@Kbchavez23 so sorry you are going through this. I can relate although the situation is a little different. Basically they kept the girl on who covered my maternity leave & I now feel like I am job sharing even though I am fully capable of handling the patient load myself. I am a licensed clinical social worker & have my master's in social work as well & this girl just graduated with her bachelors in social work. She's not legally allowed to do my job without someone with my degree supervising her. So I've got to supervise her doing my job yet I'm still not her boss. I've worked for 8 years & lots of school to get to this point so it's really been tough for me. Also I love my job. I work in hospice with primarily the elderly (truly my passion) & this girl just randomly fell into this work. She had NO experience & actually wanted to work with children. My boss is a nurse & just seems to think a social worker is a social worker but there is a huge difference in the level of training, education & experience we have. It's so frustrating & just overall I'm feeling not appreciated or respected at all. I expected to come back to my same job like I'm sure you did. I don't have any help from HR either because it's a small company & everyone just does what my boss says anyway. There's more to the story but you get the picture. Wasn't leaving LO supposed to be the hard part about returning to work?!
I'm also pretty consistently inconsistent. I drink lots of water during the day, snack on almonds yet my supply decreases throughout the day. I pump one side before LO wakes up and I usually get 4-5 oz. I get decent amount at my first morning pump at work, but the remaining two decrease to 3 and 2 oz. I don't get the science of it at all.
^^ same. I usually get 4-5 Oz around 10am, 2-3 Oz around 1pm, and 3-4oz around 4pm. I send 14oz to daycare everyday, so this means I need to pump couple times at home as well.
Does anyone's LO eat MORE when away from them? My mom watches LO and we've gone over paced bottle feeding and she knows how hard I work to keep supply up so I trust she's doing everything possible before giving a bottle but...today LO ate 20 oz between drop off at 8am and pick up at 6pm. He ate at 10:30pm the previous night and 5:30am this morning, then he was sleeping til I put him in his car seat to bring him over. Then 20 oz. I can only usually pump 15-18 oz while I'm gone so I've been adding an extra MOTN pump.
But...I thought he was supposed to reverse cycle. Or not eat more than 1-1.5 oz per hour I'm gone. He's basically not napping more than 20 min at a time and eating every 2 hours. His weight gain has been normal, 2lbs/month so far and ped said not to add cereal to bottles. Just don't know if there's anything else I can do about this, it's really stressing me out.
Does anyone's LO eat MORE when away from them? My mom watches LO and we've gone over paced bottle feeding and she knows how hard I work to keep supply up so I trust she's doing everything possible before giving a bottle but...today LO ate 20 oz between drop off at 8am and pick up at 6pm. He ate at 10:30pm the previous night and 5:30am this morning, then he was sleeping til I put him in his car seat to bring him over. Then 20 oz. I can only usually pump 15-18 oz while I'm gone so I've been adding an extra MOTN pump.
But...I thought he was supposed to reverse cycle. Or not eat more than 1-1.5 oz per hour I'm gone. He's basically not napping more than 20 min at a time and eating every 2 hours. His weight gain has been normal, 2lbs/month so far and ped said not to add cereal to bottles. Just don't know if there's anything else I can do about this, it's really stressing me out.
LO will regularly eat 20+ oz between 5am and 5pm (and then nurse twice before bed). But since she eats so much during the day she often sleeps 10-11 hours at night without eating. So I am cool with it.
Generally she will down 8-10 oz in the first few hours after waking up...I assume because she hasn't eaten in so long and is famished. She tends to cluster feedings in the morning and late afternoon/early evening and eat less in the middle of the day.
Does anyone's LO eat MORE when away from them? My mom watches LO and we've gone over paced bottle feeding and she knows how hard I work to keep supply up so I trust she's doing everything possible before giving a bottle but...today LO ate 20 oz between drop off at 8am and pick up at 6pm. He ate at 10:30pm the previous night and 5:30am this morning, then he was sleeping til I put him in his car seat to bring him over. Then 20 oz. I can only usually pump 15-18 oz while I'm gone so I've been adding an extra MOTN pump.
But...I thought he was supposed to reverse cycle. Or not eat more than 1-1.5 oz per hour I'm gone. He's basically not napping more than 20 min at a time and eating every 2 hours. His weight gain has been normal, 2lbs/month so far and ped said not to add cereal to bottles. Just don't know if there's anything else I can do about this, it's really stressing me out.
Yes, LO eats 20+oz between 7:30a - 5p. I feed him at 7, right before I leave, he feeds 3 times before bed and about two MOTN feeds.
Seems like a lot to me, but he's had slow weight gain, so we don't discourage it. The only thing that bothers me a little is that he seems to spit up more during the week then on weekends. (When he still nurses about 10 times/day, so about the same frequency.)
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Married in 2006, TTC #1 since Jan 2012
Baby Boy born June 1, 2015
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Talked to a lawyer, since she didn't lower my Pay or hours I am not entitled to any compensation. But I can still file a claim and she will probably get fired. My best bet is to try and find something else.
@Kbchavez23 so sorry! I hate how it seems like we're being punished for just having babies. Really crappy that your boss hired her friend for the job too. I don't know about you but I really liked my job but I'm looking for something new too. I feel like once you've been slighted it's kind of hard to just go back to the way things were. Good luck to you!
@Kbchavez23 so sorry! I hate how it seems like we're being punished for just having babies. Really crappy that your boss hired her friend for the job too. I don't know about you but I really liked my job but I'm looking for something new too. I feel like once you've been slighted it's kind of hard to just go back to the way things were. Good luck to you!
I liked what I did, but not my boss. She had it in for me since I told her I was pregnant. She made my life hell! Good luck to you too!
@Kbchavez23 good for you for speaking with a lawyer. The lesser person in me sees the bit about her getting fired and wishes you could at the very least let her know she was thisclose... But I'm glad there are bigger people like you in the world. Wishing you all the luck!
Just wanted to say you ladies are amazing! I returned to work today and I'm feeling both totally out of practice and like i've never left. I was able to work from home today but monday will restart my commuting and normal routine. Totally dreading the 3 hours a day ill spend commuting. Looking forward to ranting about this again.
Today completed my first week of work (from home, half time). I didn't actually work as hard as I maybe should have, but I worked smart. I had a call with my boss today, and we are both pretty pleased with what I've accomplished this week.
I used to manage a team of 3. Now I'm not managing anyone, and working from home. I was worried about the transition, but it's awesome. It doesn't matter when I work or how many hours I put in - just matters that I accomplish a few key things. And managing staff was hard - I have so much more time to get things done, and don't get so worked up over petty things.
Totally the honeymoon phase, but loving this new role way more than I thought I would!
@Kbchavez23 that's shitty, you're pretty classy, I'd get her fired
I am thinking about it. Just don't know if I want to spend my energy on that.
This is not necessarily encouraging you to do that. I love your attitude. However, someone told me this a few years ago, and it helped me get over my guilt for getting someone fired:
If someone is doing a crappy job, there is always someone else out there without a job, who would love the opportunity to do better. Letting an incompetent or ineffective person stay in their job just means keeping a better person from having that job.
@virginiaunicorn11 That's great they are letting you to do that. I hate managing people & that's partially why I'm so annoyed I have to supervise someone with no experience & not the right education to do work I'm perfectly capable of doing myself. I can try to teach her but 1 hour a week with me is not going to cover what is taught in two years graduate school. Ah oh well.
I've moved up my date to go back full time. I'm at 35 hr/week now. I'm not thrilled but I can't stand hearing DH bitch about how poor we are. I get it. Two kids in daycare is costing us $500/week. It just sucks. We couldn't afford 3 kids if we wanted to.
^^ same, DH likes to joke with people that it costs more to send LO to daycare than it was for us to go to undergrad (although it's not a joke and actually true )
^^^ This is why my husband doesn't work (or works retail 8-10 hours a week). Daycare in our area would be over $700 a week for a baby and 3 year old. Nope.
^^^ This is why my husband doesn't work (or works retail 8-10 hours a week). Daycare in our area would be over $700 a week for a baby and 3 year old. Nope.
Ouch. When you break it down by hour for us, it's like $7/hr/kid, which is nothing. But when daycare is more than a mortgage, it does make you pause. I feel so bad for the families with twins. At least DS is a little cheaper now. The infants are the most expensive.
Ours is $1000 a month, which in the greater Boston area, is unheard of. We found her through a referral and she's... ahem... not licensed. But we are comfortable with her, at least for now. Most other "in-homes" are $1200-$1500 and full centers start at like $1800/month. It's freaking crazy.
LO goes 2 days a week and it's over $500 a month. It's crazy. And it's basically a bottom of the barrel center. It's not unsafe but not my first choice.
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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We live 20 miles outside of Charlotte NC. We lived downtown until April when we finished renovations on a house on the lake. Centers near the city are about $275-300/week. We take LO to a 5-star center 2 miles from our house for $185/week. It's amazing.
Do I love that my commute used to be a 10 minute walk and is now a 30-45 minute drive, and that I have to pay over $100/month for parking? Not really. But we have lake front property and relatively inexpensive daycare, thank god.
We live 20 miles outside of Charlotte NC. We lived downtown until April when we finished renovations on a house on the lake. Centers near the city are about $275-300/week. We take LO to a 5-star center 2 miles from our house for $185/week. It's amazing.
Do I love that my commute used to be a 10 minute walk and is now a 30-45 minute drive, and that I have to pay over $100/month for parking? Not really. But we have lake front property and relatively inexpensive daycare, thank god.
Oh yeah same here! If I was in Boston proper, it would be over $2k a month! We bought pretty far out, my commute sucks, but we have almost and acre of property and daycare is... Not impossible.
My LO is taking the job of building her immunity up with daycare germs very seriously. Pickup #2 for low grade fever and day #7393747273838 of this cold :-w
My first day back to the commute and I feel almost guilty for how much i loved having an hour on the train to just veg out on my phone or stare out the window. I know the novelty will wear off and i'll absolutely hate it soon but for today, it was glorious! Now i'm just hoping i'll make it home with enough time to cuddle my girl for a little while before she's off to bed.
@monmaswizz I'm 8 weeks back to work and nope, the novelty of the commuter train ride has not worn off! It's my alone time I just need to figure out how to nap on the train and I'd be golden.
@hoodoll82 lol spoken like a true momma! I agree if i could sleep, my hour train ride would be HEAVEN. for now ill just settle for being able to read and listen to music haha
Question for you ladies. I've had friends tell me their daycares have requested them to send more milk. Day 2 of daycare (my mom watched her for the first month at work) and they're already asking for an extra ounce at each feed. Is it just a daycare thing? My kid will eat 8 oz if I let her.
I'm on call and only got 3 hrs of sleep after my night shift last night........ But I am keeping LO home with me until the very last minute if I get called in and have a friend lined up to drop him with if needed. He went to DH aunts today and came home with a deep scratch on his head...... I know STMs are prob laughing at my worry but It's my first baby and also I feel she should of at least "addressed it" She doesn't have a dog or kids...wtf.
Question for you ladies. I've had friends tell me their daycares have requested them to send more milk. Day 2 of daycare (my mom watched her for the first month at work) and they're already asking for an extra ounce at each feed. Is it just a daycare thing? My kid will eat 8 oz if I let her.
Mine's the opposite - we send more than she feeds her and we're trying to find a tactful way to say "please forcefeed the baby because the doc says she needs to eat more".
@klkonwi LO came home from daycare last week with a 2 inch scratch on her upper thigh, in a roll close to her vagina. How does that even happen when it's not exposed?
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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I've been back now for 2 months and every day I miss being with lo! I went back to my old L&D job for not even 3 weeks and could not handle the nights, and couldn't take the pay cut to go to days so I transferred and am now working as an infusion nurse for a visiting nurse agency! I thought I would miss L&D but the only thing I miss is my coworkers! I have a lot of flexibility in my day now and generally only work out of the home 4-5 hours of my 8 hr day! I love having weekends and holidays off too and surprisingly the money is better! I still wish I could be home full time but at least I'm happier and feel like a normal person again working days!
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But...I thought he was supposed to reverse cycle. Or not eat more than 1-1.5 oz per hour I'm gone. He's basically not napping more than 20 min at a time and eating every 2 hours. His weight gain has been normal, 2lbs/month so far and ped said not to add cereal to bottles. Just don't know if there's anything else I can do about this, it's really stressing me out.
Generally she will down 8-10 oz in the first few hours after waking up...I assume because she hasn't eaten in so long and is famished. She tends to cluster feedings in the morning and late afternoon/early evening and eat less in the middle of the day.
Pay or hours I am not entitled to any compensation. But I can still file a claim and she will probably get fired. My best bet is to try and find something else.
Today completed my first week of work (from home, half time). I didn't actually work as hard as I maybe should have, but I worked smart. I had a call with my boss today, and we are both pretty pleased with what I've accomplished this week.
I used to manage a team of 3. Now I'm not managing anyone, and working from home. I was worried about the transition, but it's awesome. It doesn't matter when I work or how many hours I put in - just matters that I accomplish a few key things. And managing staff was hard - I have so much more time to get things done, and don't get so worked up over petty things.
Totally the honeymoon phase, but loving this new role way more than I thought I would!
If someone is doing a crappy job, there is always someone else out there without a job, who would love the opportunity to do better. Letting an incompetent or ineffective person stay in their job just means keeping a better person from having that job.
(Not always 100% true, but sometimes.)
Do I love that my commute used to be a 10 minute walk and is now a 30-45 minute drive, and that I have to pay over $100/month for parking? Not really. But we have lake front property and relatively inexpensive daycare, thank god.
Poor baby!
He went to DH aunts today and came home with a deep scratch on his head......
I know STMs are prob laughing at my worry but It's my first baby and also I feel she should of at least "addressed it"
She doesn't have a dog or kids...wtf.