polite about it. Honestly maybe I am an alien but I would never think to visit a new mother at the hospital unless I was specifically invited. That just would not occur to me. No visitors seems like an excellent idea. 

Politeness isn't a bad thing...

BowWowBowie

queenwog said:

I don't see why you have to be polite about it. Honestly maybe I am an alien but I would never think to visit a new mother at the hospital unless I was specifically invited. That just would not occur to me. No visitors seems like an excellent idea. 

Politeness isn't a bad thing...

BowWowBowie

But in all seriousness, your coworkers should understand. 
Obviously be tactful and polite, but they come in contact with so many germs, they don't need to be with you or baby that soon. Hoping it all goes well!

susanb15

CheeseSticksfor4 said:

I also locked my Facebook wall so no close family members or friends might slip up and spill the beans.  I will be doing the same this time.

How does one do that? I assume somewhere in settings. That sounds like a lovely thing that I may steal.

Pontot31

susanb15 said:

CheeseSticksfor4 said:

I also locked my Facebook wall so no close family members or friends might slip up and spill the beans.  I will be doing the same this time.

How does one do that? I assume somewhere in settings. That sounds like a lovely thing that I may steal.

We did this last time and will do it again. It's very helpful.
Go to settings and then timeline and tagging. It'll say "who can post on my wall" - change that to "only me." Then go into the tagging part and make it so you have to approve tags first or select "only me" for show can see your tags. There are about 5 different things to click on to keep people off your wall. It's a pain now. Used to be easier.