Wine during pregnancy?

NicknShan

goldie987

Nope, I would rather not take the risk, its 9 months, not a life time, I'll deal.

hgsurvivor

I'm not a big drinker anyway. Probably would only have any in the second third trimester when all the major systems are developed. It would be at the most 1/3 of a glass. And very occasionally.

An acquaintance of ours drank almost daily, throughout both her pregnancies. And her two kids are fine. I'm not recommending it, obviously. I was just shocked. And if it was a social gathering, she usually had more than one.

I figure after seeing THAT, a couple of sips here and there won't do anythin, especially near the end.

lm45678

Sgoldberg247 said:

Nope, I would rather not take the risk, its 9 months, not a life time, I'll deal.

^^Same- God forbid there was a problem I would blame myself forever.

cattlebride

My husband has a cousin who drank a glass of wine a day throughout her pregnancy and the child struggles. I personally wouldn't risk it.

hgsurvivor

cattlebride said:

My husband has a cousin who drank a glass of wine a day throughout her pregnancy and the child struggles. I personally wouldn't risk it.

Yeah I couldn't believe seeing this person just keep drinking. Especially at gatherings and holiday parties etc. she had her big ol' belly and a constant glass of wine. WTF.
You know, to be honest I'm not super close to her so I guess I assume her kids are fine. I mean they act fine and look fine whenever we meet at get togethers. But there could be more to the story.

I don't think it's worth it, but as I said I'm not a big drinker. Though certainly not the first trimester. I also am not one to panic, in the case I do decide later on to have a few sips. hahaha.

mkemommy

I love wine and, honestly, I will miss it. I think it's more habit around certain times than the wine itself I will miss (cozy fire, Christmas tree and a wonderful red). I can't take the worry over the risk personally but would never judge a mom who had the occasional glass. H better have my favorite bottle ready chilled post-delivery though. For now, my sparkling water in a wine glass will have to suffice.

Scottwswife

The occasional glass of REALLY good cab with a steak during the third tri... Yeah, I did. Probably will with this one too. Right now...nope, not for me.

berky84

I haven't decided if I will have ZERO sips the whole time or not but I'm fairly certain that if I did it would be a random sip in the 3rd trimester.... but then I think about it. If I've gone that long already and it would only be a sip, is it really worth it? Probably not.

I know plenty of women who have a glass here and there throughout their pregnancies and their children appear to be fine. I just am not willing to take the risk. Like PP, if ANYTHING were to go wrong I wouldn't want to wonder if it was because I chose to drink. 

I'll miss the wine though (not sure why I put that in past tense.... I already do)... god I love wine. But it'll have to wait.

Lyzza350

I love wine. Really do, although I don't drink often I really enjoy it. But I'm of he mindset I can give up anything for nine months. If there's a small risk it's not for me. I just feel like this baby inside of me is helpless and I have to make the best choice in my mind that i can for him/her. After that I can have what I want.
I actually think that a sip here or there is probably fine. For me though I skip it.

DeePaddy24

I've had friends drink the occasional glass of wine throughout pregnancy & have perfectly healthy babies...but it is just not an option for me! Getting pregnant took work for us, & I don't want to do anything to jeopardize that in any way. I'm perfectly happy with my water and ginger ale, lol.
My 30th birthday is next summer...a glass of wine then will taste even better having waited so long.

sorarose

I'm not a drinker, so I probably wouldn't be having any whether or not I was pregnant. Sushi on the other hand...that's something I will be considering this time around.

matthewsdm

I've known people that have and I don't know that a little would matter, but I just can't bring myself to do it! Better safe than sorry....

mrsp2213

I'm solidly in the tasting camp.  I'm too paranoid to drink a full glass but I am most definitely comfortable with a sip every now and then, but not until we get through 1st tri.  But I am also a major red wino, used to have a glass every night with dinner before I got pregnant.

hillanne87

I love wine, but it's not worth the risk to me. Also, this crazy nausea eliminates even missing wine or alcohol!

adiaz132003

I've cut it out 100% but there is a big family wedding coming up and since no one will know I'll sip my champagne for the toast to throw suspicion.

theatremandy

I actually work in the wine industry, so it's tough having all the bottles of good wine around. My rule is zero until 3rd tri, and then just a half a glass once a week. We did smuggle a bottle of sparkling into the hospital when the twins were born-probably will do it again this time!

chloe97

I think people need to be very careful when they talk about knowing people who drank all throughout their pregnancy and the kids are fine. One huge misconception about FASD  is that if no symptoms show up the first year of life you are in the clear. Totally not the case. Kids born to mothers who drank during their pregnancy could have increased risk of ADHD and other developmental/behavioral issues that do not become apparent until the child is older or even an adult. 

When I visited my BFF during her 3rd trimester, she  drank 2-3 glasses of wine 2 nights in a row and it concerned me, but I didn't say anything.  She swore that her doctor said it was fine, but the AAP is very CLEAR in their recommendations that there is no safe level of alcohol consumption during pregnancy.   

peaceinnature

I'm not planning on drinking anything until this baby is out. Then we can celebrate with a nice wine. With DS I had a big glass of oatmeal stout three days PP because my midwife said it wouldn't hurt to help my milk come in. But I'm not a huge drinker anyway.

And I ate raw bean sprouts at a Vietnamese place yesterday and am now kinda beating myself up over it so I can't imagine being like "oh it'll be fine!" And having multiple glasses of wine.

KayDray15

I had half a glass of red on Christmas eve when I was pregnant with my son (who is a may baby) and I might do the same this time. It is really just not that important though. 

I have been dying for a good craft beer though. Oh well. worth it.

bprowess

sorarose said:

I'm not a drinker, so I probably wouldn't be having any whether or not I was pregnant. Sushi on the other hand...that's something I will be considering this time around.

I agree!  Take my alcohol, I don't care.  This restriction on seafood and no sushi thing has been my struggle. I don't want to do anything to put my child in jeopardy, but it hasn't been easy to say no to seafood and sushi.

bio-oesch

I haven't drank with the other 3 and don't plan on drinking this time. I don't think I would be able to even enjoy it. I''m not against having a sip here or there, but dh doesn't normally drink, especially during my pregnancies, so I wouldn't really have any one to sip from, lol.

HighFive16

I had maybe one or two half glasses total in my last pregnancy (third tri) and tbh it wasn't really worth it because I was so paranoid and guilty when I did. This time I think I will give that a skip but I will have an O'Douls or something if I am craving a beer which I prefer to wine anyway. I amn't against it or anything, it just wasn't worth it to me. I thought I would want one in the hospital so we packed a bottle. Didn't touch it.  

amangels2

I can't imagine drinking while my baby is growing inside me. I would feel so guilty.

vampbride99

I am an occasional drinker, but I'd never drink while pregnant.  I couldn't live with myself if I did and something happened to my baby. I'd blame myself forever.

hellomommas

I think this topic is so touchy because being a "drinker/drinking/having an occasional glass" is so relative--- one may think an occasional drink is just one drink every night whereas someone else may think it is one a week or a month. Alcohol is a slippery slope, we all know.. You always want a little bit more if you like wine. So- I think that is why it would be so dangerous to give the thumbs up to any kind of amount to pregnant women--- it would be difficult to regulate or make sure she is not taking that allowance a little too freely. That being said- we are all accountable for our own bodies and babies. You should definitely know yourself well enough to avoid it if you feel like it could push the limit. I drink red wine occasionally (1/2 glass once a week -ish) in the third trimester... And it normally takes me about 3 hours to sip it. Haha. I have had two normal births and two normal babies who are now 3 and 16 months... BUT don't base your decision off my experience. Talk to your health care provider and make the choice for yourself and your baby. I talked to my midwife about it and made the decision from our conversation. This should not be applied across the board though.

saladflambe

my only exception may be a glass of mulled wine this Christmas, but that's heated up AND diluted with cranberry juice...there's barely any alcohol in it.

26pointrunningfor2

I was a glass of wine a day drinker pre-pregnancy. I have to admit it's actually been easier to give up than I thought it would be. That said, I have had one sip of wine (a really old bottle in our collection that I made hubby drink, because I was worried about it's shelf life by June), and one sip of beer (a friend opened a pumpkin beer at a party, was passing out sips and damn, I just wanted to taste it).

Luckily, pregnancy knows how to make even my most favorite things taste bad

TwoBadMice

My last pregnancy I had a glass of wine at my Baby shower and a glass of champagne at my cousins wedding (both third tri). I'm not sure what I'll do this go round! I feel like DH sneezed on me and I got pregnant with our first but after a MC and a year of trying to get pregnant right now I feel like I dont care enough about wine to drink it. Maybe that will change when I'm big and stressed in third tri

june2016baby

I unfortunately drank a whopping SIX glasses of wine the day before my BFP. I'm super worried, but nothing I can do now! With my first three pregnancies, I went the whole time without a sip and also a whole year of breastfeeding with each child without a sip! So it sucks that I already messed up with this pregnancy.... It was a surprise, and I got pregnant while using a not-so-effective birth control. I knew the birth control I was in wasn't as effective as the pill, but figured since ds was scheduled for his vasectomy, that we'd make it through three months without getting knocked up... Didn't work! Lol

mkemommy

Don't feel bad @june2016baby I'm sure baby is fine. When did you get your BFP (how many weeks/days)? Ask you doctor certainly but babies don't really share with Mom early on (I understand they mostly live off the yolk sac until the placenta is fully formed)

CourtJack

I will have a small glass of wine here and there. Meaning maybe three-ish times over the pregnancy and not in first tri.

Vinny424

I really only like vodka and whiskey sooooo no can't have any of that.

BZab3

I was way too nervous with my first. Just kept it to sips of my husband's. With my second I had a half glass at a wedding at 30 weeks and totally beat myself up the rest of the night. I'm just too nervous of a person.

I will say, my husband's one job to prep for baby is to stock the fridge for when I get home from the hospital!

mrsmoose5

My family pretty much believes that 1 glass every once in a while is fine during pregnancy, but I've never been comfortable doing it. It just feels wrong to me and I know I wouldn't even be able to enjoy it because of that. Plus, as a wine lover, I feel like having one glass would just make me want another.

sthomas1222

@juen2016baby don't worry, with my first 2 I drank a bottle of wine the night before I found out. Oops. This time around was margaritas the week leading up to finding out.

goldie987

Just saw this today and figured I would add it to the discussion. A new study says no at any time.

https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5624e6d5e4b0bce347013a90

bethmcd_22@msn.com

I have heard a lot that it may be okay during the 3rd tri "because most of the major systems are developed." Here is a major flaw there. THE BRAIN IS DEVELOPING and growing the most during the 3rd tri!! Learning disabilities and cognitive functioning are some of the most common problems related to FAS and it is 100% preventable. Why take the risk? MHO. rant over.

Lilwatz

Sgoldberg247 said:

Just saw this today and figured I would add it to the discussion. A new study says no at any time. https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5624e6d5e4b0bce347013a90

I just saw this on the Today Show and came to post here!  I will say that when I googled for a link just now I found two other articles.  In 2012 the headline was "A few drinks during pregnancy may be OK" and in 2014 the headline was "New study shows no harm from moderate drinking in pregnancy".  Seems like this changes every year or two.  

goldie987

Lilwatz said:

Sgoldberg247 said:

Just saw this today and figured I would add it to the discussion. A new study says no at any time.

https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5624e6d5e4b0bce347013a90

I just saw this on the Today Show and came to post here!  I will say that when I googled for a link just now I found two other articles.  In 2012 the headline was "A few drinks during pregnancy may be OK" and in 2014 the headline was "New study shows no harm from moderate drinking in pregnancy".  Seems like this changes every year or two.  

They said that was why they published this study, to counteract those other papers because their results differ. Essentially they referenced a little know disorder called Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder. It usually presents with behavioral issues, attention issues etc and is very difficult to diagnose because there are other things that cause the same issues. They now think those more mild issues might be tied to low levels of alcohol consumption.

Tl;Dr, the AAP is moving to change it from "There is no known safe amount" to "There is no safe amount".

chloe97

Actually the AAP did not change their position on drinking during pregnancy. The last statement that came out 15 years ago also said there are no safe levels of alcohol intake during pregnancy.

Every now and then a researcher will publish an article saying oh maybe moderate drinking during pregnancy isn't as bad as we thought. The media will pounce on it because it's the kind of newsreport that gets them good ratings.

Because of the work I do, I'm very familiar with the process that the AAP uses when writing these statements. I can tell you that, as with all statements, they review all the research out there and make their decision based on the wide-range of research and not just one report. The guidance is the same as it has been for awhile- there is no way to prove what amount of alcohol you can safely drink during pregnancy, and because of this no pregnant women should feel safe drinking any alcohol.