Absolutely fustrated!

usmcrenegde01

I need to vent for a second. I'm so pissed off and fustrated its unbelievable! Here I am getting up all night long constantly feeding my LO and during the day cooking, cleaning, making sure my other daughter is up and dressed and getting on school bus geting her hone work done and then worryjng about dinner. While my unbelievable selfish husband stays up late playing video games and sleeping in all day tI'll 12 like he's on f'ing vacation. I'm sorry but I didn't realize FMLA for husbands was so they could sit on their butts and not do anything! I'm going on maybe 3 hours of sleep right now and haven't been able to take a nap all day. What does husband do? Go pick up grandma and bring her over like I really feel like playing good house wife today grrr! I'm so fustrated with nursing as well. I can't seem to get pumping to work right. Tuesdays is a free lactation consultant at the hospital but I missed last Tuesday because I fell asleep versus getting ready to go. By time it was time to leave I had to nurse! I feel like I'm failing and juSt want to cry! I almost wanna be selfish and formula feed LO just so I can maybe get her to sleep 3 hrs versus 2 or maybe 2hrs since she cat naps. And devilishly had her over to husband and say here you take her do I can take a shower! Someone please tell me everythjng will be ok and that I'm not going insane.

leah665

I think you need to have a talk with your husband. It is not fair that you are doing all this while he relaxes and plays video games. Keeping it bottled up isn't going to do either of you any good and could end up putting a strain on your marriage.

usmcrenegde01

I have talked to him,but it goes in one ear and out the other. He says he's helping by keeping yard work done and doing some laundry.
I think the only thing left for me to do is to throw in the towel and let the house go to crap... (which will also drive me crazy)

violetgin

Nope nope nope. In one ear and out the other won't cut it. I would be so far up his ass he couldn't sit down to play said video games. If he's missing work, he should be majorly pitching in. Taking care of a newborn is a FT job and sleep deprivation is no joke. I would let him take over EVERYTHING else. Good luck, momma, you're doing the best you can!

Mbechara

Sometimes I find I need to be specific with my husband. Like"honey the garbage is full" or "daughter Aneeds to be fed, I've got daughter B right now".
I'm not telling him what to do but I am. Would that work??

midge519

Instead of talking to him maybe give him chores. Like wake him in the morning and tell him he needs to get your daughter ready and off to school. Or hand him the broom or something. Maybe hide the games. SO will be taking a week off including the hospital stay but he intends to be cleaning the house while I rest. You should not be doing everything

usmcrenegde01

Thank you all....His grandmother talked to him without me having to say anything. Even at 84 yrs old she notices and has no problem saying whats on her mind. He's being a bit nicer and I know she'll give him a hard time when he drives her back home hahaha now hopefully he keeps it up