Facebook ruins my day yet again!

rachlee2010

I am sure I am not alone in having good day and bad days when it comes to fertility issues.  Well I have been doing pretty well lately until I go on Facebook and see someone announcing they are pregnant with baby #4.  Clearly, they don't have any issues and while of course I am happy for them I can't understand why it has to be this way.  Why can't we share the wealth, make everything even?  I honestly don't know if we will ever have another child although I do truly hope and believe we will and I try to picture my life with just my son.  I love him to death but will I ever truly be happy with just one child?  How did we get pregnant so easily with him and can't now?  I know they tell me why it's so hard this time around but could it have been that different when we had him 3 years ago?  And really we started trying for #2 when he was 1.5 so could things have really changed that quickly?  

I guess I just needed to vent as DH is out tonight and I am sitting here quietly crying while I watch my son eat dinner and watch a tv show.  I am a teacher and I tell my 7th/8th graders all the time that life isn't fair when they complain about something and now I feel like I am just living that unfairness.  

ellebelle2384

I'm sorry.  I end up unfriending or hiding a lot of people from my newsfeed.  We don't need that around us.  ((hugs))  Hang in there lady.  You're not alone.

yellingbanana

I feel you. I've had at least 6 friends have babies and another 6 that are pregnant. FB can be a great distraction, and other days it can be devastating.
I'm also a teacher, sped. But silly me, opened a daycare a year ago to stay at home with our baby we were supposed to have. Now I'm closing it in December and will be looking for a job next year. Taking a break to gather myself, reclaim my health, and praying that I get a BFP during that time! My daughter will be starting kindergarten next year, so I may as well get back to the work I love.
You are not alone

GK2009

Awww... I feel the same way.  Especially the part about not understanding how it was so easy to get pregnant the first time and now it seems impossible.  I try to wrap my head around that everyday.  You are not alone.  I don't really go on FB anymore because I don't like feeling jealous of other people, but I can't help it.  I don't want their lives, I just want the same things they have... it just makes me feel bad about myself.  I think what we are going through is so difficult and most people don't understand it-- try to stay strong.  You are totally justified in your feelings.  Hugs to you!

Jodee37

if i had a nickel every time i saw an annoying preg announcement on fb. big hugs lady. like @ellebelle2384 i unfollow those people. i don't need daily ute updates to ruin my day. you are DEFINITELY not alone.

ErikaMG

My heart is with you, and I totally understand what you're feeling. Just to offer another perspective (which will hopefully be helpful, but if it isn't then feel free to disregard)... I am personally coming at this from a different angle. I know what my odds are of having another child, and they're not good. I'm trying anyway, because I want another child very much and I know another would be a happy addition to our family. But I also know that although I might be disappointed if we can't have another, I'll also remain absolutely happy and content because we already have a child. Our family is already complete - another child would be an addition, an enhancement. But we are a strong unit as-is. Our son is the center of my universe, and I love him with my whole heart. He brings me more joy than I ever thought possible. So when I'm feeling down about this journey, I try to remind myself to focus on the amazing gift I DO have, and not on what I don't. This philosophy applies to other aspects of my life too... and it's helped me tremendously in terms of dealing with others. My friends' pregnancies have nothing to do with me, and their successes do not cause my failures. To me, there is no "fair" or "not fair" because it's beyond anyone's control. Does that make sense? Sorry if I'm rambling or getting too zen. I hope it helps a little...