So this may be slightly off topic so i hope this is the right place to post it. I would love to hear from other parents who were in similar situations.
I have become estranged from my parents. My mother went through a lot of things and I think she has essentially had some kind of emotional breakdown and took it all out on me.This started sort of back in May after i was finally forced to stand up for myself because of how cruel she was being to me. My dad chimed in and took her side 100%.Sure i could get into the whole thing, but i dont think its worth it. My mother just does not seem to be thinking right and my dad just doesn't seem to be thinking at all.But its gotten to the point now where my aunt (moms sister) and close neighbor have also both given up on my mom because her current disposition about life isnt one anyone wants to be involved with. She goes to them for advice but freaks out if they tell her anything but exactly what she wants to hear.
I knew i needed to announce my pregnancy and I knew calling or sending a text was a dangerous route to go. Because despite the many times i have tried to make ammends for the greater good, ever interaction that we have since had becomes volatile and she calls me every name in the book and puts endless words in my mouth that i never said and gets furious about said things i never said. We decided the cleanest way was to mail something. We wanted to still make it special the best we could given the circumstances and hoped the news may be what she needed to sort of snap out of her own world. So we got a super cute papryus card and decided to write a letter from ''the baby'' to its ''grandparents''. Talking about all the things that were going on and how ''mommy and daddy'' were doing. etc. I thought it was a cute idea. But as with every single thing i do these days (according to her) it was of course, wrong.
Of course instead of contacting either of us to say congratulations, she instead took the card (that explicitly said its early so please dont tell anyone...) and walked over to the neighbors house to tell her of his annoying and rude thing that we had done. Apparently we forgot to include the word ''Love'' when signing the card and she found it offensive the way that we wrote it from the baby instead of just from us.
So the bottom line is that my parents know that were pregnant and have for about 5 days and are choosing to not even congratulate us. I am their only child and this pregnancy was a result of dealing with fertility treatments, a huge rolllercoaster and eventually doing an IUI. It wasnt easy for us to get pregnant and we have had a tough few years, my husband had cancer, i got diagnosed with a chronic illness, i suffered a devastating loss in my life (non pregnancy related), and this pregnancy is a huge deal for us. So its very sad that my parents cannot even put their own selfish feelings aside and be happy for us. Is it wrong that as this progresses and goes on and ''gets worse'' that i want less and less to ever do with them again? Everyone says your priorities change drastically when you become a parent, but its strange that those priorites are leading me away from my own.