Working mom check in

qtjo5

Stole this from June 2015....

What's going on with you working women? Back yet? Been back? Starting back soon? Starting new period?

Me personally, I have been back for about 3 weeks... And I have a confession - I check in on my baby camera monitor every few times a day and if/when I hear my LO cry I almost start packing up to come home. That's when I call DH who assures me that our son is just fine w his grandma or grandpa (depending who he is with). Should I feel guilty spying? No. I don't.. Lol being at work 8 hrs plus commute time is no fun! Lol

NSAnderson0313

I am on day 2 back at work. Thankfully I have a good amount of flexibility. I manage a team of people who are situated all over the world so being in a physical office isn't required 5 days a week.

Yesterday I worked in the office for 4 hours and the rest of the day from home. I'll continue to do home office until the 19th.

My MIL is watching DD right now, but our au pair starts next week. Hopefully this whole situation works out or I will be a mess the 19th when I head off to work.

massey25

I've been back at work since late August. Little man is with my mom and SO's mom depending on the day. Thankfully they both send me pics throughout the day and my mom will FaceTime with us sometimes. I would lose my mind if we didn't have such awesome technology at our disposal. My work is awesome though, so if I need to leave I can, for whatever reason. Sadly the never-ending bills keep me there mostly. The 30 minute commute to grandmas' houses and then 15 minute commute to work drives me insane. I would get more cuddles in if it were all closer to home.

theoneandonlysmp

I've been back for weeks now. It has not gotten easier for me. I race to get home. I want to be home everyday. I don't think I will get over this feeling ever.

randa923

I am only working Saturdays and Sundays. My first day back was this past Sunday. It's easier knowing that my little guy is with my husband. But it's so hard because I'm gone all day and night. I leve by 8:45 am and am lucky to be home by 11 pm. I'm an ER nurse. I'm thankful that we don't have to pay for childcare or fight with anyone else about how to do things, but it's hard. I already miss our Saturday morning cuddles with all three of us. And I miss our Sunday pajama days.

gmk1784

I've been back at work almost two weeks and i don't think that being a working mom is for me. My job and company are great and since I have to work I'm glad it's here, but I miss my little guy all day long. He's in daycare and he's really happy there but I feel like I'm missing out on so much.

It's also taking a toll on me because I feel like I'm going nonstop from 6am-11pm. Part of me wants to cut back to maybe 3 days a week but I don't know if that's possible. I may have to look into my earnings vs. daycare costs

KAR8706

I've been back for about 4 weeks now. I definitely miss LO during the day but knowing he is with DH makes it way easier. I for 40 hours a week and do feel like I miss out of some things but every night and the weekends I soak up all the time I can. I have to work though, my job has the benefits and most of the income so it's important.

n3na94

qtjo5 said:

Stole this from June 2015....

What's going on with you working women? Back yet? Been back? Starting back soon? Starting new period?

Me personally, I have been back for about 3 weeks... And I have a confession - I check in on my baby camera monitor every few times a day and if/when I hear my LO cry I almost start packing up to come home. That's when I call DH who assures me that our son is just fine w his grandma or grandpa (depending who he is with). Should I feel guilty spying? No. I don't.. Lol being at work 8 hrs plus commute time is no fun! Lol

This will be me when I go back to work! No shame or guilt of spying lol ;;)

pandd10513

I've been back since first week of September. I'm a teacher, so no flexibility on days or times. I'm gone from 7am to 5pm. LO goes to bed at 7:30 each night, so I only have a few hours a day with her. I get sad when she sleeps thru the night because that's the only real time I get to spend with her. Is that weird?

Hopeful715

I was given the option to work from home by my company, so I returned to work right after my six weeks. I feel fortunate to be with my baby, but I am struggling with how difficult it is to get anything done. I feel like neither work nor baby get all they deserve. It takes me 10-12 hrs to put in an 8 hr workday, so my days seem really long.

mamaklemond

I've been back 3 weeks now but only 2-3 days a week. I'm super lucky in that I work 10 min from home, my DH works less than 5 min from home and we have a nanny that comes to our house so both boys get to stay in their own comfy environment. She takes them to playdates at church (or she did with the older one before DS2 arrived so she will start again once DS2 is a few weeks older) and brings her 2 yo daughter to our home so they do get some interaction with other children. It is hectic in the mornings so I can't even imagine how crazy it would be if I had to get 2 kids ready for daycare every day!!!! I miss my boys when I'm gone to work, but it is nice to use my brain, my skills and interact with adults a couple times a week.

LibbyC730

I've been back almost 8 weeks now. We have a great daycare with pretty good hours. I unfortunately am on an overnight rotation (until we can hire 2 more staff members!!) and finding someone to watch LO can be tough. Everyone was on board while I was expecting, but now that a few people have had a turn, they're deciding it's not as much fun as they thought it would be. : /
Thankfully I have a dear friend who has already saved my butt on multiple occasions. DH works out of town and isn't always able to come home on the weekends I work. : (

I've also found it kind of tough to keep up with pumping, so we've been supplementing more than I would have preferred. But, I do enjoy my job and am glad to see my coworkers--with hubby being gone I appreciate the company!!

mrsjones1012

Been back doing part time hours (for me as a nurse that's 1-2 12 hr shifts/week) but I'll be back full time in another week (3 12hr shifts). It's been tough but I work nights, so I don't miss out on quite as much. My job doesnt give me much down time to chat with daddy about what's going on but he still texts me updates and pictures. When I go back full time the sleep deprivation will really kick in X_X

klirwin82

Been back for 2.5 weeks, the hardest thing is the constant go-go-go from 6am to 10pm. I drop LO off with grandma by 8am, sneak out around 4:30pm and don't get there til 5:30 cause of traffic... Then I feed him and he naps while I wash a million bottles and pack the diaper bag for the next day. I eat, wake him, bathe him, nurse him and he goes to sleep. I feel like it's no time at all with him. And pumping at works SUCKS literally. Having a hard time keeping up, especially when we move buildings next week and there's 1 mothers room for 1000 employees. And the parking garage is a 5 min walk if I wanted to pump in my car. Ugh.

I make enough that we'd be ok if I just worked 3 days a week but that's not an option with the organization. I feel like I'm going to miss his first word and his first steps and I get sad about it.

KAR8706

I definitively agree that the hardest is going from 6 am to 11 pm or later. The other day DH finally said go to sleep, I will handle this because I was past tired and moody. I felt bad because he has LO all day and I want my time with him when i'm off work but I was exhausted. 

jmucc421

i don't go back until January but am already having so much anxiety about it. I feel like I have this cloud of doom hanging over my head. I don't want someone else (even if it's my mom or mil) raising my baby while I raise other people's kids (I'm a teacher). Unfortunately, there's no part time or work from home option...I will be starting a countdown to summer my first day back

laurencg2393

I went back Sept 14th. If we could financially afford it, I'd work only part time. I just feel like by the time I get home, LO is in complete melt down mode and I can't make him happy. I feel like we don't have the bond we used to have before I went back to work. Kinda bummed.

aluapaniri

I have been back for a week and kinda glad to be back. I feel bad that my kiddo is in daycare all day but I do love my job too. Daycare has a camera and I check in all the time. I love seeing what she's up to. I think it would be so much worse if I couldn't look into the classroom whenever I want.

eyi715

I went back to work 3 weeks ago. What makes it easier for me is that thank God my mom takes care of my baby and she only lives like 5 mins away from my job so on my lunch break i drive there and I get to see my baby, if she is hungry I feed her, if not I just dropp off her milk. Also I only work Monday to Thursday since my mom can not watch her on Fridays and there is no one else. The problem is that I am starting to feel like I need a new job because money is tight the way I am right now. I used to work two jobs before I got pregnant which allowed me to be confortable and to pay for school. There is no way I can pay for school and keep up with my bills working there and only 4 days a week. I really want to go back to school... Plus sometimes I feel like the money is not worth missing out on my babe just the other day my mom sent me a picture of my baby holding her bottle on her own for the first time, I felt so proud of her but I almost cry to see how i was not there..

dmd0830

@hopeful17 I'm having the same struggle! I'm in the office 3 days a week but work from home tues and thurs. I had a break down yesterday because I feel like I'm failing at both. I can't give my baby the attention he deserves and get my work done. It's tough!

lilyan1522

Going back to work on Monday. I'm nervous to leave him but also ready to get back to work in a way. Mostly for the paycheck haha. We'll see how I feel after I actually have to leave him. I feel like we have a great bond so I'm hoping to keep feeling that way. I'm working 3 days a week most of the time. Some 8 hour, some 12 hour shifts. Also nervous about pumping and keeping enough supply up to feed him. We'll see how it goes!

bazzie88

I go back to work on Monday! I'm so sad my maternity leave is over!!!! DH and I arranged our schedules so we don't need daycare, so that makes this a little easier knowing lo is with him, but omg I'm so sad I'm going to be missing so much! I work long hours and I have a 1 hour commute one way so I'm gone a lot.

I'm worried that I'll feel like I never have a break since my husband and I are on opposite schedules there is literally not one day during the week where we both have it off. So if I'm not working I'll be alone with LO. I'm worried both DH and I will get burnt out and frustrated and hate life. trying to remain positive, but boy oh boy I'm already having some seriously sleepless nights just because I'm worrying so much!

lynnettemt

I go back this Thursday and I'm dreading it. Thankfully my mom will watch him at my house everyday but I will definitely miss our time together. I'm sad that I'll only have nights and weekends with him and I have a very long commute so that makes my time away even longer. I'm trying to get a different job that will allow me to be closer to home. I think (or hope) I will enjoy being back at work once I settle in but we'll see.