First Time Grandparents

MelHay

My husband has a typical newborn-sleeping-on-stomach-naked picture of our son as his cover photo on Facebook. One of his friends reported it yesterday for nudity and Facebook subsequently messaged him and said that it didn't violate their standards and the photo remains. Not a big deal for us; we laugh that someone would do this and move on.
Today my father in law posts about how someone reported him for posting "child porn" of his grandson and that Facebook "called" his son (my husband) about the image. He doesn't even have the picture on his Facebook page.
Is anyone else having extreme difficulty with first time grandparents?

MouseMama817

Lol what the heck?

We're not on FB but my MIL pretty much lives there. I can't imagine the horror going on on her page and would rather stay blissfully unaware.

My issue is that I think they get so caught up in Lexie being *their* granddaughter that they forget she's *my* child and that means there are boundaries. The other night she came over, plucked my daughter out of her swing, and took her into the nursery along with a bottle of "baby cologne." Without asking me, she put it all over my little girls head!!! Who does that? When I looked at the bottle I saw it had expired in May of 2010!! My MIL is a hoarder and evidently kept this from when my BIL had his daughter several years ago. I was beyond pissed and made my husband throw it out.

kettlekitten

WTF is baby cologne??

GirlOnTheBeach

kettlekitten said:

WTF is baby cologne??

It exists. Our Puerto Rican friends bought some called Nanuco and always check to see if LO is wearing it (apparently my husband and all his family feel every baby should have it). I'm not a fan of putting extra chemicals on baby but it is totally a cultural thing in our case. I just let him put a dab on if we are meeting PR friends or family.

LittleFox2015

L.o. isnt even 8 weeks yet and gma is mad i canceled next saturdays lunch date. She got worse when i refused letting my husband bring the baby to stay with her fri, sat most of sun when he goes to drill next weekend and i work. Ummmm no... not okay. My baby...

ginger8484

Ya. It's boundaries .

When it comes to photos, I have say so and that's it. It's not fair for me to have my child pictures on any social media without her permission . Plus there are freaks out there and modeling agencies whom like to snag photos and use it.

I still have issues with the mil with her acting like she controls things , but not on my watch. Ladies stay strong and carry on!! All will work out . Heck, it's frustrating , but all will be well in the end.

MelHay

Oh my goodness the people out there! I read an article about how some people will steal photos of children and repost them as their own and pretend that it's their kid and sort of live in this fantasy world.
We watermark our pictures in Photoshop to sort of combat this. We put his name across either the top of the picture or the bottom, and we try to have photos of us with him to sort of deter people from wanting to steal them.

MouseMama817

GirlOnTheBeach said:

kettlekitten said:

WTF is baby cologne??

It exists. Our Puerto Rican friends bought some called Nanuco and always check to see if LO is wearing it (apparently my husband and all his family feel every baby should have it). I'm not a fan of putting extra chemicals on baby but it is totally a cultural thing in our case. I just let him put a dab on if we are meeting PR friends or family.

Yea, it must be cultural. My in laws are from Nicaragua. My husband likes the idea bc he grew up with it but I had never heard of it and I agree, no extra chemicals! We already put baby lotion in her and it's scented. I don't get the need for anything beyond that. She'd smell good without anything at all anyway

Jenni329

My mil is a really nice lady but since having my lo I've found myself getting irritated more and more with her. She just walks into our house and shouts hello at the top of her lungs, leaves the door wide open so the two young dogs run straight out to investigate the new area we've just moved to, which she ignores them goes and picks up my baby from wherever she is. Even if she's sleeping. I can't do anything about it because I'm halfway down the street getting the pups off the neighbours garden. Plus both in laws know we've just replaced the carpets when we moved in and come stomping in with muddy shoes and in fil cases dog poo. So then I'm cleaning that up so can't rescue my girl from being talked at and jiggled around by this loud little woman. Rant over, it just really pissed me off.

brittc013

My MIL is getting pissy I don't want her to babysit while my husband and I are at a wedding.

1) the wedding is out of town.
2) it's on Halloween, my baby's first Halloween
3) Halloween is also my birthday.

Im sorry I don't want to be away from my three month old when it's my first birthday with my baby and her first Halloween. It's frustrating to hear her play the pity card about not "being needed". I'm starting to get annoyed with everything she says. Everything is either her giving advice or guessing what my daughter will be like when she grows up ("she's going to be a strong personality!" "She's going to let you know what she wants!" What does this even mean??)

acciocoffee

I just have issues with MIL always wanting to be right in LO's face. I don't mind if she wants to play with her, but I will be sitting there trying to get her to stop crying from being tired and overstimulated and she is right behind me touching her face and talking to her in the most high-pitched voice I have ever heard. I love the woman, but she has no idea how hard it is to take care of a baby anymore. She will find out soon though because I start working on Monday and she is going to be watching her for 5 hours a day 4 days a week!