My introduction and story

tweedledah

I got pregnant on my first try. We were excited with reservations knowing that miscarriage is common in the first trimester. But I honestly never thought it'd happen to me.
At 6 weeks 5 days I had some light bleeding. Because it was pregnancy #1 I went to the ER. The gestational sac measured at 4 weeks 5 days but they assured me I wasn't miscarrying.
The next day I went to work. The bleeding was heavier but I kept hoping for the best until I started bleeding clots. Went to the ER again where they confirmed the loss.
The hardest part was 3 days later seeing the gestational sac in the pad. I almost vomited.
My husband is 46. The chance of miscarriage doubles with fathers over 40 so I'm having a tough time wrapping my head around trying again. He's ready to start again.
Last week I wrote a letter to my baby and started coloring in a book called 'Color Me Calm'. It has helped a lot but I don't know how to move forward to try again.

penelope4612

I'm so sorry for your loss.  Give yourself some time to heal.  For some women it takes days, others weeks, others months.  I doubt anyone fully gets over it.  I think that, while men can be sad when a miscarriage happens, they aren't the ones living it 24/7 so it's a little easier for them.

In my experience, it took 1-2 weeks to really wrap my head around it and feel ready to move on, but that won't necessarily be your experience.  Take it day by day.  Maybe ask your husband if you can revisit this in a month or two to give yourself some time.

fsuswim

I am so sorry. Sending you thoughts ands prayers as you heal. My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage a little over a month ago. It's devastating at first. Know that things will get better. After about a month I started feeling like myself again. Give yourself some time to heal.

twhip25

I am so sorry for your loss. My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage a little over a month ago. It's devastating at first but know that things will get better with time -- and take as much time as you need to heal. We are all here for you!

cfreesquared

I'm so sad to read this. My husband and I just lost our first pregnancy. He seems ok. I've been a wreck.

I love that you wrote a letter to your baby. We lost ours about a month ago and I've been kind of talking to it ever since. We also planted a little tree in memory.

firewaterx

First I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a d and c last Thursday and its been really hard . So weird -The day before my d and c my sister in law had me over and gave me the color me calm book - I just zoned out and colored and listened to music. It helped a lot . Sending you healing thoughts

Raincity

I lost my pregnancy (well, currently I am losing my pregnancy) this week at 6 weeks 3 days. I am very sorry for your loss and I understand. It's a cruel process. I took your advice and got a color me calm coloring book. It's soothig, and I think to myself- when this coloring book is full or nearly full, it will probably be time to try again. I like to see evidence that time is indeed passing. 

marie2409

@Raincity I like the idea of a project (coloring, crochet, something) to keep me busy and create evidence of the passing time. What a lovely thought. 

Sorry to all of you for your loss.