Circumcision Poll

MereFara27

Hi mommas. I'm expecting a boy February 8th and am now hearing lots of different opinions on circumcision. I would love to see what the mommas on here think. Please no argumentative posts - this is a very serious decision and my mind is 99% made up on our decision, but still interested in others thoughts. Thanks!!

E3A7AGGIE

I will say, if you google a variety of the phrase "will you circumcise", you will find many other forums and threads on it. It's a super touchy, hot topic. 

My advice to you would be not to seek other's opinions or thoughts, and to do research on your own from reputable sources. This should be your (and DHs) decision, and yours alone. What others do with their child shouldn't matter. 

MereFara27

I guess I worded this incorrectly. I have done my research and I did mention our decision is made but I'm just curious what others are doing. Apparently the "trend" is changing and I'm interested to see what others have decided. Nothing on this thread will impact our already made decision.

RHrebien

We just found out we are having a boy (we have two girls so this is way different for us) anyways... We have decided since my husband is circumcised that we will get our little boy done too. On the other hand I have good friends that don't have there boys done and she said if you teach them from a young age how to keep it clean it should be fine. Good luck, so much to think about!

mamacastro

Our DS was circumcised last year when he was born and we don't regret our decision but its different and personal for everyone

smorabito1

We will not be circumcising. I don't see any need.

Latina211508

I'm also due the 8th with a baby boy. My fourth child. We will not be circumcising him. My son isn't and my husband isn't either. But I chose not to circumcise my son because I personally felt there was no need to. If my husband was I think I still would have chosen him not to be. But I do think its all up to the parents and personal preference. Good luck.

brushesnbrunch

Just curious, if you're decision is already made and it's not going to be swayed one way or the other from hearing others' choices, why do you want to know? Just seems kind of pointless...

notasycophant

brushesnbrunch said:

Just curious, if you're decision is already made and it's not going to be swayed one way or the other from hearing others' choices, why do you want to know? Just seems kind of pointless...

My thoughts exactly. We've had this discussion already. Pointless to go over it again. If OP has done her research, what other people do to their sons shouldn't matter. Strange.. especially on a weekend. Hahaha.

notasycophant

MereFara27 said:

Hi mommas. I'm expecting a boy February 8th and am now hearing lots of different opinions on circumcision. I would love to see what the mommas on here think. Please no argumentative posts - this is a very serious decision and my mind is 99% made up on our decision, but still interested in others thoughts. Thanks!!

Also QFP.. because it's the weekend.

notasycophant

MereFara27 said:

I guess I worded this incorrectly. I have done my research and I did mention our decision is made but I'm just curious what others are doing. Apparently the "trend" is changing and I'm interested to see what others have decided. Nothing on this thread will impact our already made decision.

QFP.. just because.

Achae

MereFara27 said:

Hi mommas. I'm expecting a boy February 8th and am now hearing lots of different opinions on circumcision. I would love to see what the mommas on here think. Please no argumentative posts - this is a very serious decision and my mind is 99% made up on our decision, but still interested in others thoughts. Thanks!!

When you create a new thread there is a "poll" option.

g8trkim

It might be a slippery slope to seek opinions on here. Most of the girls are very respectful but it only takes one to turn it into a big ole' mess.

My two cents... go with your gut! It's a personal decision and anyone who matters will respect whatever you choose. Don't worry about what we do or say because your will get all sorts of different views and you will probably just be more confused.

strlitemiss

Hmmm I tend to not discuss my sons penis with other people.

This post is weird. I'm not sure why you want to know what we're doing, the numbers and statistics are out there, the practices regarding foreskin are changing and you're not going to get a good idea of that from a birth month on the bump.

SuriGirl14

Well, on this site, as future moms needing support, we are discussing a lot about our bodies with other people... So I am perfectly ok with discussing my son's penis, too. Your question is relevant, even if your decision is mostly made... And it stil irks me that people need to be mean. If you don't like the question, ignore it and move on. No need to waste your (and our) time with mean, useless comments. But I digress, so back to the penis now... Our son will be circumcised... His dad is and about 85% of the men in the area are, too... We don't want our son to be ridiculed in PE class in the locker room for looking different... In addition, studies still show slight medical benefits with circumcision (lower rates of penile cancer, UTI, easier cleaning, etc)... So that's how we made our decision. Stick with yours, don't let others belittle you whatever your decision is, and remember this decision, although it seems big now, with pale in comparison with other, more crucial decisions later on in your son's life. Good luck!

stephz44

Our son will be circumcised too.  DH is and it will help with future discussions.  We really didn't have to discuss it or research it together, it was just already in our heads that's what we were going to do.

@SuriGirl14-  well said!

middy411

My only experience with an uncircumcised penis was with my first love who I was with for four years. The UTIs were constant for me during that time and I have yet to have one since we broke up 7+ years ago. He never seemed to have any problems but it sure seemed to cause them for me (unless it was a crazy coincidence). Just based off of that, I would circumcise if I were having a boy. Since I am having a girl, I don't have to worry about it quite yet. Just wanted to point out that it can affect the partner and not just the person with the goods.

Achae

SuriGirl14 said:

Well, on this site, as future moms needing support, we are discussing a lot about our bodies with other people... So I am perfectly ok with discussing my son's penis, too. Your question is relevant, even if your decision is mostly made... And it stil irks me that people need to be mean. If you don't like the question, ignore it and move on. No need to waste your (and our) time with mean, useless comments. But I digress, so back to the penis now... Our son will be circumcised... His dad is and about 85% of the men in the area are, too... We don't want our son to be ridiculed in PE class in the locker room for looking different... In addition, studies still show slight medical benefits with circumcision (lower rates of penile cancer, UTI, easier cleaning, etc)... So that's how we made our decision. Stick with yours, don't let others belittle you whatever your decision is, and remember this decision, although it seems big now, with pale in comparison with other, more crucial decisions later on in your son's life. Good luck!

Nobody was mean itt.

Life is Exciting

Our toddler son is uncircumcised. His father is circumcised. I'm pro- intact because I feel like there isn't really a medical need to circumcise so it feels like an elective procedure to me. In that sense, I prefer not to choose elective procedures for young children. It's the same reason I won't pierce my daughter's ears when she's an infant. (I know they aren't the same - just both along the lines of elective).

cbou

@SuriGirl14 - There has been a recent shift towards a lot of parents not circumcising, so I don't think being different in the locker room is going to be a problem for Feb 2016 boys.

geojam224

cbou said:

@SuriGirl14 - There has been a recent shift towards a lot of parents not circumcising, so I don't think being different in the locker room is going to be a problem for Feb 2016 boys.

This is my argument for tattoos. Not on babies though. I know that was random.

jellybellybean3

cbou said:

@SuriGirl14 - There has been a recent shift towards a lot of parents not circumcising, so I don't think being different in the locker room is going to be a problem for Feb 2016 boys.

Thank you. I can't handle the locker room debate. I just can't. If your child is going to be made fun of in the locker room it is most definitely NOT because his penis isn't circumsized. I don't care if you circumsize or if you don't, but using this as your reasoning is ridiculous.

alanna3622

What are the best places to research this issue? We are having a boy and I haven't thought about this. I just assumed we would circumcise. I never thought of it as elective before, but that makes sense.

MereFara27

   

MereFara27

g8trkim said:

It might be a slippery slope to seek opinions on here. Most of the girls are very respectful but it only takes one to turn it into a big ole' mess.

My two cents... go with your gut! It's a personal decision and anyone who matters will respect whatever you choose. Don't worry about what we do or say because your will get all sorts of different views and you will probably just be more confused.

Thanks for your reply. I'm not even going to stoop to the level of those who felt the need to post judgmental comments on this thread! I was just interested to see what direction this is going in considering up until a few weeks ago, I thought it was a no-brainer that 99% of baby boys were circumcised. Had I realized it was such a controversial topic, I never would have posted this. I'm very disappointed by the women on here who felt entitled to post some of the comments they did. At least you were polite and supportive!! 

MereFara27

SuriGirl14 said:

Well, on this site, as future moms needing support, we are discussing a lot about our bodies with other people... So I am perfectly ok with discussing my son's penis, too. Your question is relevant, even if your decision is mostly made... And it stil irks me that people need to be mean. If you don't like the question, ignore it and move on. No need to waste your (and our) time with mean, useless comments. But I digress, so back to the penis now... Our son will be circumcised... His dad is and about 85% of the men in the area are, too... We don't want our son to be ridiculed in PE class in the locker room for looking different... In addition, studies still show slight medical benefits with circumcision (lower rates of penile cancer, UTI, easier cleaning, etc)... So that's how we made our decision. Stick with yours, don't let others belittle you whatever your decision is, and remember this decision, although it seems big now, with pale in comparison with other, more crucial decisions later on in your son's life. Good luck!

Thanks for your reply. I'm not even going to stoop to the level of those who felt the need to post judgmental comments on this thread! I was just interested to see what direction this is going in considering up until a few weeks ago, I thought it was a no-brainer that 99% of baby boys were circumcised. Had I realized it was such a controversial topic, I never would have posted this. I'm very disappointed by the women on here who felt entitled to post some of the comments they did. At least you were polite and supportive!! 

thisusername

middy411 said:

My only experience with an uncircumcised penis was with my first love who I was with for four years. The UTIs were constant for me during that time and I have yet to have one since we broke up 7+ years ago. He never seemed to have any problems but it sure seemed to cause them for me (unless it was a crazy coincidence). Just based off of that, I would circumcise if I were having a boy. Since I am having a girl, I don't have to worry about it quite yet. Just wanted to point out that it can affect the partner and not just the person with the goods.

I'm having a girl as well, so same. But my ex used to be in excruiciating pain when. We would have sex. I never had any issues though. He just said the skin gets pulled back a lot and it's horrible. He wished he was circumcised. It's different for every person though. His mom was very against it, he is having a boy soon and plans on doing it. (I'm pretty good friends with him still and his fiancé; so is my husband)
I'm kind of glad I am having a girl because while my husband and I are 100% in agreement on what we WOULD do, some of our family still think they should have a say in it. So thank goodness for a girl and no arguing!


Also well said about seeking advice and such. Before we knew our gender I read EVERY story on here.

thisusername

Also, I'd just like to say thanks to the people who do share and give us FTM's insights we may not have seen on our own.

notasycophant

MereFara27 said:

SuriGirl14 said:

Well, on this site, as future moms needing support, we are discussing a lot about our bodies with other people... So I am perfectly ok with discussing my son's penis, too. Your question is relevant, even if your decision is mostly made... And it stil irks me that people need to be mean. If you don't like the question, ignore it and move on. No need to waste your (and our) time with mean, useless comments. But I digress, so back to the penis now... Our son will be circumcised... His dad is and about 85% of the men in the area are, too... We don't want our son to be ridiculed in PE class in the locker room for looking different... In addition, studies still show slight medical benefits with circumcision (lower rates of penile cancer, UTI, easier cleaning, etc)... So that's how we made our decision. Stick with yours, don't let others belittle you whatever your decision is, and remember this decision, although it seems big now, with pale in comparison with other, more crucial decisions later on in your son's life. Good luck!

Thanks for your reply. I'm not even going to stoop to the level of those who felt the need to post judgmental comments on this thread! I was just interested to see what direction this is going in considering up until a few weeks ago, I thought it was a no-brainer that 99% of baby boys were circumcised. Had I realized it was such a controversial topic, I never would have posted this. I'm very disappointed by the women on here who felt entitled to post some of the comments they did. At least you were polite and supportive!! 


How can anyone think 99% of boys are circumcised? Like seriously?Also no one was judgemental, if you use the search feature you'll find lots about circumcision.

Scornelius

DH is circumcised and wanted our son done too. I am from a culture where it is absolutely unheard of, so it was not going to happen. it caused a major fight between us, but I just refused to consent to the procedure.

Within a few months, once he was familiar with what an unaltered penis looks/acts like, DH was fine with my decision. After several of our friends with circed kids had complications, he thanked me for being so rigid. We're having another son, and DH wouldn't let me circ even if I wanted to.

America is pretty much the only country in the world that performs routine infant circumcision for non religious reasons. The rest of the world manages just fine with their forskins. If it has to be removed later, fine, I'd rather it be done when my son can understand, consent, and take appropriate pain medicine.

lpstl

We're going to flip a coin

AdventureMama

lpstl said:

We're going to flip a coin

I hope you're kidding.

Miss Lilac

AdventureMama said:

lpstl said:

We're going to flip a coin

I hope you're kidding.

Fine, fine. We're going to rock/paper/scissors. 8->

Achae

Miss Lilac said:

AdventureMama said:

lpstl said:

We're going to flip a coin

I hope you're kidding.

Fine, fine. We're going to rock/paper/scissors. 8->

Is rock smash, paper leave intact and scissors cut it off?

alexisau

Didn't with our first. No regrets. Won't this time either.

RHrebien

Sorry your getting some not so helpful advice ... I thought this was more of a support group, etc! I have two girls and expecting my 1st boy- my husband is circumcised so I think we will be getting our little guy done...

AdventureMama

RHrebien said:

Sorry your getting some not so helpful advice ... I thought this was more of a support group, etc! I have two girls and expecting my 1st boy- my husband is circumcised so I think we will be getting our little guy done...

She got helpful advice. The best of which was "use the search function because this has been discussed a lot." Believe it or not, people don't want to rehash the exact same conversation every single week.

acuteangles

RHrebien said:

Sorry your getting some not so helpful advice ... I thought this was more of a support group, etc! I have two girls and expecting my 1st boy- my husband is circumcised so I think we will be getting our little guy done...

And for the record, she didn't ask for advice. She said, "I would love to see what the mommas on here think." She asked for opinions and she got them.

MamaFroFro

RHrebien said:

Sorry your getting some not so helpful advice ... I thought this was more of a support group, etc! I have two girls and expecting my 1st boy- my husband is circumcised so I think we will be getting our little guy done...

I think you are confused, this is a BMB, not a support group.

kinnonam

MereFara27 said:

Hi mommas. I'm expecting a boy February 8th and am now hearing lots of different opinions on circumcision. I would love to see what the mommas on here think. Please no argumentative posts - this is a very serious decision and my mind is 99% made up on our decision, but still interested in others thoughts. Thanks!!

Hi mama I'm also having a boy 02/08 congrats to us!! I went threw the same thing in trying to figure out what to do. I did so much searching around and found out the good the bad and the ugly. I consulted my sister my step mom and some friends different ethnicities to be sure. Some of the things I heard was quite scary. But, on the other hand it was nice to hear the many opinions people had for me and my child!

kinnonam

We have so many decisions to make don't get bogged down! It's you and your SO decision. I let mine SO decide because I don't have a penis so I don't know what it's like and we're doing it. Just be confident in your decision you will be fine!!