@NachosAndPeaches I agree about miscarriages. Her mc in April was at 14 weeks and her doctors weren't sure why she had on mc. Which again could be anything. However her drinking is a problem she needs to address. She is very much a functioning alcoholic.
I lurk on babycenter sometimes but usually regret it. The number of Ramzi, nub, and is marijuana ok while pregnant discussions are mind numbing. I end up going back for the entertaining threads like "No such thing as TMI."
Ummmmm miscarriages are usually inevitable in the first trimester, most of them are chromosomal. I definitely agree, she needs to cut the drinking. That said I don't think it is a likely culprit that caused a miscarriage.
Is this true?? My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. I went to a holiday party and drank more than normal - before I knew I was pregnant. This whole time I thought my pregnancy ended in a miscarriage because of that night.
Ummmmm miscarriages are usually inevitable in the first trimester, most of them are chromosomal. I definitely agree, she needs to cut the drinking. That said I don't think it is a likely culprit that caused a miscarriage.
Is this true?? My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. I went to a holiday party and drank more than normal - before I knew I was pregnant. This whole time I thought my pregnancy ended in a miscarriage because of that night.
@littlesocks Oh, honey... You definitely did not cause a miscarriage by overindulging at one holiday party. Really and truly. Drinking to excess during pregnancy is definitely bad- but not end-the-pregnancy bad. I have two babies that were born just fine after more than one night of partying before I found out, and I have friends who did as well. First trimester miscarriage is almost always caused by a defect in the baby- not by anything the mother did or didn't do. Please stop beating yourself up about it right now. Edit because auto correct.
I have disowned my BFF yesterday because she announced she is pregnant, due in June but she won't accept she's pregnant until she has had one more drunken night. She is no lightweight by any means. Not to mention we had a girls weekend a two weeks ago and she got so drunk she blacked out. To make matters worse she miscarried in April, but refuses to see that maybe her drinking caused the mc. Nothing I've said in the past has done anything so I give up. I wish 8 could call CPS
It sucks to lose a close friend but it sounds like this had to happen. I'm sure you've tried to reach out to her in the past. When you're a parent (and even during pregnancy) your deal breakers become clarified.I tell people, "prepare to judge and prepare to be judged" because it is inevitable. Friendships will change based on parenting decisions and styles.
I'm so glad I don't lurk babycenter lol. But as the daughter of a radiologist, nub theory is actually true. If you can get a clear shit, it's 80% accurate at 12 weeks!
First BFP 12/2012, MMC at 9 weeks
Second BFP 6/2013, resulted in DS, born 2/23/14 :-)
Third BFP 5/2015, natural MC at 6 weeks
Fourth BFP 8/2015, hoping for sticky little brother or sister to H!
Proud SAHM to our little monkey H.
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My confession is I want to B**** slap my SIL and her husband. We told her we were pregnant and then two weeks later found out they were gonna start trying for a second child as well. What bothers me about this is ever since she had my nephew, four years ago, her and her husband always said they were done. They said one and done, and everybody in the family secretly agreed because ever since they had him they have had serious financial problems. The filed for bankruptcy less than a year after having him. Currently live in an awful house that isn't even theirs, it's his grandparents, and just got approved for house loan plus another $40,000 remodel loan to fix up the house. They used MORE THAN half the $40,000 on debt from passed do bills, credit cards, etc. WTF!!!! What did they spend it on? Because it wasn't their son, the house, or a car. Oh!! AND they bought a brand new motorcycle for him when he doesn't even have a car to get to and from work. They have to share her car, which isn't even paid off yet. That motorcycle will do him zero good in a month when it starts snowing!! Do they really think bringing a second child into that situation is smart? It just irks me soooo bad and I just want to slap them both and say , seriously morons?
I don't understand why you're letting yourself get so worked up over someone else's life. The way that you phrased it (you announced you were pregnant and then found out they were trying) honestly makes it sound like you're kind of jealous that they're going to have a second kid, too. Sorry if I am misjudging, but honestly... relax and enjoy your own life and don't spend so much time worrying about other people's finances!! My BIL and his wife are making some SERIOUSLY poor financial decisions (like hey, getting pregnant after dating for 6 months when she doesn't have health insurance!), and I eye roll about it, but I'm not going to get all worked up over it.
Amanda
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Confessing that the student or teacher who looks at me wrong today will be facing my wrath. I woke up stabby, feeling ultra stabby after I got to work and someone stole my parking spot (on a Friday...where I have been parking since LAST YEAR...who the eff do you think you are taking a spot the same car has been in for over a year?!?), still feeling stabby about the large amount of people I saw breaking traffic laws yesterday.
Here's another confession concerning those crappy drivers...I honk at drivers who are texting and driving and when I get their attention (which sometimes takes a bit because...they're not paying attention anyway...) I make a "phone" with my hand and "slam" it down angrily. DH tells me I need to stop because people are crazy and someone will come after me. But I'm sick of people putting not only my life in danger on the road unnecessarily, but putting my DAUGHTER'S life in danger because their phone is just too important to focus on driving...
Legislation on no texting while driving needs to spread nationwide. It's literally and figuratively taking people's lives. I stop my hubby all the time and now he's gotten better. It's really really dangerous!
It's not that I care about her getting pregnant at the same time as me. In fact before either one of us have started having kids we talked about how we wanted to be pregnant at the same time and go through it together. I would still love to do that too. I just think that after all the financial problems they've had it isn't wise to bring another child into that. You're right when you say it has nothing to do with my pregnancy. And I didn't mean for it to come out that way so I guess I should clarify. I'm worrying about them trying to "keep up"/ or "compete" with us, and I feel that's why they all of a sudden changed their mind after four years. I don't feel like that's a good reason to have a baby especially with their finances being the way they are. They need to do what's right for their family and I feel they are competing instead.
I'm probably going to sound super selfish but I'm over it. So my sister informed me the other day that she wants her dh and 2ds to travel from GA to WI to celebrate thanksgiving with my dh, my in laws and my mom and dad. But I don't want her to come. I enjoy our thanksgiving of just our mini family and this is the last year of it just being that before our lo comes in April. My folks will be traveling down to GA for Christmas and spend that time down there so I just want to be selfish and spend this holiday alone....kid free. My nephews can be a little much 5 and 19months. I should also mention my folks live 5 hours away from us so we don't see them very often, mostly thanksgiving for 3 days and then in spring when then come over for a few days. I just hate how pushy my sister is. She basically told me they were coming and that we were going to do a gender reveling ultrasound so everyone could find out together....hubby and I were fine waiting until December at our 20 week scan. Ahhhh I just hate her that she's so pushy and my mom just lets it happen. I just don't know how to approach her about it.
Totally annoyed that my SIL is planning on having a third baby shower. It's not like this baby is a different sex than the other two or they are spaced so far apart! She has a kid every two years and I will be expected to be there and get a gift. Sorry but I'm not going and I am not sending gift. My future nephew will get a gift when I go visit him in the hospital.
I just hate how pushy my sister is. She basically told me they were coming and that we were going to do a gender reveling ultrasound so everyone could find out together....hubby and I were fine waiting until December at our 20 week scan. Ahhhh I just hate her that she's so pushy and my mom just lets it happen. I just don't know how to approach her about it.
Am i reading this correctly? Your SISTER decided that YOU are doing a gender reveal ultrasound at thanksgiving?? Unless shes planning on paying for it and you actually want to find out at that time with everyone there id tell her no. And frankly id probably tell her anyways that thats not her decision to make and none of her business. Finding out the gender of your baby seems like a fairly personal and intimate time i would only want to enjoy with my DH initially. Sorry about her forcing her way in for the holiday, i kinda had that happen with DHs family on the 4th of july, invited 1 SIL and her H and kids, next thing i knew DHs entire family invited themselves over too, 14 people in a 2 bedroom house for a long weekend really sucked. I suppose you could try telling her you are already stressed enough and having more people around especially with little kids will stress you out more and thats not good during pregnancy. Maybe see if there is some other time you could plan a visit with her without the rest of the family around so she knows that you do care about her too?
Confessing that the student or teacher who looks at me wrong today will be facing my wrath. I woke up stabby, feeling ultra stabby after I got to work and someone stole my parking spot (on a Friday...where I have been parking since LAST YEAR...who the eff do you think you are taking a spot the same car has been in for over a year?!?), still feeling stabby about the large amount of people I saw breaking traffic laws yesterday.
Here's another confession concerning those crappy drivers...I honk at drivers who are texting and driving and when I get their attention (which sometimes takes a bit because...they're not paying attention anyway...) I make a "phone" with my hand and "slam" it down angrily. DH tells me I need to stop because people are crazy and someone will come after me. But I'm sick of people putting not only my life in danger on the road unnecessarily, but putting my DAUGHTER'S life in danger because their phone is just too important to focus on driving...
Oh my gosh, I have so done that!! This lady almost hit me the other day on the freeway because she was texting on her phone. I had my 4 kids in the car with me and I was SO pissed... I beeped and did the phone thing.
I'm probably going to sound super selfish but I'm over it. So my sister informed me the other day that she wants her dh and 2ds to travel from GA to WI to celebrate thanksgiving with my dh, my in laws and my mom and dad. But I don't want her to come. I enjoy our thanksgiving of just our mini family and this is the last year of it just being that before our lo comes in April. My folks will be traveling down to GA for Christmas and spend that time down there so I just want to be selfish and spend this holiday alone....kid free. My nephews can be a little much 5 and 19months. I should also mention my folks live 5 hours away from us so we don't see them very often, mostly thanksgiving for 3 days and then in spring when then come over for a few days. I just hate how pushy my sister is. She basically told me they were coming and that we were going to do a gender reveling ultrasound so everyone could find out together....hubby and I were fine waiting until December at our 20 week scan. Ahhhh I just hate her that she's so pushy and my mom just lets it happen. I just don't know how to approach her about it.
Not just no, HELL NO! Your sister dictates neither your life nor your healthcare. Does she expect to deliver the baby while your H hangs out in the waiting room? I don't think I could politely approach this one..I would tell her to butt the heck out of your business. If you had wanted her or anyone but H at the u/s, you would have asked. If she were welcome in your home for thanksgiving, you would have extended an invitation. Edit:quote fail
Totally annoyed that my SIL is planning on having a third baby shower. It's not like this baby is a different sex than the other two or they are spaced so far apart! She has a kid every two years and I will be expected to be there and get a gift. Sorry but I'm not going and I am not sending gift. My future nephew will get a gift when I go visit him in the hospital.
Agreed @jonesl12 I think in some cases it's ok to have a second, like my friend who is pregnant at 41, 10 years after her first or perhaps a small shower for your second if baby is different sex. Even that I'm iffy on. But three showers?!? To me comes across like you just want gifts and I'm not down with it. Regardless of who it is.
A coworker said to me this afternoon, "You look tired." I said, "Gee, thanks." How come people think this is okay to say to people you're tired looking? What if they're not and you just insulted how they look? Confession: I am tired.
I have had too many people tell me this lately! Why do they think this is alright?!?!? Ugh!
I'm probably going to sound super selfish but I'm over it. So my sister informed me the other day that she wants her dh and 2ds to travel from GA to WI to celebrate thanksgiving with my dh, my in laws and my mom and dad. But I don't want her to come. I enjoy our thanksgiving of just our mini family and this is the last year of it just being that before our lo comes in April. My folks will be traveling down to GA for Christmas and spend that time down there so I just want to be selfish and spend this holiday alone....kid free. My nephews can be a little much 5 and 19months. I should also mention my folks live 5 hours away from us so we don't see them very often, mostly thanksgiving for 3 days and then in spring when then come over for a few days. I just hate how pushy my sister is. She basically told me they were coming and that we were going to do a gender reveling ultrasound so everyone could find out together....hubby and I were fine waiting until December at our 20 week scan. Ahhhh I just hate her that she's so pushy and my mom just lets it happen. I just don't know how to approach her about it.
Why are you letting your sister tell you when you're finding out the sex to your child? Please tell us you're not actually going along with that..
I won't. Like you all have said its a private moment between my husband and I and with this being our first, to me it's really special.
My mom says I need to just keep quiet for now and it will sort itself out but at the same time with them coming from Georgia to Wisconsin it's kind of a big deal. Idk. I just need to be ballsy and just tell her how I feel. But I'm appreciative that I'm not crazy for feeling like this. So thank you ladies.
Ummmmm miscarriages are usually inevitable in the first trimester, most of them are chromosomal. I definitely agree, she needs to cut the drinking. That said I don't think it is a likely culprit that caused a miscarriage.
Is this true?? My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. I went to a holiday party and drank more than normal - before I knew I was pregnant. This whole time I thought my pregnancy ended in a miscarriage because of that night.
Let me just say a "drunk" night for my friend is a 12 pack of beer, at least one bottle of vodka (usually mixed with red bull), a few fish bowls and two packs of cigarettes. She only smokes when she drinks. Obviously she has a drinking problem. I still agree that miscarriages are chromosomal but pregnant or not, or if you suspect you are pregnant, you shouldn't drink like that. I wouldn't survive a night like that, I can only imagine what you just put your baby the size of a lime through.
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My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. I went to a holiday party and drank more than normal - before I knew I was pregnant. This whole time I thought my pregnancy ended in a miscarriage because of that night.
I have two babies that were born just fine after more than one night of partying before I found out, and I have friends who did as well. First trimester miscarriage is almost always caused by a defect in the baby- not by anything the mother did or didn't do. Please stop beating yourself up about it right now.
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I should also mention my folks live 5 hours away from us so we don't see them very often, mostly thanksgiving for 3 days and then in spring when then come over for a few days.
I just hate how pushy my sister is. She basically told me they were coming and that we were going to do a gender reveling ultrasound so everyone could find out together....hubby and I were fine waiting until December at our 20 week scan. Ahhhh I just hate her that she's so pushy and my mom just lets it happen. I just don't know how to approach her about it.
Sorry about her forcing her way in for the holiday, i kinda had that happen with DHs family on the 4th of july, invited 1 SIL and her H and kids, next thing i knew DHs entire family invited themselves over too, 14 people in a 2 bedroom house for a long weekend really sucked.
I suppose you could try telling her you are already stressed enough and having more people around especially with little kids will stress you out more and thats not good during pregnancy. Maybe see if there is some other time you could plan a visit with her without the rest of the family around so she knows that you do care about her too?
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My mom says I need to just keep quiet for now and it will sort itself out but at the same time with them coming from Georgia to Wisconsin it's kind of a big deal. Idk. I just need to be ballsy and just tell her how I feel. But I'm appreciative that I'm not crazy for feeling like this. So thank you ladies.