One thing I've noticed about pregnancy is that I feel like often times my feelings are dismissed as just 'hormones', so before I get upset about something I try to calm down and ask myself "should you really be upset"? Last night was one of those "yes, I think I should be upset" moments. Would like to know how you ladies would feel in this situation.
My husband has a sister who has 2 boys from a previous relationship. She has been dating a different guy for a while, but is not engaged, married, or expecting.
A few weeks ago we were chatting online about baby stuff and, although I never told her the names I'd use for boy/girl, she said "if I have another boy his name will be Jackson". Cool, fine, whatever.
I've loved the name Jack for as long as I can remember, and a couple of days ago I posted on my Facebook a question for my friends about the name Jack (insert middle name here), asking their thoughts on the name. I didn't hear from the sister until last night, to which she out-of-the-blue messaged me and said "Don't forget Jackson is gonna be my boy's name if I have another boy. Jack and Jackson might be a little close. :-/ " I replied "We wouldn't be using Jackson". She then said "Not trying to be rude. :-)"
For some reason, that hit a major nerve, and I'm not sure if I'm justified. My husband doesn't care and thinks it's no big deal, but I find it crass that she'd even say that. Now, I'm sitting here thinking I'm going to be stepping on toes if I use anything somewhat similar to the name she's "claimed" for the potential future, and on the other hand I'm thinking screw that - I'm pregnant and she's not, and she's already had 2 boys.
I hate drama, and I don't ever want to upset anyone, but would you feel annoyed?
Re: Am I being sensitive/hormonal, or are my feelings justified?
This happened before I met my husband, but apparently his sisters got in a huge fight and didn't talk for months because one of them "stole" the other one's boy name. Turns out the other one never had a boy anyway so it was a totally moot point.
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Now both of those families have had boys (one twice) and neither of them used the supppsedly claimed name.
If I had had a boy I would not have thought twice about using that name if I had liked it, the idea that someone can claim a name years in advance for a maybe baby is BS.
Mommy to my sweet boy, JG, born May 15, 2014
Baby #2 due 4/26/16!
Married: May '15
M/C: May '15
Expecting DS: April '16
We understood all along that it was nothing to truly be upset about. And now 5 years later we have our second (and last) daughter on the way. So we never actually ended up needing a boy name and if we had, the world wouldn't have ended when it came to choosing a different name (or even still going with Jack). It's just not a big deal. Bottom line- while we all know it's silly to try and call dibs on a name, is it really the hill you want to die on? Probably not. Name your kid whatever you want and if you're concerned about her being upset, just be honest with her. Good luck!