Annoying things people say...

Karen249

After my daughter was born, I have carried a little extra jiggle in my stomach region so I know I don't have a perfectly flat stomach to begin with. But within the last two weeks, I definitely popped and I feel i finally look obviously pregnant. My normal clothes don't fit and I'm finally sporting maternity clothes. I thought I was getting past the stage of ... oh she looks like she drank too many beers to..,oh, she's pregnant. Until today my stupid coworker says "I didn't know you were pregnant. You don't look pregnant at all. I can't wait to see you with a baby bump." .., ugh so do I just look fat??? Honestly though really any comment is annoying. "Oh wow you look so pregnant" (oh great I'm huge) or "you don't look pregnant at all" (great so you just think I normally look this fat)

Ok. I needed to vent. Sorry I blame hormones.

Anyone else get irritated with other people's comments or is it just me?

moochiecrawford

I'm halfway tomorrow (20 weeks) and everybody looks at me and is like 'you can't really be pregnant!'
This is my first baby, so I am showing later, but it is funny how I feel like everybody at work says hi to me and instantly glances down at my belly to see if there is any change.

TalulaPants

H and I are only having one child. Starting our family at 34 was an unexpected blessing but we are confident in knowing we will have one child. An older woman at work constantly badgers me about having more and my child will be unsocial...blah blah. She needs to mind her own business and leave my uterus alone (

Karen249

I know the feeling. My male boss does exactly the same thing. I don't see him everyday but when I do it's the first thing he looks at. He's so obvious about it too. Lol.

Karen249

I know. So annoying people imposing their opinion on you. Sorry you have to deal with her.

mwmiller4

@karen249 one of my coworkers said almost the same thing (You don't look pregnant yet. When are you due?) yesterday! I'm a FTM and I'm tall with wider hips anyway, so it's not super surprising but I'm wearing maternity clothing mostly and I have a little bump. I looked at her and said, "yeah. I know. I just look fat. That's what most of first pregnancies are, I guess." She looked shocked I said that--maybe she meant it as a compliment? I'm sensitive about putting on weight (and I have--most of my work dresses don't fit and I'm wearing maternity stuff or sized-up clothing) because I lost 70 pounds about 10 years ago and putting on weight is an emotional minefield. Let's all agree to stick to "you look great!" Or "aww! Look at your bump!" Or not saying anything when not directly asked. Grrr!

satuttle1014

I'm 20 weeks now and I have a bump where you can tell but it is my first so I haven't "popped" everyone doesn't think I'm as far along because supposedly you have to look massive right away. Ugh sorry you have to listen to those comments, I'm sure you look great so try and shrug it off. You are definitely not alone in hearing these comments.

oxsarah7ox

@karen249 I have definitely noticed that people who have felt bad not knowing I was pregnant will say that they didn't know because I didn't look pregnant. I clearly have quite a bump. I think sometimes people say it as just a conversation piece to give an excuse to not really paying attention or knowing someone was pregnant. I am sure you look ADORABLE!

I honestly hate hearing comments from everyone with "wait until after the baby, you think your uncomfortable now..." or comments about clothes and what Ill never wear again or look like again. Let me go through the process, if my body is crazy after so be it but you don't have to be rude about it!

wisco29

@Karen249 my aunt said the exact same thing to me. I've popped but had a little kangaroo pouch since dd... I definitely look pregnant now but she said I don't really.

But then later I was talking about something and how I've lost weight since and she said "yah you look thinner"
So my face looks thinner but my stomach just looks like a weirdly shaped fat blob apparently.

surferP528

I hate when people who are moms make comments about how your life is over or will essentially be ruined after a kid. "oh enjoy peeing alone now" as if that's the best part of my day or something. No pregnant woman wants to hear how terrible their life will be after a kid. helloooo!

DaisyTortilla

Yeah. My friend from college saw that I was pregnant in the earlier stages, and she ran to touch my stomach only to say "oh it's not hard yet!" Yeah this was at the grocery store in front of tons of people.

Lola2o1

The "wow your getting so big" stings also.

trishkev07

Or when they tell me how "you'll never sleep again!"  While I understand that's a part of having a newborn I'd rather think of the positive aspects than you very much! 

DrillSergeantCat

I was at a wedding reception last weekend in a lodge with these big fluffy chairs. I was sitting in one and because of the angle of the seat, my bump was out to the point that I could put my drink on it. So I put my drink on it, giggled, took a picture and put it on Facebook. A "friend" of mine suggested I might be having twins. If this were a man or a teen, I could pass it off as ignorance. However, it's a woman with two children of her own and I sat and forced myself not to cry. 

People are jerks when it comes to pregnant women.

DaisyTortilla

DrillSergeantCat said:

I was at a wedding reception last weekend in a lodge with these big fluffy chairs. I was sitting in one and because of the angle of the seat, my bump was out to the point that I could put my drink on it. So I put my drink on it, giggled, took a picture and put it on Facebook. A "friend" of mine suggested I might be having twins. If this were a man or a teen, I could pass it off as ignorance. However, it's a woman with two children of her own and I sat and forced myself not to cry. 

People are jerks when it comes to pregnant women.

I always get that with every pregnancy! I hate it!

wisco29

surferP528 said:

I hate when people who are moms make comments about how your life is over or will essentially be ruined after a kid. "oh enjoy peeing alone now" as if that's the best part of my day or something. No pregnant woman wants to hear how terrible their life will be after a kid. helloooo!

Seriously!! I remember posting about watching some movie at home with h when I was pregnant with dd. Someone commented saying we better enjoy it. We were at home! We still watch movies while we are home... Your life doesn't end when you have a child it just changes a little.

DrillSergeantCat

DaisyTortilla said:

I always get that with every pregnancy! I hate it!

The funny thing is, from the front and back I barely look pregnant, it's only from the side that it's really out there. I don't know why people feel it's okay to say anything about anyone's body. You wouldn't go up to an overweight person and say, "Wow, looks like you're putting on some more weight there." Grr. This topic makes me feel stabby.

DaisyTortilla

DrillSergeantCat said:

DaisyTortilla said:

I always get that with every pregnancy! I hate it!

The funny thing is, from the front and back I barely look pregnant, it's only from the side that it's really out there. I don't know why people feel it's okay to say anything about anyone's body. You wouldn't go up to an overweight person and say, "Wow, looks like you're putting on some more weight there." Grr. This topic makes me feel stabby.

I am the exact same way, you can't tell unless it's from my side. It makes me very stabby too! I got it a lot from family, my family is "thin crazed!", but I also got it from strangers and at church! My mom was to the point where, when we would come over she would make food for everyone but me. She's say, "oh I thought I made enough..." But I know what it was really about.

DrillSergeantCat

DaisyTortilla said:

I am the exact same way, you can't tell unless it's from my side. It makes me very stabby too! I got it a lot from family, my family is "thin crazed!", but I also got it from strangers and at church! My mom was to the point where, when we would come over she would make food for everyone but me. She's say, "oh I thought I made enough..." But I know what it was really about.

That really upsets me for you! That's just horrible. 

TheBeesBonnett

I have pain in the arse people touching my stomach, and lots of how not very big my belly is comments. I think by far the stupidest thing people ask me is if I take my prenatal vitamins. This is like the first thing out of so many people's mouths. I don't have the heart to be cruel about it, but I would love to look at them all confused and pretend like I have never heard of such practices.

Wurrkingurrl

People really need to just learn to keep their mouths shut!!!

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Wurrkingurrl said:

People really need to just learn to keep their mouths shut!!!

And their hands to themselves! What is it about pregnancy that makes people lose all common sense?!

Shatzegirl

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Wurrkingurrl said:

People really need to just learn to keep their mouths shut!!!

And their hands to themselves! What is it about pregnancy that makes people lose all common sense?!

Seriously it's like it flies right out the window!!

funkypineapple

The first person who touched my stomach was a friend of mine a few weeks ago and I told her "that's just my fat. He's a lot lower than that."

I'm not showing even a little bit so if anyone tries touching me, then they better buy me dinner first because little man isn't where their aiming

Shatzegirl

My MIL is the queen of saying stupid stuff. With my last pregnancy, she asked my husband if I was getting fat, yet.

And then, the day after I delivered my DS, she said,"Don't you hate it when people fit right back into their pre-pregnancy jeans after giving birth?" I ignored her and she said it again! I just awkwardly laughed and said yeah. But inside I was thinking, Thanks for bringing it to my attention that I'm still huge. Ugh. I'm on guard this time around and am not going to respond to her rude remarks as politely.

My SILs (her daughters) say dumb stuff, too. One said, "If my baby were as small as Jonah, I'd have a natural birth too." She seemed to think pushing was the only thing that hurt. (She doesn't have kids) I told her it wasn't pushing him out that hurt, it was my cervix dilating from the size of a cheerio to the size of a bagel that hurt.

My other SIL said she was disappointed we weren't having twins. Umm, one is enough for me thanks! And let's just be happy for the one I do have and that she's healthy. And when we found out we were having a girl she asked if we were excited. I jokingly said no lol!

middy411

I get annoyed when I keep hearing "oh I'm not showing much yet because I'm a first time mom"... Ummmm I'm a FTM and I popped super early and have been huge since 17 weeks. While I actually like being big since it's all belly, it is already uncomfortable and I hate how I keep hearing people say that as if every woman has the exact same experience of not showing til really late in the pregnancy. You're small because that's how you carry... End of story. I'm carrying a watermelon! :-O

Shatzegirl

This one chick said, "Isn't it funny how people have a baby who's the opposite size of them?" She had been saying her baby was big so she thought of herself as small. I had mentioned my son was small. So she pretty much said I was big. Nice huh?

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middy411 said:

I get annoyed when I keep hearing "oh I'm not showing much yet because I'm a first time mom"... Ummmm I'm a FTM and I popped super early and have been huge since 17 weeks. While I actually like being big since it's all belly, it is already uncomfortable and I hate how I keep hearing people say that as if every woman has the exact same experience of not showing til really late in the pregnancy. You're small because that's how you carry... End of story. I'm carrying a watermelon! :-O

(FTM as well) I've had the opposite problem. "Let me see the baby bump" uh you mean my dinner bump? had someone ask me if I'm sure I'm actually taking care of the baby , uh yes. She's a head of schedule and at our anatomy scan when I was 19 weeks she weighed 11 oz. basically every pregnant woman I know was showing by now. I only show after meals

thisusername

I also really hate when people ask when I start "glowing" and stop looking tired. 4 people have asked that. FOUR.
Well ladies and, ladies, since no man was dumb enough to say that, I will happily take the acne and the bags under my eyes as long as my child is healthy. Luckily the thought of raising my daughter from jail keeps me from stabbing people.

camusoh2011

All of my coworkers know that we're having twins. I have been getting so many comments lately about how I'm too small to be having twins and so on. I've always carried smaller with all my pregnancies. 

staciemat89

People just always feel they can comment on everything when your pregnant. Oh your having a ... Well no actually I don't know what sex I'm having. And people saying aw I bet you want a girl now cause you have a boy

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staciemat89 said:

People just always feel they can comment on everything when your pregnant. Oh your having a ... Well no actually I don't know what sex I'm having. And people saying aw I bet you want a girl now cause you have a boy

Or you just want a healthy child because that's all that matters!
Also Still jealous of the people who can be team green. So freaking awesome! I have no patience and very little will power.

Karen249

staciemat89 said:

People just always feel they can comment on everything when your pregnant. Oh your having a ... Well no actually I don't know what sex I'm having. And people saying aw I bet you want a girl now cause you have a boy

That bugs me too. I already have a daughter so everyone keeps saying I bet you're hoping for a boy. Actually no. Just healthy! A boy would be great but a sister for my daughter would be awesome too.

bizzerbee

middy411 said:

I get annoyed when I keep hearing "oh I'm not showing much yet because I'm a first time mom"... Ummmm I'm a FTM and I popped super early and have been huge since 17 weeks. While I actually like being big since it's all belly, it is already uncomfortable and I hate how I keep hearing people say that as if every woman has the exact same experience of not showing til really late in the pregnancy. You're small because that's how you carry... End of story. I'm carrying a watermelon! :-O

Me too!!!! I am a FTM and I am huge! Ppl keep asking if I am having twins!

camusoh2011

bizzerbee said:

I get annoyed when I keep hearing "oh I'm not showing much yet because I'm a first time mom"... Ummmm I'm a FTM and I popped super early and have been huge since 17 weeks. While I actually like being big since it's all belly, it is already uncomfortable and I hate how I keep hearing people say that as if every woman has the exact same experience of not showing til really late in the pregnancy. You're small because that's how you carry... End of story. I'm carrying a watermelon! :-O

Me too!!!! I am a FTM and I am huge! Ppl keep asking if I am having twins!

That reminds me of another one. Another 5th grade teacher in our building found out she's pregnant. This will be her third pregnancy, third child. Well now that everyone knows we are having twins and that she's expecting too there are all sorts of comments made about how she better make sure it's not twins or she's awefully big already, must be having twins. I'm sure it's frustrating for her too, but the twin warning comments just make me irritated. Having two babies is not a curse people. We're excited about it. Stop making it out to be the worse thing in the world that could happen to someone!

ChitownHusker

I'm annoyed by the requests for bump pics. I haven't gone FB official yet but I don't plan on posting a ton of bump pics anyway. My aunt texted me today like "Oh let me see you pregnant!" Um, how about calling the next time you're in town instead? Ugh. I still sent a pic because I don't know...dumb. Such a weird f$&king thing to ask someone!!

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ChitownHusker said:

I'm annoyed by the requests for bump pics. I haven't gone FB official yet but I don't plan on posting a ton of bump pics anyway. My aunt texted me today like "Oh let me see you pregnant!" Um, how about calling the next time you're in town instead? Ugh. I still sent a pic because I don't know...dumb. Such a weird f$&king thing to ask someone!!

Yes!!! I have NO bump, unless I eat a lot, and that's just food. My friend wouldn't leave me alone so I over ate and sent her a fake picture. Her response "wow you're so fat!"

mizz_tee08@yahoo.com

H and I found out we were having a boy about 3 weeks ago. For some reason my mom and others were so sure it was going to be a girl. Not only was she extremely disappointed but now every time I see her she says "watch what I tell you, it's going to be a girl". Ummmmmmm... what medical school did you attend again?

Also... I get so tired of people asking "are you big yet?" "Have you blown up yet?" "Oh don't worry when it happens you're gonna be huge". Umm... thanks guys. (Fyi: pre-pregnancy I was a little on the thicker side so at 19 weeks I'm still not really showing).

Also... I hate uninvited name suggestions. Even before I became pregnant we knew our first son would be a Jr. Even though we have told people our son's name they still shoot out suggestions. It's offensive to my husband and even if we didn't have a name we don't want your help... goodness!

Whew. Felt good to let that out. Lol

JacquelynOchsner

Oh my gosh! I am so over people telling me "oh you don't even look pregnant!" Thanks for what you think is a compliment but since I was small to begin with and I no longer fit into any of my pants I'm obviously fatter than before!! I actually called my friend who had her baby last year to apologize for saying that very thing to her (I'm pretty sure I said that she was still so small for being x months but still I know that's wrong now)

suteki325

Yup. I would have to agree with PPs that by far the most frequent, and annoying, thing that I hear is "You're barely showing! You don't even look pregnant!" I'm a FTM at 22 weeks and my bump is still pretty small, but I think it's because I'm a taller girl with a long torso. It makes me so sad to hear people say that, because I want so badly for people to be able to look at me and say "Oh, she's pregnant!"

Another annoying one I get is the ad nauseam "How are you feeling? Tired? Any morning sickness?" over and over again, usually from the same exact people (a few co-workers are the biggest offenders of this).

Slagathor1

This is my first pregnancy, (20 weeks) and I was completely caught off guard by the amount of people that lack verbal and physical boundaries towards someone who is in such a vulnerable position (tummy sticking out ). I've started letting people know not to touch me once I see their eyes scanning the belly. Also, the comments about everything personal. If I don't know you that well why would you ask? Why do you need to know all this? If really gets to me