Strange stranger encounters!

ecloho

Today a complete stranger asked me if she could hold LO at the coffee shop! I didn't hesitate & said "no!" I wasn't mean about it & she said "oh I completely understand..." I said, "oh I completely understand why you would want to hold him!" ...but really!! Who asks that??!! I was kind of shocked to say the least @-)

Anyone else had experiences like this?

kyrenora

I was waiting for an elevator with LO in a stroller. This woman came up behind me, leaned over the stroller and started talking to the baby without a word to me.

jmucc421

I had a very elderly lady that was pushing a shopping cart through our mall come up and make a giant fuss over Lo. She then asked me if I would ride in the elevator with her bc she is afraid of them. Being the pushover I am I agreed, rose it down, then turned around and rode it right back up lol. My mom happened to be with me so I of course got a lecture (I'm 29 lol) about how that could have been a disguised man and he could have killed me. She watches too much dateline haha

beeish

I watch a lot of dateline type tv shows! Lol! When I read @ecloho 's post I thought of one I saw awhile back. A lady was struggling at a subway station with her LO. A complete stranger asked if she could help her out and offered to hold her LO. The mother handed her the baby and the stranger ran off! Crazy stuff!

ABubba

AHHH! STRANGER DANGER, STRANGER DANGER!!!

I hate when people want to look at her let alone try to hold her! Lol!

ecloho

@beeish that's exactly what my mom said!! She said don't ever let a stranger hold your baby cause that's how they can get kidnapped!!

My strange girlfriend who has a one month old was surprised that I didn't let the lady hold him... She said she would have because she wants her daughter to be comfortable with random people! Yes she said random!! And I was being nice by calling her "strange" cause that's plain stupid!! I told her that my son is comfortable with lots of different people we know & that lady was way too random for me!!

nmfranklin00

There was an older lady (70's?) getting her nails done right before me (I go to one specific lady who is the only nail tech at the hair/nail/waxing salon)....and she asked to hold little man! I told her that he had just gone potty and I didn't want to risk anything getting on her. I did however bend him down to where she was sitting and let her talk to him. I wasn't too freaked out by it, but she was such a sweet older lady and it was a very controlled environment- I was blocking the only exit and could have taken her down if need be!! Haha :-D

chrisaw

I am currently down in Florida with my parents who are moving down here in the winter (snowbirds ) and LO and I were at the flea market with my mom. LO and I were in line getting food while my mom went to grab a table. LO was in his stroller sleeping when this random man (50's or 60's) came up and touched his face by his mouth. LO of course flinched and the guy laughed and said "oh I guess I just woke him up!" And walked away. If looks could kill!!! I was so pissed!! Number 1: LO rarely naps (have I mentioned this a time or two?!) and Number 2: talking about Dateline, what if this guy had something crazy on his hand that transmitted onto LO's skin and died?! Ok, a little extreme, I know, but we're always hearing crazy stories like that!!

Handree

I was eating lunch at a restaurant with some of my friends when the waitress asked to hold my baby. I said yes and she sat at the table with us for a good 10 minutes holding and talking to him. I thought it was sweet! I was with a big group of people so if she tried to run off she would have gotten tackled!

jenni31

i was out to dinner and DS was crying so the waitress offered to take him. nice offer but i didnt want a stranger to take my son. im used to the crying and eating cold food. also had a man ask if he could speak you son so i said ok and he then started touching his face. very inappropriate! DS is only young and i was very worried that he could catch something and get a cold or sick with something.

AKOL0

At Walmart, my LOL started getting fussy and wanted to eat. An old lady walked past us and said, "Does she want a 'Grandma' to hold her?" We haven't had really any other weird interactions, but this one was a little strange.

PurpleBookmark

When my DD1 was a baby I was at the library with her in the car seat and a cover on when a man came up and asked me if I would lift the cover so he could see her. I did and he said how cute she was then went on his way. I was holding the car seat so I guess it was fine just a little odd.

Kimberlylena

Yes, all the time! It's so annoying. Anywhere I go, someone is all of a sudden in my baby's face (luckily no one has touched her). But I am always prepared to swat a hand away if need be! Lol

Anyways, just the other day I was walking around the store while LO was in her carrier. I heard a little girl next to me ask her mom, "mommy, can I pet the little baby's hair". WTH!? Lol. No, your little germy hands cannot "pet" my daughter's hair, she is not a dog!! Lol. Luckily, the mom never asked me and I quickly moved to the next aisle!

KAR8706

We were on our nightly walk and the first time around he was asleep, one of the neighbors (an older lady) commented on how cute he was. The second time around he was awake, she saw, screamed Oh he's awake! and ran across her yard, into the street and was so excited. She was playing with his hands and feet and I could tell she was holding herself back, it looked like she wanted to take him out of his carseat. I'm not sure what it is about older people but they seem to think since they're a grandparent, they have rights to all babies.

acciocoffee

Wow! You all have some pushy strangers! I have never had strangers touch my daughter or ask to hold her! The weirdest thing that happened was a lady at the grocery store asked if I was going back to work or staying home and was talking to me about the benefits of both. She actually found me later to apologize because she thought she was being rude! I usually just have people stopping me to ask how old she is and to comment on how much hair she has.

ecloho

Wow I guess I'm not the only one!! Boundaries people!! Boundaries!! Come on now!!

PurpleBookmark

Kimberlylena said:

Yes, all the time! It's so annoying. Anywhere I go, someone is all of a sudden in my baby's face (luckily no one has touched her). But I am always prepared to swat a hand away if need be! Lol Anyways, just the other day I was walking around the store while LO was in her carrier. I heard a little girl next to me ask her mom, "mommy, can I pet the little baby's hair". WTH!? Lol. No, your little germy hands cannot "pet" my daughter's hair, she is not a dog!! Lol. Luckily, the mom never asked me and I quickly moved to the next aisle!

Omg kids are the funniest! We were at an indoor play place and I was feeding the baby with a bottle and a little girl ran up and tried to take the bottle from me so she could feed my baby! I had no idea where her parents were, she was maybe 3 or 4. She was just VERY interested in baby, but I obviously had to gently remove her hands from the bottle and tell her that I would feed the baby but she could say hello to her lol.

SnarkasaurusRex

I was at Target buying formula and this lady came up to me and said, "Honey, I know you're young but you shouldn't use that! Breast feed instead!" and then followed me around for a while reiterating that. Bitch, I'm 30 and I worked with 3 lactation consultants to improve my supply and still have to supplement; step off.

beeish

SnarkasaurusRex said:

I was at Target buying formula and this lady came up to me and said, "Honey, I know you're young but you shouldn't use that! Breast feed instead!" and then followed me around for a while reiterating that. Bitch, I'm 30 and I worked with 3 lactation consultants to improve my supply and still have to supplement; step off.

Omg! I would've gone off on her! It's such a personal choice. It's no ones business! I breast fed my first and would love to be able to breast DS. Unfortunately I can't since I take medication for PsA. That Ass hat!

klirwin82

SnarkasaurusRex said:

I was at Target buying formula and this lady came up to me and said, "Honey, I know you're young but you shouldn't use that! Breast feed instead!" and then followed me around for a while reiterating that. Bitch, I'm 30 and I worked with 3 lactation consultants to improve my supply and still have to supplement; step off.

It's something about Target...I was there looking at nursing covers and some girl comes up behind me telling me I should make my own and that it's sooo eaaaasy. She repeated it 2-3 times. Do I look like Betsy Ross? I do not have a needle, thread, fabric or a sewing machine. Nor do I have the time or interest. I'll gladly spend the $30 to outsource the manufacturing to a party other than myself. Andplusalso I want the plastic piece in the neck. So there.

theoneandonlysmp

A lady this weekend asked to touch my baby's head....that's it. "Can I touch her head?!" she was nestled into my Moby wrap. How do people think babies and bumps remove personal bubbles?

theoneandonlysmp

A lady this weekend asked to touch my baby's head....that's it. "Can I touch her head?!" she was nestled into my Moby wrap. How do people think babies and bumps remove personal bubbles?

LibbyC730

I was at Target with LO's car seat tucked down in the basket of the cart. A little girl around 4 noticed and told me she was soon going to have a baby brother. Her dad called her over, but she continued to ask a few more questions about the baby. Her dad called her back again, explained she was being rude. I thought that was a little odd, but as we were walking away, the little girl asked to see the baby and the dad goes "Oh! I didn't see you had a baby in the cart!"
Apparently he thought his daughter mistook me for pregnant!

Kimberlylena

SnarkasaurusRex said:

I was at Target buying formula and this lady came up to me and said, "Honey, I know you're young but you shouldn't use that! Breast feed instead!" and then followed me around for a while reiterating that. Bitch, I'm 30 and I worked with 3 lactation consultants to improve my supply and still have to supplement; step off.

Ohhh heck no!!!!! I would've said, "yeah, okay." And dismissed her ASAP. The nerve!!!!

MommaKat37

Twice now while at walmart, there is a guy who asked if he could have DS until he's like 12 or 13...
The first time he asked I was there with DS alone, the second time DH was with me.
Just creepy!!!

atsrikie

Three separate occasions at the grocery store 2 ladies and one man commented how perfectly round my DS head is. This was followed by "oh, he must have been a c section baby" it was so awkward

massey25

Thankfully no randoms have tried to touch DS, but I had an odd old man longer at my table at breakfast to comment on the fact that I was holding him and eating. I wanted to ask if he would rather me let him scream and disrupt everyone around us. I refrained.

First person to touch my baby will get smacked. He's mine. Not yours. I'm sorry so many of you have had to deal with (hopefully) well-intentioned creepers.

dunn1678

SnarkasaurusRex said:

I was at Target buying formula and this lady came up to me and said, "Honey, I know you're young but you shouldn't use that! Breast feed instead!" and then followed me around for a while reiterating that. Bitch, I'm 30 and I worked with 3 lactation consultants to improve my supply and still have to supplement; step off.

Oh my gosh! That is incredible rude! Why do people feel that once there are children involved they are allowed to have an open opinion on someone else's personal choices? So sorry you had to deal with this!

SnarkasaurusRex

@beeish @kimberlylena @dunn1678 I wish I would have gone off on her. I was so tired and depressed about it because it was right after DS had to be hospitalized for weight loss and dehydration thanks to my crappy supply. I was still mourning my inability to EBF and I didn't want to deal with ignorant asshats. I think I just said 'cool' and walked off, haha. If only I had been on my A game...she would have gotten SUCH an earful.

aakirtz

I was on a plane this past week and the woman across the aisle was asking me all about my baby and said she would hold her if I needed help during the flight. Then we discovered that they both have the same name and she said it was destiny and now she must hold the baby. I did not let her hold her but every time she fussed a little the woman looked at me to see if I needed help. I know she was just being nice but I just wouldn't feel comfortable letting someone hold her like that.

Ckorines

You all need to practice your resting bitch face. I don't have these encounters because my face says "come near my kid and I will rip your face off." It works for us.

MommaKat37

Ckorines said:

You all need to practice your resting bitch face. I don't have these encounters because my face says "come near my kid and I will rip your face off." It works for us.

Hahaha!!! Nice! Definitely need to practice this face!!!

ecloho

Yes LOL @Ckorines like a mother bear!! No one fucks with bear cubs when mommy is nearby!!

katesmama0706

Omg. These are all making me so tense. We've only had one weird experience. I was in Walmart with LO in the Moby wrap and this preteen boy (who I suspect was maybe special needs, now that I think about it) came up and started asking me questions about how old my baby was and when I responded 2 months he asked if she was walking or talking yet. Then when he asked her name and I said "Kate" he asked and started suggesting "nicknames" for her. Then when I tried to be polite and walk away he got all up in my space to look at her face and then followed me down a few aisles. Super awkward.

sgb721

We were out for a walk yesterday and we saw this older couple walking their pup. The lady came up to us and started adjusting my daughters blanket and saying how cute she was, and how I should put a hat on her. The husband started yelling 'Hattie, don't touch the baby, it's not yours'. I quickly realized she had dementia. Poor lady. She kept rattling off advice to me, Don't let her near strangers, bundle her up, make sure she gets fresh air. She was honestly super nice, and I think she just went into mom/grandma mode. Poor lady. It was weird though since i didn't know her or her husband.

wheresilenceismusic

I'm a country girl, born and raised --- I'm probably pretty naive.  I was never taught "stranger danger."  We always knew everyone in town.

While my DH was having surgery, two of the nurses kept cooing over LO.  They asked if they could hold her.  Well, finally at one point, I did let them (a group of them) hold her while I went to the bathroom quickly.  One of the nurses was pregnant and was receiving care at the birth center that I attended; I thought it would be a real treat for her to hold a little baby while she was eagerly waiting to meet her own.

I'm probably the only one here who voluntarily handed off my baby to a stranger (or a group of them), but they were nurses in a surgical unit caring for my husband, they had washed their hands… I thought it was pretty safe.

I also love it when old ladies want to adore my LO in the grocery store with me.  It makes me proud.

I wouldn't let anyone else touch LO, though.

KAR8706

I'm perfectly ok with looking and everyone saying how cute he is.... but dont touch!

ecloho

Yes @wheresilenceismusic I would probably feel different about nurses