Pregnant and Fear

mrservin16

So I'm sure most of you have been through pregnancies before. I think my biggest fear now is if I had lost my child. I've had 2 miscarriages before so I'm really praying this time is a successful pregnancy. My husband is very supportive as he should be however I still think about the idea in the back of my head. What can I do to stop thinking the worst? I'm doing what I should being pregnant and I'm not putting too much stress on myself.

yogahh

There is nothing you can do to prevent a miscarriage. Try not to worry too much. I know easier said than done! I just done googling "missed miscarriage symptoms" so I know how you feel. Try to remember you are pregnant today!

call+it+magic

I am sorry about losses!
It's normal to feel scared, buT as your pregnancy progresses you will start to feel more confident.
There isn't really anything we can do to improve our chances. We can just hope for the best and try not to stress ( I know, easier said than done).
I am also super scared, I even check for bleeding every time I go to the bathroom.

LadySamLady

Managing fear of MC is one of my greatest challenges too, particularly MMC. I do my best to acknowledge the fear when it hits so that I can move on, for me denial just makes it worse. I've wholeheartedly adopted the mantra of 'one day at a time' and try to appreciate every day that I'm pregnant. My next appt can't come soon enough, it's not until 10/13 when I'll have my nuchal translucency scan, I'm excited but also fearful. I just want to know that everything is OK. I am really grateful for this BMB, it helps to know there are other women going through the same thing that I am.

Also, I figure the worry is good training for motherhood - it's not like we'll stop worrying about our LO's for a loooooong time, if ever, right?

kns1988

I agree with everything the previous PPs said. I've always had anxiety, but it was under control before I got pregnant. I'm constantly worried that I'm going to miscarry - I'm checking for signs of it, I'm googling all the symptoms, and I think about it multiple times a day. I'm trying really hard not to worry about it so much, though, because there really is nothing I can do. I'm just trying to take it one day at a time and enjoy being pregnant each day that I am. 

Miscarriages are nature's way of ending non-viable pregnancies, so if it does happen, it was meant to. I know that's not a wonderful thing to think about, but it helps me a little bit.

seasalt123

I echo everyone on the obsession with miscarriage. I think it comes from being online too much. I'm more terrified of a MMC than a regular miscarriage. The preoccupation with it, even though I rationally know it's unlikely, has made me not really enjoy this pregnancy. It's made worse by the fact that my scan is not until 12 weeks. I find it somewhat inhuman that women are supposed to wait that long to find out whether or not something so devastating has happened to them. 

My rational brain can tell you this: Remember, if the chance of a mmc is 1- 5% (I'm roughly making that number up but it's something comparably small), that's a tiny percentage. It means it probably won't happen to you. If someone told you that you are 95 - 99% likely to win the lottery, you'd already be planning your mansion and yacht purchases instead of worrying about the chance that you wouldn't win. However, it DOES mean, that on a board with 1000s of women, and threads dating back 7 or 8 years, that means you are going to have hundreds and hundreds of posters talking about how it happened to them. It makes it seem far more likely than it is.