Can I sit with you guys?

Skyjewell23

Hi! My name is Sky. I'm 25 years old and have been married to my husband for 3 years. I'm a social worker, he's a truck driver. I'm working on my masters, he's picking up the slack at home. We have a almost 2 year old (October 29th) named Walker. He's pretty awesome and I'm told he's adorable on a regular basis. The plan is we are gonna start trying for baby #2 next summer. I dabbled in the October 2013 birth month board when I was pregnant but I never really connected there.

Can I hang out here with you guys?

Lysta85

Welcome and sure you can hang out here. Some are trying and some people are waiting here so you'll always fit in.

SusieG85

Welcome! I just starting hanging around here recently too. Planning to ttc soon but not quite yet, so you are not alone in the waiting!

patriciahomol

Welcome! 

glaminjams

Welcome - I'm new here as well!

cookies754

Welcome to the fun!

Skyjewell23

Thanks everyone! I can't wait to jump in and join the fun!

reesaXden

Welcome! I'm new here too!

KellyK2511

I'm new as well, so I'd like to sit with you!

JenandJosh1310

Howdy! Pull up a chair!

Lysta85

Welcome all. Getting crowded in here lol

Xstatic3333

Welcome!

Katm89

welcome! even when we get a BFP I will still hang here. This board seems to be the most relaxed

LitlePrety

Welcome!  Good luck on your journey (and your masters!)

amandagil

Welcome!
Also new here! Actively ttc, I've lurked many boards since I joined and this one seems the most relaxed. Probably cuz everyone here is thinking of babies

Edited because I suck with words

ska8471

Welcome! Definitely hang out here! We're certainly more relaxed than other boards, although there's good things the TTC board can offer too (I go between both ). 

sas&roo

Hi!  I'm kind of joining in as well, if that is ok.

About me:

I have baby fever big time, which is the only reason I even ventured on here, went of BCP in June but using condoms for now.  Plan is to start trying in January, much to hubby's dismay.  (He only intends to have kids because I want them).  Secretly, I hope that I accidentally get pregnant.  Recently, we unintentionally had unprotected sex, but it was on day 5 of my cycle, barely anything was there, only at the entrance (sorry if TMI) and I wiped it out as much as possible.  But of course now I'm going to analyze everything, because I already am, and will have that slim hope that maybe I am pregnant.  Mathematically, even a stretch would not make it possible for me to be pregnant, unless I ovulate early (I did have 21 days between the two periods prior to this one, which was more like 26-27 days, so I suppose it is possible, but before the pill I was always very regular, and this past period (my 3rd or 4th since stopping BCP), was very typical of a normal period, so I'm thinking I'll be back to normal very soon.

Anyway - I'm trying to remember all the reasons why I do not want to be pregnant until after January...it's only 2 months away anyway!

Lysta85

Hey welcome. The wait can be tricky, but two months isn't that much anymore. And december is mostly a busy month that kills a lot of time with the holidays. Focus on the reasons to wait and your always welcome to vent. Does your husband not want kids as bad as you or is he a bit afraid of the whole thing? Mine SO biggest problem was that he is scared he won't be a good dad.

sas&roo

Thanks, Lysta85!  I have been telling myself that very same thing. 2 more periods to get through, haha!

My husband does not want kids because he knows the responsibility it is and how it would change our lives.  We are very involved in Christian ministry, so we'd really have to slow down, at least initially. He likes the idea of having a boy and teaching him to be a man (practically his exact words), and we both know he'd be a great dad - he's just very realistic about the sacrifice that is made.

Slight update: I'm CD 15 today and felt kind of weird earlier.  Probably nothing, but of course I'm over-analyzing everything with my body.  I see you're going to start TTC very soon!

Lysta85

Yes, getting close to TTC. So excited and feel like I'm counting down the days to say goodbye to BC. 

bmo88

sas&roo: Sorry, not trying to thread jack, but you have said basically twice your husband does not want kids, but is doing it because you want them. Don't you worry he will regret having them and possibly resent you? I just cannot imagine having children with someone who doesn't want children.

sas&roo

I'm realizing part way through that this is a longer post, so I apologize for continuing the hijacking! I'm new to this, so I'm not 

bmo88 - I would say there is the fear that he will not enjoy them as much as I would hope.  We said from the beginning we wanted to wait at least 3-5 years, and it's been 5 years this summer.  There are a few reasons why I would say I do not think he will regret having them/resent me.

1.  When I say he does not want kids, it is a simple fact that it is not his desire, but it is mine. It means that, had I said "I do not need to have children," he would not be upset about it.  He would be happy about it.  He knows there are benefits, but he will not focus on those benefits until it is absolute necessity.  Haha - not sure if that makes sense.

2. It is not in his character to be resentful - it is his goal to model the character of Jesus Christ in his life. This means forgiveness, sacrifice, love, contentment in all situations, and much more.  It may sound cheesy to some, but for us it is real, and important, and everything to us, actually.

3. He also never wanted cats, but somehow I suckered him into letting me have 3 (I feel so selfish thinking about that...) but in spite of the annoyance he claims them to be, he will give them the best cat rubs they've ever received in their lives, and a few of our friends really do not believe his claim that he hates them - haha.

Anyway - looks like we will be waiting until February actually because we're taking a vacation and he does not want me to be pregnant on our vacation (which makes complete sense!)

KaeJudd

Hi, it's nice to meet you! I'm a young Mom too! I'm 24 years old and next month I am celebrating my 5th anniversary with my husband! Right now we have two little girls. Our oldest is 3 and our youngest is 2. We are planning on TTC our final little one next Spring.