20 weeks scan! !

laurenm93

What' is everyone hoping for when they go for their 20 weeks scan??
I so want a girl but tbh I'm not fussed as got bad ass names for a boy or a girl & just want my bundle of joy to arrive healthy..

blessedwtwins

laurenm93 said:

What' is everyone hoping for when they go for their 20 weeks scan??
I so want a girl but tbh I'm not fussed as got bad ass names for a boy or a girl & just want my bundle of joy to arrive healthy..

1. This type of question and discussion would be a great thread to start in your birth month board if there isn't already an anatomy scan thread active. I suggest going to your BMB and using the search function to check it out. It'll be a better experience for you to continually go through things with the same group of women on the same time line.
2. Please do some research on what the anatomy scan is for. It is not a scan to find out the sex of your baby, it is an in depth scan of numerous things to check on your babies growth and health as well as checking for any abnormalities that may need to be addressed. Finding out the sex is a possible bonus of the scan but definitely not the main focus.

NHKx2

At my 20 week scan I only hoped to see that my baby was healthy and developing normally. I was thrilled to see that eveything was just fine. I also happened to find out that we are expecting a girl. This was entirely secondary.

ash10828ash

This moms clearly just excited and I'm sure she's aware of what the anatomy scan entails.
Some of you seem rather bitter and negative Nancy's when some of us are just excited and aren't exactly professionals with how "The Bump" works.

I had a gender scan early at 16 weeks and we find out this weekend... I'm thinking boy but my husband thinks girl. Good luck!!

blessedwtwins

ash10828ash said:

This moms clearly just excited and I'm sure she's aware of what the anatomy scan entails.
Some of you seem rather bitter and negative Nancy's when some of us are just excited and aren't exactly professionals with how "The Bump" works.

I had a gender scan early at 16 weeks and we find out this weekend... I'm thinking boy but my husband thinks girl. Good luck!!

I'm assuming you were aiming this comment at me. I was neither bitter nor negative towards OP. I suggested she connect with her BMB to get a better experience out of the bump and connect with women on the same journey as her.
Also, you'd be surprised how many women believe an anatomy scan is a "gender scan" and haven't been properly educated on what they really are for.
If anyone is bitter or has a negative attitude here, it is you.

ash10828ash

All I'm saying is some of us work full time and don't have time to figure out the ins and outs of the site. I don't get why people can't just respond to what they are asking and leave it at that.

I agree, some people don't know what all an anatomy scan entails and its primary purpose, but she didn't ask what an anatomy scan was.

I hope you have a wonderful day!

blessedwtwins

A, I know lots of women who work full time and have other children at home that know the ins and outs if the site, so that excuse is invalid.
B, if people don't have time to figure out the small ins and outs, wouldn't you think they appreciate someone showing them a few small things such as a supportive BMB?
C, I wasn't attacking her for not knowing. I was passing along knowledge that could give her a better experience on this site. Also, compared to what other regulars or people I'm guessing you'd deem a "negative Nancy" would have commented, I was extremely nice and helpful.
D, people who know what an a/s and don't help explain to people who don't know, are rude, in my opinion. This is a place to help educate one another on things like that. It's important for her, and others, to know and perhaps do early research in case they may have any questions as to what is being measured and why.
E, thank you. I will have a wonderful day as I have spread valid knowledge to Internet strangers and I get to go shopping.

ash10828ash

blessedwtwins said:

A, I know lots of women who work full time and have other children at home that know the ins and outs if the site, so that excuse is invalid.
B, if people don't have time to figure out the small ins and outs, wouldn't you think they appreciate someone showing them a few small things such as a supportive BMB?
C, I wasn't attacking her for not knowing. I was passing along knowledge that could give her a better experience on this site. Also, compared to what other regulars or people I'm guessing you'd deem a "negative Nancy" would have commented, I was extremely nice and helpful.
D, people who know what an a/s and don't help explain to people who don't know, are rude, in my opinion. This is a place to help educate one another on things like that. It's important for her, and others, to know and perhaps do early research in case they may have any questions as to what is being measured and why.
E, thank you. I will have a wonderful day as I have spread valid knowledge to Internet strangers and I get to go shopping.

Touché. Sorry didn't mean to push a button there.

ash10828ash

BostonTerrior2008 said:

laurenm93 said:

What' is everyone hoping for when they go for their 20 weeks scan??
I so want a girl but tbh I'm not fussed as got bad ass names for a boy or a girl & just want my bundle of joy to arrive healthy..

Health is the only thing that should be e

ash10828ash said:

This moms clearly just excited and I'm sure she's aware of what the anatomy scan entails.
Some of you seem rather bitter and negative Nancy's when some of us are just excited and aren't exactly professionals with how "The Bump" works.

I had a gender scan early at 16 weeks and we find out this weekend... I'm thinking boy but my husband thinks girl. Good luck!!

Sorry, but your "gender scan"will not tell you the gender of your child......the gender of your child will be known for certain when he/she is older in life. You May find out the sex of your child....... Sex=/=gender.

I scheduled a "gender scan" at my physicians office. Not sure what ya'll call them where you're from but I'm sure she gets the point.

Bigboobsmcgee

ash10828ash said:

What' is everyone hoping for when they go for their 20 weeks scan?? I so want a girl but tbh I'm not fussed as got bad ass names for a boy or a girl & just want my bundle of joy to arrive healthy..

Health is the only thing that should be e

This moms clearly just excited and I'm sure she's aware of what the anatomy scan entails. Some of you seem rather bitter and negative Nancy's when some of us are just excited and aren't exactly professionals with how "The Bump" works. I had a gender scan early at 16 weeks and we find out this weekend... I'm thinking boy but my husband thinks girl. Good luck!!

Sorry, but your "gender scan"will not tell you the gender of your child......the gender of your child will be known for certain when he/she is older in life. You May find out the sex of your child....... Sex=/=gender.

I scheduled a "gender scan" at my physicians office. Not sure what ya'll call them where you're from but I'm sure she gets the point.

I don't think it can be any clearer...?

DrillSergeantCat

ash10828ash said:

This moms clearly just excited and I'm sure she's aware of what the anatomy scan entails. Some of you seem rather bitter and negative Nancy's when some of us are just excited and aren't exactly professionals with how "The Bump" works. I had a gender scan early at 16 weeks and we find out this weekend... I'm thinking boy but my husband thinks girl. Good luck!!

The problem with posting things like this in the 2nd Tri board is that it becomes irrelevant very quickly because we're all here for such a short amount of time that we don't get to know each other and don't become emotionally invested in each other like we do on our respective BMBs. If you put your due date in on your account information, it'll automatically place you where you should be. 

ChiccoBeanz

ash10828ash said:

This moms clearly just excited and I'm sure she's aware of what the anatomy scan entails. Some of you seem rather bitter and negative Nancy's when some of us are just excited and aren't exactly professionals with how "The Bump" works. I had a gender scan early at 16 weeks and we find out this weekend... I'm thinking boy but my husband thinks girl. Good luck!!

Yikes, someone doesn't know how this forum works. Nothing negative nor bitter was said to the OP in the comment that you were referring to.In fact, you were actually rude towards @blessedwtwins who was being helpful and informative. Birth Month Boards were created for women due in the same month to connect, share information, share experiences and sometimes, as this is not a support group site, support each other when need be. 

 Side note, it is an "Anatomy Scan", because you are looking at the baby's anatomy to figure out their sex, which is determined by their anatomy. Gender is a social construct. "Gender" has also been a hot button topic on this forum in the past, just an fyi. 

 If you aren't sure how the TB "works" by all means look at the TOU so that you can be well informed and have a better experience on the forum. Enjoy the site and good luck.

ETA: I work full time.... just saying *shrugs*

Miss Lilac

I don't think this has anything to do with how TB works, or the rules here, or whatever. For me it's more like... What type of person, anywhere, with any type of job, is more concerned with the sex of their child than it's health and development? Priorities, people.

nik6499

You know what this post brings up for me, the month in my BMB where we all hit the range for an anatomy scan. And you know what became really apparent, very quickly no one cares he sex of the baby anymore they just wanted healthy because every single day someone had a concerning or bad scan and we did what BMBs do, we offered them the support they needed while all secretly praying our scans go ok.

When faced with the reality of a not perfect anatomy scan you quickly realize how little you care about finding out the sex.

mamacastro

nik6499 said:

You know what this post brings up for me, the month in my BMB where we all hit the range for an anatomy scan. And you know what became really apparent, very quickly no one cares he sex of the baby anymore they just wanted healthy because every single day someone had a concerning or bad scan and we did what BMBs do, we offered them the support they needed while all secretly praying our scans go ok.

When faced with the reality of a not perfect anatomy scan you quickly realize how little you care about finding out the sex.

This. I just got a call from the doctor's office today that my doctor wants a follow up A/S from the one we got done last week. His receptionist wouldn't tell me anything so I don't even know if something is wrong. Now this saturday we are going back to do another ultrasound and i'm on the verge of tears and worrying myself sick with every scenario possible. All I can do is hope and pray this is NBD and our baby is ok

ash10828ash

I'm really sorry if I offended anyone or came off rude. Perhaps you are right and I just read too far into @blessedwtwins. I'm fairly new to TB and have just noticed some women being attacked and judged for their lack of knowledge. Which I'm sure wasn't the case here and I see that now. Is this anyone else's 1st pregnancy? I just had the idea that expectant mothers would be more soft with their words on a site and this would be a positive place to go too. Just the vibe I've gotten on other forums that it's not always the case.

As for the gender/sex thing, also meant no disrespect in that either. I know in today's society it has been a huge controversy but I think some states are a little behind on the lingo.

To the anatomy scan- it's true. You should only be worried about the health of your baby since its the primary reason of the scan. My heart sinks when I see people receiving results with the A/S scan and worrying about what might be wrong with their baby. Can't say when I first thought anatomy scan I wasn't excited to find out the sex.. But now that I'm getting further along its almost like real life sinks in and you're finding out if you have a healthy baby or not. @mamacastro I am praying for you and your LO!!!!


Again, I'm truly sorry if I offended anyone!!!!

kirkie928

mamacastro said:

nik6499 said:

You know what this post brings up for me, the month in my BMB where we all hit the range for an anatomy scan. And you know what became really apparent, very quickly no one cares he sex of the baby anymore they just wanted healthy because every single day someone had a concerning or bad scan and we did what BMBs do, we offered them the support they needed while all secretly praying our scans go ok.

When faced with the reality of a not perfect anatomy scan you quickly realize how little you care about finding out the sex.

This. I just got a call from the doctor's office today that my doctor wants a follow up A/S from the one we got done last week. His receptionist wouldn't tell me anything so I don't even know if something is wrong. Now this saturday we are going back to do another ultrasound and i'm on the verge of tears and worrying myself sick with every scenario possible. All I can do is hope and pray this is NBD and our baby is ok

I am sorry you are in this situation. I'm having to get another scan next month. They told me as they were finishing up that they needed to get a better picture of her heart. The tech said she thought it looked just fine, but they couldn't get a good enough picture to measure it. I know that I shouldn't worry, but part of me keeps thinking "what if she is just telling me that?"

ChiccoBeanz

@mamacastro Hopefully all is well and they are just double checking to get the all clear. Best wishes for you and your family.

mamacastro

Thank you @ash10828ash and @BostonTerrior2008 and @kirkie928 I know, I think the same thing

mamacastro

@ChiccoBeanz thank you

ChiccoBeanz

mamacastro said:

@ChiccoBeanz thank you

Of course. You are not alone in this. I had several myself during my 2nd trimester. It's always difficult until you get the information. Keep your head up and stay positive. It is of course easier said than done. 

jonesl12

I'm hoping for a healthy baby this time. I could care less if it pees standing or sitting.

jrouge12

When I had my anatomy scan 7 weeks ago I was happy to see a healthy heart, two kidneys, a spine, a cute little nose and mouth and more. I was certainly excited to find out the sex but I can still picture in my head her little heart beating away as healthy as can be.