Is anyone else afraid to have sex now that they are pregnant?

coralredstone

Im 5 weeks 4 days. I had a MC in July at 5 weeks 1 day. Husband and I had sex the night before MC started. Doctor said in no way could the MC be due to sexual relations. However this time around, I found out at 3 weeks that I was pregnant and have been nervous to carry on with sexual relations in fear something may happen and forever blaming myself. Anyone else feel this way?

VikingGirl12

Once I'm KU, he ain't coming near until second trimester. And then he starts to get weird about it. He tried last night and I turned him straight down. Nope nope nope.

jerseybroadwaybaby

Nope I don't hold back

satcher08

As a general rule I don't avoid it. However, I had some light spotting today and because I am paranoid as crap we will probably hold off on relations for a few days. 

FutureMrsCAF

It's totally safe but I'm totally not interested. I'm soooo tired and my pelvis is sore, it just doesn't sound fun to me. Especially without my old pal Cabernet.

RNMegan0711

My husband was doing some googling himself yesterday and texted me during the day saying that we shouldn't be having sex until I'm safely out of my first trimester. I couldn't believe that A. He would agree to this and B. That it wouldn't be safe to continue having sex during pregnancy? I asked him what kind of research he found and he said that a woman's orgasms cause contractions....which, does make sense...but man is this going to be a long couple more months!

NicknShan

I have no fear.  Plus I want to increase my chances for twins so we will still have sex.

At least that what my husband says it's his excuse (and yes - we just kid about it).

redheadbride15

Haha, no fear at all. Sex doesn't cause miscarriages. Period. Now whether I'll be in the _mood_ is another question altogether...

WinniethePoohsPants

Only a little.  But only because with my 1st pregnancy I was diagnosed with placenta previa and couldn't have sex until my 2nd trimester.

candicek15

I'm with @redheadbride15 on both counts!

JennandBaby

RNMegan0711 said:

My husband was doing some googling himself yesterday and texted me during the day saying that we shouldn't be having sex until I'm safely out of my first trimester. I couldn't believe that A. He would agree to this and B. That it wouldn't be safe to continue having sex during pregnancy? I asked him what kind of research he found and he said that a woman's orgasms cause contractions....which, does make sense...but man is this going to be a long couple more months!

That is definitely not true.  At least not the kind that cause a baby to come out!

I have never worried about it at all.  Even when I was a week overdue sex didn't make anything happen.  Sadly.

RNMegan0711

JennandBaby said:

RNMegan0711 said:

My husband was doing some googling himself yesterday and texted me during the day saying that we shouldn't be having sex until I'm safely out of my first trimester. I couldn't believe that A. He would agree to this and B. That it wouldn't be safe to continue having sex during pregnancy? I asked him what kind of research he found and he said that a woman's orgasms cause contractions....which, does make sense...but man is this going to be a long couple more months!

That is definitely not true.  At least not the kind that cause a baby to come out!

I have never worried about it at all.  Even when I was a week overdue sex didn't make anything happen.  Sadly.

I'm glad to hear that....I'm definitely afraid to do anything that would jeopardize this baby but I don't think I could go another at least eight weeks without sex with my husband. I don't really think that would be healthy to do either, relationship wise? He sent me the link of where he got the information...but I never checked it out. I guess I could have also always called my OB and confirmed but I'm sure they would tell me the same thing you all have been saying, that it's ludicrous. Thanks!

runnindownthedream

No fear here. Also zero interest.

sthomas1222

I LOVE LOVE LOVE pregnancy sex. While I can understand your hesitation there is absolutely no way sex contributed to your miscarriage.

khochanadel

We did an FET so our rules are a little different and are probably just overly cautious, but after what we went through to get baby to 4 weeks, I'm not taking any chances! We were told to abstain until they can detect fetal heartbeat, which for us will be around 6 weeks, so it's not too bad

mrsp2213

Zero sex drive sadly.  Total opposite of 4 weeks ago when we were in the FW.  We did do it 2 days ago with him on top and I won't do that again.  It wasn't painful, just uncomfortable because I just feel sore in my pelvic area from the on and off cramping.  Told him I would make up for it with really good BJ's. 

GB11

I would if I was in the mood... Ever. I'm just so tried and nauseated that I'm just not interested.

That said, I'm so exhausted from our 11 tried that I'm kind of happy to have a break

mahliac

Not even interested. I feel bleh

NicknShan

Not afraid... Just not interested.

CourtJack

FutureMrsCAF said:

It's totally safe but I'm totally not interested. I'm soooo tired and my pelvis is sore, it just doesn't sound fun to me. Especially without my old pal Cabernet.

This times a thousand. Wine is my foreplay.

VeraMali

Pregnancy sex is the BEST! (before you get huge anyway) It's just getting up the energy to want to is the problem lol.

alsbaldwin

No fear, but zero drive over here. I just finished BFing a month ago, and I was so ready to have a sex drive again. Ha- MS did away with that. I am so excited for sex after the 1st trimester though- ohmyword, that was the best sex of my life last time. 

adiaz132003

Don't even wanna think about it. I feel too much like crap to get it on!

cjt121413

Nervous and not interested. Which is great because apparently knocking me up turns DH on. He's been begging.

aloha5736

Me! I want too, buI we did it one time and I was so nervous it wasn't enjoyable lol

manhattanmummy

My cramping is so annoying the idea of having sex is a definite no. Though I am wishing I was more in the mood. Hoping another couple weeks I will feel better. 

mkemommy

No fear and I'll all about it despite nausea.  Guess I'm in the minority....its a fun minority though... ya'll come join.  

emucoleman

Not nervous, and it would be sooo hard to wait until second tri! It was hard enough to wait the six weeks after I had my first baby, and I felt a lot worse then than I do now. 

sorarose

I'm reluctant because I was either so sick last pregnancy or I had low-lying placenta until around 34 weeks. I'm also scared to bleed (I'm Rh-negative) and afraid it will exacerbate my anxiety.

hgsurvivor

I've had the flu all week and DH is out of the country so hasn't been an issue. Either way I'm the one that initiates it 90% of the time - DH is not normal, haha - so I'm sure if I abstain for whatever reason he won't notice hahaha. Usually I'm the one begging. As it was he kept saying I was using him every month during FW, because I kept insisting on ED.

I don't think I'm afraid though. Everything I've read says it's safe.
Right now with the flu, cramps and bloating - yeah no.

Call your OB though. He/She will have the expert answer to reassure you one way or another.

mrsp2213

Part fear, part zero sex drive.  Bless my husband because I am a disaster on all accounts.

vampbride99

I am a bit fearful about it, so I will wait until I have reached my second trimester for sex.

B2FlyGirl

I'm on progesterone supplements and DH read about semen affecting the effectiveness of it, so we've tried but hasn't been the same as BDing. DH is definitely turned on by pregnant body

longhurrdontcurr

LOL nah.... I have no fear of the ol trouser snake!

cattlebride

Sex does not cause miscarriage, most of the time it's chromosonal abnormalities and there is nothing that can be done unfortunately. Unless your doctor states its unsafe for some reason like infection placenta previa etc.

Lurk and use the search function. There is alot of great information from previous bmbs

sparkleberries

Afraid? No. Interested? No....

lm45678

sparkleberries said:

Afraid? No. Interested? No....

^^This

I'm no afraid but I'm SO tired at the end of the day, and mornings are a no go because I work so early.

As @FutureMrsCAF said, no wine doesn't help!

My husband is turned on by me being pregnant too @cjt121413! I seriously don't understand what is sexy about a hungry, tired woman in sweats. But hey, I'll count my blessings!

agillespie15

Yes, I'm totally with you!!!! I'm TERRIFIED of hurting or losing this baby that I don't want to do it at all!!!!! I tend to over think things anyway. I'm also scared to strain hard when I poop. So stupid. But I totally understand what you're thinking. It freaks me out too!!!

rn77209

I feel totally ok with having sex, H on the other is so against it. He is worried something will happen and also kind of freaked out by the thought. Boys :P We go to the dr a week from tomorrow for our first appt, so I am definitely bringing up that question so he can hear that it is totally fine! There is no way I can go 9 months!!! He couldn't either when it came down to it I'm sure, but he's holding strong now! Lol

HighFive16

sparkleberries said:

Afraid? No. Interested? No....

As attractive as my bloated belly would be to my H all I want is  I-) I-) I-) Looking forward to the 2nd trimester when my good hormones take over 

malgal85

I was a little reluctant due to a miscarriage close after sex last time. My OB assured me they weren't related, so I definitely will not be holding off! 9 months is far too long!

Very excited for all of you girls saying 2nd trimester sex is amazing! Something to look forward to after all this EXHAUSTION!!!