I don't want to be rude when I say this but the short answer is you need to teach her. How is she going to learn respect if don't teach her? When she says rude or inappropriate things correct her. If you don't want the volume adjusted on the tv and you told her to leave it alone correct her. Children are naturally going to push the limits as far as they possibly can it's our job as parents to set boundaries.
I don't want to be rude when I say this but the short answer is you need to teach her. How is she going to learn respect if don't teach her? When she says rude or inappropriate things correct her. If you don't want the volume adjusted on the tv and you told her to leave it alone correct her.
Children are naturally going to push the limits as far as they possibly can it's our job as parents to set boundaries.
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It's all on you mom. Dad too.
I'm blown away by some of the things you are saying she does. Sure, it sounds kind of funny reading it but I would be shocked and embarrassed if my 3 year old son did these things. I'm not saying your child is "bad" or you are bad parents so please don't take it that way. You just have a very headstrong daughter that is probably too smart for her own good (and for yours too!) and you are going to have to work extra hard to tame these behaviors and for lack of a better phrase...put her in her place. You are the boss and she can be precocious and whatnot but she cannot be disrespectful.
My son is 3.5 and is very, very smart as well (can do basic math, say the alphabet backwards, write words, etc) but he is more reserved. He definitely has tantrums but if he starts displaying unfavorable behavior then we are on him like flies on shit. Always teaching and always correcting.
You've got your work cut out for you! Teaching appropriate behaviors but not changing the strong little person that she is.
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Thanks for the input though. We do correct her, immediately and every time. (I feel bad, but kind of like the dogs, we don't give her any opportunity to practice ignoring us ) It seems to have no effect on future behavior though. Like I correct a behavior, five times one morning, and it'll still happen again in the afternoon. I guess she's headstrong and it'll just take longer to get her to follow our established (and reestablished) expectations.
I have no idea what the original question was or how old your child is, but in response to your last post - thats how it goes! My kids will do awesome and stay away from the dog food for a week and then one day, that's all they want so I'm back to square one with telling them no, moving them away, redirecting, etc. I do this several times a day with other things - fireplace, pulling each other's hair, etc. Some days they do fantastic! Other days I feel like I am not getting through to them. But this is how we teach and this is how they learn. Keep on it, you're doing great!
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Children are naturally going to push the limits as far as they possibly can it's our job as parents to set boundaries.
This.
It's all on you mom. Dad too.
I'm blown away by some of the things you are saying she does. Sure, it sounds kind of funny reading it but I would be shocked and embarrassed if my 3 year old son did these things. I'm not saying your child is "bad" or you are bad parents so please don't take it that way. You just have a very headstrong daughter that is probably too smart for her own good (and for yours too!) and you are going to have to work extra hard to tame these behaviors and for lack of a better phrase...put her in her place. You are the boss and she can be precocious and whatnot but she cannot be disrespectful.
My son is 3.5 and is very, very smart as well (can do basic math, say the alphabet backwards, write words, etc) but he is more reserved. He definitely has tantrums but if he starts displaying unfavorable behavior then we are on him like flies on shit. Always teaching and always correcting.
You've got your work cut out for you! Teaching appropriate behaviors but not changing the strong little person that she is.
Thanks for the input though. We do correct her, immediately and every time. (I feel bad, but kind of like the dogs, we don't give her any opportunity to practice ignoring us ) It seems to have no effect on future behavior though. Like I correct a behavior, five times one morning, and it'll still happen again in the afternoon. I guess she's headstrong and it'll just take longer to get her to follow our established (and reestablished) expectations.