My introduction (loss mentioned)

WishingOnARainbow15

Hi ladies, I'm Beth, 27. My DH and I have been TTC for five years this past September. Our first year TTC, we took it easy, and didn't try too hard. We ended up getting a BFP the 13th month in. Unfortunately that pregnancy ended in miscarriage. We took a break, and got another BFP less than one year later, but miscarried that baby as well. After our second loss, we decided it was time to see an RE. Since 2013 we have been given clean bills of health by three different RE's. We've had all of the testing, and have heard from every doctor that our infertility is a mystery.

Since then, we've tried many different approaches to getting pregnant- temping, charting, OPK's, pre-seed, vitamins, herbs; you name it, we've tried it. My cycles have remained regular, I'm ovulation when I should be, my labs are all perfect, and DH's swimmers couldn't be in better health. But here we are, unable to get pregnant.

This journey has been the hardest thing we've ever gone through. At times it has brought our marriage to incredible lows. We've "quit" TTC more times than I can count, but we always end up trying again because we want nothing more than a child of our own.

We began saving for our baby fund when this process first started, imagining the money going to our future children's needs, college educations, etc, but the game has changed since then and we are now saving for IUI and possible IVF, if it comes to that. We've been hesitant to start the process because for so long I truly believed we could do this on our own, and it's been heartbreaking learning to accept that it may be one of those things that is just impossible.

I'm excited to join this group and be surrounded by women who have shared similar experiences. There's true comfort in knowing that my husband and I aren't alone in this journey.

misshopeful1

Welcome @WishingOnARainbow15. I am really sorry to hear about your loss and struggles. You sound so brave to continue on toward your goal of becoming a mother. It absolutely is the hardest thing I have been faced with as well. 

I have unexplained infertility as well. We're not sure what the problem is either. 

I'm sorry you're hear but hope you find some good input and comfort. 

WishingOnARainbow15

Thank you @misshopeful1! It's amazing how this journey causes a person to question themselves as a woman, a wife, and as a person- at least that's what it's done to me.

I'm so sorry that you're struggling with unexplained infertility too. At our third opinion RE visit, I was to the point of just hoping they would find something, ANYTHING, so we could make a decision off of actual information. But nope. The closest we got to an answer is that my uterus is a "variation of normal shape" but we were told by all three specialists that it has ZERO to do with our inability to conceive and have a healthy pregnancy.

Thank you for the welcome. It's a catch 22 being here, amazing to have a place for support, but so discouraging that we all have to meet like this. Lots of luck to you in your journey!

misshopeful1

Our diagnosis is infuriating! I felt the same way, hoping something would be found. The not knowing is hard to accept.
I'd like to begin injectables. I need to schedule an RE doc appointment to discuss changing things.
We only want one child and have been conservative thus far. But we've not ever had a close call since being in with RE or before seeking medical care.
My current cycle is annoying me, day 13 and no sign of O which is unusual.

WishingOnARainbow15

When we got married we wanted three kids. Right now we would be happy and blessed to have one. Depending on how this goes, I can't imagine having one and starting this process all over again!!

This past cycle we were super hopeful. I'm to the point where I don't even test anymore. I don't keep pregnancy tests in the house. It's much easier for me to just wake up to AF than it is to see numerous negative tests in the trash can.

Hoping you O soon. It's no joke, our bodies are complex, frustrating creatures. The joys of being a woman

heincm

Hi. Im new as well and share your pain and frustration. Im glad to have found this site and glad you did as well, because as you said, its good to be surrounded by people who understand. You are not alone:)

lablover78

Hello! Welcome, I'm also new and didn't think I would be here. It's more difficult than I could have imagined. Have you thought about acupuncture?

WishingOnARainbow15

lablover78 said:

Hello! Welcome, I'm also new and didn't think I would be here. It's more difficult than I could have imagined. Have you thought about acupuncture?

Actually we have discussed it, but haven't made time to try it out yet. I'm so skeptical about the alternative treatments because we've spent so much on supplements, vitamins, all that crap that is supposed to have such great results, and nothing! But I'd be willing to try anything at this point.

lablover78

I understand! I've been doing it since July and she also prescribes chinese herbs. It is not cheap...but not as expensive as IVF etc would be. I am getting very discouraged at this point, but while at a meditation my acupuncturist was running I was approached by 2 women who wanted to share their stories & both had success with acupuncture (one had tried IVF for 5 yrs without success) so I'm trying to stay positive. Going to try Clomid later this month at her suggestion. Hope you have some good news soon!!